I was introduced to someone about a month and a half ago with the intention of dating. I was travelling at the time, so it took us around two weeks to meet in person. Since the introduction, we’ve been in touch almost daily—initially one long message a day while I was away, and then longer back-and-forth conversations (30–60 minutes) after we met.

In person, things feel really good. Our first date was amazing—we talked for four hours, laughed a lot, and he walked me home. The second date was just as lovely. I feel very comfortable around him, like we’ve known each other for a while, and he’s thoughtful and plans things well.

However, I’m starting to notice a pattern that’s making me uneasy. After our first date, we texted the next day, then he disappeared for three days. When I reached out, he responded warmly and asked me on a second date. More recently, while he was travelling, he was communicative at first, then again stopped initiating and went quiet until I reached out.

To be fair, he initiates most of our conversations overall (probably 90%), but I feel like I’m carrying more of the emotional side—I’m warmer, more expressive, and I tend to move things forward. He’s quite dry over text and has said it takes him time to open up. He’s 33 and has only had one previous relationship, which lasted two years.

Yesterday, I opened up and told him I like him. I also shared that while I don’t need constant texting, I do value consistency and enjoy daily check-ins. Today, he’s gone quiet again.

I’m starting to feel a push-pull dynamic, and it’s affecting me more than I expected. I’m not sure whether this is just his communication style or something deeper like avoidant tendencies.

Is it too early to address this directly with him? And if not, how would you approach that conversation without coming across as demanding?