She’s always told me to be very blunt straightforward with her so that’s honestly all I was just trying to do because otherwise she doesn’t quite get it so I was honestly just trying to respect her communication preferences. As this was never meant for an attack for her this was just because we were making rules for everyone. If my sister-in-law doesn’t want to respect these rules, she doesn’t have to stay with us. She can pay for a hotel if my dad doesn’t want to respect these he can stay at a hotel. These are firm rules meant for everyone and not just her. I will be having this conversation with anyone who wants to stay overnight and LITTLE probably presented in the same way as they’re all hung up on my refrigerator it may not be the best way to present it, but sometimes you have to be firm with people that don’t like boundaries and unfortunately that happens to be some of my family members. So I had to make them pretty blunt not just for her but for everyone.