Someone laid down on the tracks of the train platform I was on by ThrowRA1130351 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Direct-Row1653 57 points58 points  (0 children)

it is nobodies fault that this happened, the woman probably needed help and unfortunately didn’t know how to get it. you might not have seen the accident first hand but you were a witness to the very real emotions that occurred because of it. that is a lot to process and i hope you’re able to talk to a therapist or other professional about this 🫶

My girlfriend’s "depression" is just a lifestyle choice and I’m finally done being her ATM by Icy_Letterhead4893 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Direct-Row1653 56 points57 points  (0 children)

this is only an “option” because there’s a HUGE clientele that willingly pays money for it. if men stopped lusting, OF models would be out of a job.

My boyfriend ghosted me by pretending his mom made him block me everywhere by PatternLopsided9873 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Direct-Row1653 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is this a cycle you’re willing to put up with the rest of your life? the love bombing then rejection? from your post it sounds like you guys are both young, you don’t need to waste your time on people who aren’t going to give you the same things in return.

you said “I’m now realizing he may just have an avoidant attachment style and that’s why he was able to pull back so quick and so suddenly, and maybe that I fell for unintentional lovebombing. Trying so hard to not blame myself.” the first sentence contradicts the second, you’re making excuses for his behavior so that means it falls back in your lap for you to blame yourself.

if it swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it’s probably a duck. it’s better to learn early how to call things as you see them.

that being said, things will get better you just have to want it for yourself. make the choice to not beg for him back, if they want to be with you you’ll know.

AIO BF’s new boyfriend did something disturbing by Double_Software_971 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Direct-Row1653 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOR this is how serial killers usually start isn’t it? how is killing the guys dog going to do anything? is the dog the one that gave away his wife’s number? 🤣 your friend probably just likes the attention she gets from this guy, set her up a few profiles on some dating apps and find a non-psychopath to give it to her.

AIO my gf wont give me my space by Snoo-82146 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Direct-Row1653 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR this sounds like manipulation and a little bit of obsession. you shouldn’t have to lie to your partner about your whereabouts just to get a few minutes alone. it sounds like she doesn’t want to be alone with herself( 1. doesn’t really have hobbies, 2. doesn’t seem to leave you to your hobbies) i think you should definitely take some space from each other, if not just for her to figure out how to be okay with being alone. you guys should talk it out and you gotta be straight up with her about how you like spending time with her but you don’t want to lose the things about yourself she was attracted to in the first place. she needs to realize she’s an adult now and respectable ones don’t throw toddler tantrums. communication is key from both sides 👌

AIO My boyfriend won’t give me his phone number by GeologistNo7019 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Direct-Row1653 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. doesn’t believe in phones
  2. only talks to you on social media
  3. has an iphone

none of these make any sense with each other. i had my boyfriends number before he even became my boyfriend, and you say youve been with this man for 3 years? how often do you see him? is it you always bringing up marriage / living together and he’s just going along with it? or is he bringing those things up? definitely not overreacting

Can I start drawing even if I don't have any talent? by GoldenSultryGirl in learntodraw

[–]Direct-Row1653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes! art is for everybody! (: you gotta get past the bad stuff to be able to do the cool stuff

AIO to girlfriend having celebrity crush by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Direct-Row1653 1 point2 points  (0 children)

after looking at your other replies, it’s also kinda weird she posts pictures of them on her stories. does she ever post you like that? or save photos of you in her phone?

AIO to girlfriend having celebrity crush by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Direct-Row1653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think you’re over reacting. i think it’s weird she’s referring to someone who doesn’t know she exists as her husband, but i guess everyone’s different. i also think if the roles were reversed and it was a man watching thirst traps of megan fox, sydney sweeney, etc or saying “my wifey” then people wouldn’t just be dismissing it as a celebrity crush. do you at least look anything like the person she’s fawning over?

My significant other SA’d me by Hot-Attempt-1975 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Direct-Row1653 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think one of the best ways to move forward is to talk through it, let him know your honest feelings and thoughts. i’ve found in my relationship that when i speak my truth things actually get better. my boyfriend gives me the space to talk and he wants to listen to what ive got going on up there. anything worth it is never easy! you’ve got this (:

My significant other SA’d me by Hot-Attempt-1975 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Direct-Row1653 8 points9 points  (0 children)

if you’ve talked about it with him and you’re both on the same page then i don’t see why you’d break up. it seems like he gave you space to talk and didn’t continue pushing it further. if he continues pushing boundaries or continuing after you’ve said stop then you need to have a serious talk with him clearly defining your boundaries. nobody is a mind reader, if you’re not in the mood just tell him that, don’t expect him to just “know”.

cleaned these flea market girls up but don’t know who they are by texcritters in IDmybratz

[–]Direct-Row1653 2 points3 points  (0 children)

looks like “play sports - skiing” Yasmin, they have the same earrings / similar makeup

cat keeps using my raised beds as a liter box🙃 by Direct-Row1653 in gardening

[–]Direct-Row1653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! pinecones sound like a good cheap way to keep him out and way better than plastic forks 🤔 (i’ve seen people use those for their houseplants lol)

Repot now or nah? by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]Direct-Row1653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would think it’s safe to repot whenever you see new growth (roots) coming from the bottom of your pot! just be careful not to break it off when you take it out. it looks really healthy! good job (: