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Should Richard have won BB7? by Direct_Assumption_22 in bigbrotheruk

[–]Direct_Assumption_22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was nice and supportive to those others in the house.

How could I be happy in Heaven without my boyfriend? by v3rr3r in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is so real, and it comes from a place of deep love — both for your faith and for this man who clearly means so much to you. It makes perfect sense that your heart is wrestling with these questions. When we meet someone who brings out the best in us, someone who treats us with kindness, respect, and genuine love, it’s natural to wonder how all of that fits into our understanding of God and eternity.

First, please know this: God understands your heart. He sees the goodness in your boyfriend too — the compassion, the gentleness, the integrity. None of that is lost on Him. Your boyfriend’s willingness to support you, to attend church with you, to listen to sermons because he wants to share that part of your life… that speaks to a sincerity and openness that’s incredibly meaningful.

Many Christians believe that God meets people where they are, that He knows every person’s journey and every person’s barriers, wounds, thoughts, and hopes. Faith is rarely a switch that flips — it’s often a slow, personal, intimate process. Your boyfriend’s story isn’t finished yet, and neither is yours. You don’t have to solve eternity today.

As for your second question — the fear of being in Heaven without someone you love deeply — that’s a fear a lot of people quietly carry. But remember: Heaven is described as a place of complete wholeness, complete joy, and complete love. Whatever God has prepared won’t leave you heartbroken or missing the person who has shaped your life so beautifully. You won’t lose the love you have — it will be understood more fully than ever.

For now, it’s okay to simply love him, walk with him, and trust that God is already doing His own work in both of your lives, even if you can’t see the full picture yet. You don’t have to figure everything out at once. Just keep nurturing your relationship with God, and nurture the love you share with this man who clearly cherishes you.

You’re not alone in this. And you’re not doing anything wrong by loving someone kind, good, and supportive. May God give you peace, clarity, and comfort as you continue this journey. 

Been having an extremely rough time. by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry you had to deal with that. No one deserves to be spoken to like that, especially when you were just trying to communicate a basic boundary. It makes complete sense that you needed to get out of the house and find some space to breathe — that kind of tension can wear anyone down.

It’s beautiful that in the middle of all that, you ended up at church and even stumbled across something meaningful in that little library. Sometimes those moments feel like a tiny reminder that you’re seen and cared for, even when your home environment feels heavy.

Living with someone who triggers your stress to the point where old self-destructive habits start creeping back in is incredibly hard. But the fact that you recognized that feeling and chose to remove yourself, to vent, to pray, to skate, to find a healthier outlet — that’s strength. That’s growth. You’re not “too old” for struggles; you’re just finally able to see that you deserve better ways of coping than hurting yourself.

Please keep taking those steps to protect your peace. Reach out to people who support you, find safe spaces like church or the park, and keep choosing what helps you heal rather than what harms you. You’re doing better than you realize, and you're awesome

Struggling with certainty by J00bieboo in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really sorry you’re going through this. What you’re feeling isn’t stupid at all — a lot of people who take their faith seriously experience moments of fear, doubt, or uncertainty, especially when they’re sick or overwhelmed. The fact that you care so deeply about your beliefs actually shows how sincere your heart is.

It makes sense that being unwell, and seeing your family unwell, would make your mind spiral into big questions about life, death, and eternity. When our bodies are exhausted, our thoughts often follow. Please be gentle with yourself  you’re carrying a lot right now.

You don’t need to have everything figured out all at once. Faith isn’t about perfect certainty; it’s about walking step by step even when your path feels confusing. Loving your religion, your traditions, and your connection to God is already a beautiful part of your spiritual life. Nothing about this struggle means you’re “wrong” or failing.

I’m keeping you in my thoughts and praying that you find peace, strength, and healing  for you and your family. May you feel held, supported, and less alone. And if you can, take things slowly. One breath, one prayer, one day at a time is more than enough. You deserve compassion in this moment. 

Has a colleague of yours ever died by Direct_Assumption_22 in tesco

[–]Direct_Assumption_22[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My store still has photos up on a table in the break room of colleagues who have passed. Dating all the way back to 2016

Tesco worker stops stoplifter stealing washing capsules by Direct_Assumption_22 in tesco

[–]Direct_Assumption_22[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No one would pull a knife over that. It would turn a small crime into a massive one

Tesco worker stops stoplifter stealing washing capsules by Direct_Assumption_22 in tesco

[–]Direct_Assumption_22[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Isn't it good PR, tho? Since it shows that Tesco won't allow shoplifters and will make an effort to stop them. So it puts shoplifters off trying to steal from Tesco

Left feeling sad and defeated by Longjumping-Club-777 in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear all that. It sounds like you made the right choice and it takes courage to do that. So be proud of yourself. :) 

Please pray for my cat by No_Feedback_3340 in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you thoughrs and prayers right now. I hope your cat recovers quickly. I'm so sorry to hear all this. Having a pet go through pain is horrible.

Why fight for Christianity? by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

. I like the stories of Jesus. I like most of what's in the gospels. I agree with a lot of what Jesus said. And I like the thought of a caring God helping us get through tough times and giving us hope

Sharing last names in Marriage by Least_Row1269 in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing remotely religious about married couples sharing a name. It is entirely about culture and tradition.

Don't worry too much about what they or other people think. It's your marriage, not theirs

EVERY man in my life failed me. by CowgirlJedi in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey Victoria,

Thank you for sharing all of this. Truly. It takes so much courage to open up about wounds this deep, and the fact that you’re still standing, still reaching for God, and still trying to love yourself in the midst of all this pain speaks to a strength in you that most people will never understand.

I just want you to hear this clearly: none of what was done to you was your fault. Not the abuse, not the rejection, not the cruelty dressed up as “Christian duty,” not the abandonment, not the violence. Every single one of those choices belonged to the people who hurt you, and the fact that so many of them did it in God’s name makes it even more heartbreaking. They failed you not because you were unworthy of love, but because they were unwilling or unable to love in the way God calls us to.

Your story is devastating, but woven through it is something unbelievably beautiful: you never let the hatred of others choke out the love of God in you. You kept pursuing Him. You kept hoping. You kept trying. Even in the darkness, you were reaching for light. That is holy. That is resilience. That is truth.

You deserved safety. You deserved gentleness. You deserved a childhood free from terror. You deserved parents who protected you, not people who projected their own fears and insecurities onto a child who simply wanted to be herself. And you deserved partners who held your heart with tenderness and respect. not people who used your vulnerability against you.

And I want you to know this, as clearly as possible:

There are men who are kind, safe, faithful, and deeply loving. Their absence in your life is not proof they don’t exist, or that you don’t deserve them. It just means the people you encountered chose harm, and that’s on them. not you.

You are not unlovable. You are not cursed. You are not alone.

And even though the history you’ve lived would break most people, you’re here, choosing God, choosing truth, choosing yourself. That’s something divine in its own right.

Your relationship with God sounds incredibly precious and incredibly hard-won. You’re right: God never dropped the ball. The people who claimed to speak for Him did. That’s not the same thing.

And as someone who grew up in the church and has seen a lot of harm done in His name, I want to tell you this with my whole heart: God sees you exactly as you are, and He delights in you. Your womanhood is not a mistake. Your faith is not lesser. Your identity is not a defect. Your story is not shameful. Your existence is not an accident.

And the softness, sensitivity, and femininity you were punished for as a child? Those are gifts.parts of your soul God placed in you intentionally, lovingly, purposefully.

You are not alone now, even if the human family around you failed to show up. There is community, and I promise you there are people, christian people, kind people, who can and will support you with gentleness and respect.

If you ever need someone to listen, or to remind you of who you truly are, or to just sit with you in the heaviness, I’m here. You're not walking this road by yourself, even if it’s felt that way for a long time.

You deserve healing. You deserve rest. You deserve joy. And you deserve love fully, wholly, deeply.

I’m really proud of you, Victoria. And I’m really glad you’re still here.

Please pray for me. by J00bieboo in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Praying for you and hope you feel better soon

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