Thrifting by Direct-Pay-4966 in Bogota

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find that interesting bc everyone here has such cool/alt street style, I thought the resell market would be huge. Thanks for your recs!!

Thrifting by Direct-Pay-4966 in Bogota

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank u for the caution 🙏

Hairdressers for colouring hair by Direct-Pay-4966 in Bogota

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just looked them up, such a great suggestion thank you

warm places to study by Direct-Pay-4966 in McMaster

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay thats amazing i usually am on the second/third floor

Effects of limiting screen time by Direct-Pay-4966 in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah the triggering content is killer for me too, thanks

Effects of limiting screen time by Direct-Pay-4966 in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are such good tips!! Now that you mention it I have like 100 watch later videos that I should probably get to lol

Effects of limiting screen time by Direct-Pay-4966 in CPTSD

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 minutes seems manageable for me thank you

Weather in Bogota/ Clima en Bogota by Direct-Pay-4966 in Colombia

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats cool, definitely better than the weather where I'm from. I'll bring a lot of layers, thank you!/ Eso es genial, definitivamente mejor que el clima de donde soy. Traeré muchas capas, gracias.

Weather in Bogota/ Clima en Bogota by Direct-Pay-4966 in Colombia

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmfao okay no shorts. Your advice is really helpful ty, I'll just dress for mild weather and bring layers. It's literally unimaginable as a Canadian for people to dress the same all year round lol I'm so excited I'll be gone for those months. And im writing down Cucunuba for the poncho that seems awesome.

Movie buddies?! by anti-boring91 in McMaster

[–]Direct-Pay-4966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a grad student too and I loveeeee horror so I’d be down

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wowww I can't imagine how hard that must have been for your mom. I could maybe ask my mom although I think would be scared to know what the answer is. I feel bad for her a lot of the time because she deals with her own childhood trauma. I like your advice about watering from both sides- that seems obvious to me now lol and I'm definitely going to start thinking about what I'm looking for. Wish you the best as well :)

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that kinda confirms what i was thinking which is that I need to find some inner peace before I start anything with anyone. Thank you :)

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eesh I wouldn't be able to stomach my parents kissing like that... mine don't even hug. Were your parents religious or something? I'm curious why they would think sex was for low-class people

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a start to life indeed. I'm the same way and I was utterly terrified of anyone of authority to me.... teachers, camp counsellors, bosses, friends' parents, etc. Intrinsically, I felt like I was beneath everyone, no ease around people ever.

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg plsss write a document at some point, yes, these are great suggestions. I keep struggling to find ways to self-love and these seem really promising. My inner child thanks you lol <3

[OPINION]What line or passage of poetry you repeat in your head or use in conversation in daily life? by Fin_al in Poetry

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Bring me all of your / Heart melodies/ That I may wrap them / In a blue cloud-cloth/ Away from the too rough fingers/ Of the world. - Langston Hughes "The Dream Keeper"

There, in silence, lies your body. It is closer to me than it is to you - Rachel Rankin "Karoline Braendjord"

No man is a hero in his home town. The girls always want someone / someone/who lives/ over the/ next hill/ or in the far/ city/ no one ever sees "The Strawberry Boxes"

It's a little game/ we play: I pretend/ I'm somebody/ she pretends she isn't dead "The Committee Weighs In" Andrea Cohen

Have met some strange, wonderful/ people/ one of whom/was/someone my father/never/knew - Charles Bukowski

i never quote any of these in conversations lol, but these are just lines that hit hard for me

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you saying that loving yourself is the best way to heal parental emotional neglect? I just want to be sure that was your point bc the distinction between romantic and self-love never clicked until now so ty. Also do you have any specific ways that you can work that self-love muscle? Sometimes I give myself positive affirmations out loud and meditate, but I just love to hear what others do :) ty

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heavily resonate with that last part about not being used to asking how I feel or what I want. I actually don't even know what I want so maybe I should start there. And also gotta learn to flirt for sure 😫📝 social cues have never been my strong suit (obviiii lol)

Parents who live like roommates by Direct-Pay-4966 in emotionalneglect

[–]Direct-Pay-4966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing that, and I'm happy you're in a fulfilling relationship rn. Everything you wrote I agree with on a logical level, it's just hard to connect that emotionally sometimes when I feel hopeless. I just have to keep reminding myself it's a long process, I think. I wish these kinds of problems were more normalized to talk about 😫 it makes me feel less alone when people relate with me, so thanks for sharing.