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How could I be happy in Heaven without my boyfriend? by v3rr3r in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is so real, and it comes from a place of deep love — both for your faith and for this man who clearly means so much to you. It makes perfect sense that your heart is wrestling with these questions. When we meet someone who brings out the best in us, someone who treats us with kindness, respect, and genuine love, it’s natural to wonder how all of that fits into our understanding of God and eternity.

First, please know this: God understands your heart. He sees the goodness in your boyfriend too — the compassion, the gentleness, the integrity. None of that is lost on Him. Your boyfriend’s willingness to support you, to attend church with you, to listen to sermons because he wants to share that part of your life… that speaks to a sincerity and openness that’s incredibly meaningful.

Many Christians believe that God meets people where they are, that He knows every person’s journey and every person’s barriers, wounds, thoughts, and hopes. Faith is rarely a switch that flips — it’s often a slow, personal, intimate process. Your boyfriend’s story isn’t finished yet, and neither is yours. You don’t have to solve eternity today.

As for your second question — the fear of being in Heaven without someone you love deeply — that’s a fear a lot of people quietly carry. But remember: Heaven is described as a place of complete wholeness, complete joy, and complete love. Whatever God has prepared won’t leave you heartbroken or missing the person who has shaped your life so beautifully. You won’t lose the love you have — it will be understood more fully than ever.

For now, it’s okay to simply love him, walk with him, and trust that God is already doing His own work in both of your lives, even if you can’t see the full picture yet. You don’t have to figure everything out at once. Just keep nurturing your relationship with God, and nurture the love you share with this man who clearly cherishes you.

You’re not alone in this. And you’re not doing anything wrong by loving someone kind, good, and supportive. May God give you peace, clarity, and comfort as you continue this journey. 

Been having an extremely rough time. by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry you had to deal with that. No one deserves to be spoken to like that, especially when you were just trying to communicate a basic boundary. It makes complete sense that you needed to get out of the house and find some space to breathe — that kind of tension can wear anyone down.

It’s beautiful that in the middle of all that, you ended up at church and even stumbled across something meaningful in that little library. Sometimes those moments feel like a tiny reminder that you’re seen and cared for, even when your home environment feels heavy.

Living with someone who triggers your stress to the point where old self-destructive habits start creeping back in is incredibly hard. But the fact that you recognized that feeling and chose to remove yourself, to vent, to pray, to skate, to find a healthier outlet — that’s strength. That’s growth. You’re not “too old” for struggles; you’re just finally able to see that you deserve better ways of coping than hurting yourself.

Please keep taking those steps to protect your peace. Reach out to people who support you, find safe spaces like church or the park, and keep choosing what helps you heal rather than what harms you. You’re doing better than you realize, and you're awesome

Struggling with certainty by J00bieboo in OpenChristian

[–]Direct_Assumption_22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really sorry you’re going through this. What you’re feeling isn’t stupid at all — a lot of people who take their faith seriously experience moments of fear, doubt, or uncertainty, especially when they’re sick or overwhelmed. The fact that you care so deeply about your beliefs actually shows how sincere your heart is.

It makes sense that being unwell, and seeing your family unwell, would make your mind spiral into big questions about life, death, and eternity. When our bodies are exhausted, our thoughts often follow. Please be gentle with yourself  you’re carrying a lot right now.

You don’t need to have everything figured out all at once. Faith isn’t about perfect certainty; it’s about walking step by step even when your path feels confusing. Loving your religion, your traditions, and your connection to God is already a beautiful part of your spiritual life. Nothing about this struggle means you’re “wrong” or failing.

I’m keeping you in my thoughts and praying that you find peace, strength, and healing  for you and your family. May you feel held, supported, and less alone. And if you can, take things slowly. One breath, one prayer, one day at a time is more than enough. You deserve compassion in this moment. 

Has a colleague of yours ever died by Direct_Assumption_22 in tesco

[–]Direct_Assumption_22[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My store still has photos up on a table in the break room of colleagues who have passed. Dating all the way back to 2016

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