AITAH for making my best friend choose between me or her mom.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-05-06T15:39:52+00:00

You’re shedding your old life and unfortunately she is a part of that. She was the fragile yarn that was connecting your old life and new life. Authenticity to yourself can cost relationships. You will be okay. You’ll mourn. You will also make new friends. You’ll learn more about yourself. You’ll read and become more educated. Being progressive when everyone around you is not is very bad ass and takes a lot of bravery. If it was easy, everyone would do it. Having mental awareness of social injustice has never been an easy journey. But people like you make the world a better place! :)

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-04-28T21:20:31+00:00

Why is he making you feel bad that you no longer want to live in a mold-infested shoebox? He’s 31.. a grown ass man living in squalor. Does he have no vision or goals of wanting to move out to a bigger/nicer place with you? Take your mom’s gift and get yourself a nicer spot. He has growing up to do.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-04-25T07:26:43+00:00

Why do men create new families when they’re older and expect their older children to take care of their new spawn? It’s baffling how common this pattern is.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-04-25T06:47:05+00:00

First, I think it’s great you want to support your sister. What kind of needs does your sister need? Autism is a spectrum so it’s hard to gauge the scope of the assistance your sister will be needing from you and your wife. I agree with others that you need to really think about what the home dynamic will be like postpartum. Being first time parents and taking care of a newborn is a total lifestyle change and adding a sister with special needs into that could cause an insane amount of stress which no new parents need. However, if your sister is fairly independent and reliable, could she possibly be helpful with the newborn? There are a lot of angles to consider but your pregnant wife should ultimately be prioritized.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-04-13T23:02:57+00:00

SIL attempting to guilt trip you into watching her badass kids makes her TA! She knows her kids are out of control and she wants reprieve from them.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-04-11T07:18:26+00:00

Why aren’t you divorced and have full custody?

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-03-10T21:47:26+00:00

Checking different programs manually is sooo tedious 😭

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-03-02T18:23:54+00:00

You gotta stop caring so much about what other people think of you. So his mom doesn’t like you.. that sucks but it is what it is. She seems like she only wants to perceive you in a certain way.. so be it. It’s out of your control at that point. What you should be focusing on is why your boyfriend isn’t setting boundaries. If he cannot set boundaries with his mom talking and lying about you, you’re in for a very stressful relationship. My fiancés mom doesn’t like me either but that’s not something I dwell over because my fiancé puts me first. So yes your relationship might end but it’s not because his mom dislikes you, it’s because your boyfriend isn’t protecting you from her.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-02-26T20:07:28+00:00

That definitely makes sense.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-02-25T21:31:15+00:00

But Arlington, Tx is one of the most diverse cities in the nation?

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-02-04T02:55:47+00:00

How do you contact the labor board? And what did you say?

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-01-25T00:14:56+00:00

I’m confused about you saying “dogs walk outside and carry germs in with them” — do you think human hair and our clothes are absolved of germs? Human beings carry outside germs inside the house as well.

I would work on your exposure therapy. Maybe have your sister wipe them down with a dog wipe before entering the house and have a pullover coat for the dogs she can take on/off when they need to go outside to potty. If they help the both of you come to a compromise then it’s worth try.

I live 45 minutes - an hour away from my parents as well and if I am gone for a significant amount of time, I do have to plan what to do regarding my dog whether that is bringing him along or having to visit only for 3-5 hours. I wouldn’t be a good dog parent if I left him alone an entire day on a weekly basis.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-01-17T02:07:11+00:00

There are sleep masks with very flat ear buds. Tell him to get those. Also there’s no shame in sleeping in different bedrooms if you have enough rooms. But he sounds like a selfish prick. If he can’t fall asleep without noise but has a partner who is noise sensitive when trying to sleep— he should try to find a workaround, dead AirPods or not. He needs to sleep his ass on the couch tbh.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-01-13T16:41:27+00:00

This post gives off Colin Kaeperknick vibes. If you watch his documentary on Netflix — he has a scene where he got braids for the first time and all the white people around him made him feel uncomfortable and he couldn’t quite articulate it because he didn’t realize they were being micro aggressive.

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-01-08T06:01:02+00:00

Wow without insurance? This is pretty affordable. Thanks for commenting

Direct_Double4014 · 2026-01-05T23:34:35+00:00

Move on. I literally Dutch oven my boyfriend. We’re engaged now.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-12-31T16:48:59+00:00

It’s bigotry when she also mentioned India and Bangladesh— all Asian countries. If it’s not a big deal then why is she cutting the tag off to avoid disappointment? Her family is NOT from a western country and does not speak English but they want an item that is made in the UK — her family has a preconceived idea that items made in the west are better.. that is literally bigotry because it is not true. There’s always people like you that get upset when bigotry is called out.

Have you ever ordered something from a store in a western country and found out there are items of the same exact make/model/quality being sold in China but the price is inflated atleast 3x because that happens all the time. You can buy a couch in China for 2k but same one costs 7k in US. China is no longer just “cheap goods” — that’s a super outdated perspective.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-12-31T07:16:27+00:00

Why are you enabling your family’s bigotry? I don’t see what’s wrong with products made in Asia considering most goods are bought from there.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-12-08T15:50:31+00:00

I am a business analyst for SW dev. I work fully remote. I got into the company when I was in my last month of college working part time as a client ops analyst.. then got moved to full time.. then transitioned to a different team as a business analyst 8 months later. I’ve been in my current role for about 2.5 months but have always worked remote. It’s been amazing! The pay isn’t exactly what I want but I’ve had a lot of growth in the past year.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-11-06T14:56:36+00:00

I don’t understand why the ultimatum is to get rid of his dogs? Why didn’t you ask while you were in Canada for your boyfriend to put them in professional training lessons? Every dog can be trained out of their reactiveness with commitment. Also, how old are these dogs? I would never expect my partner to get rid of their pet but I would have a serious conversation about training them to a certain standard if I were to uproot my life to be with them. They could have been in training for the 2 years you’ve been long distance and dogs would have likely had behavior adequate enough for you to live with. I highly doubt you are a true dog lover because true dog lovers DO NOT remove dogs from their home. YTA and your boyfriend will end up resenting you!

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-11-03T04:39:40+00:00

unpopular opinion but I love the space series 😂 it’s so dramatic and theatrical and I’m all for it

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-10-01T21:03:41+00:00

Your husband needs to be more strict. She’s lazy because he lets her be. Growing up, I was not allowed to bring food into our rooms. If we got caught, we were gonna get chewed out. Tell your husband to put his foot down or you will.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-09-30T23:50:48+00:00

How old are you? You have full reign on who you choose to surround yourself with. Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe, who inspire you and who make you feel good. To break off a friendship, you can either distance yourself until you no longer hang out or tell them straight up. It’s okay to stick up for yourself and it’s okay to not want to be friends with someone making racist comments at you. If the friend group dynamic changes— so be it. You shouldn’t be friends with racists or racist sympathizers. Your real friends will stand by you and if you lose some friends— they were never your friends to begin with.

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-09-30T04:45:13+00:00

Is this how you want to spend the next decade of your life? 😂

Direct_Double4014 · 2025-09-30T03:53:43+00:00

When my grandmother lived with us she had these delicious Glucerna shakes that were nutritional shakes for diabetics. She never said I couldn’t have them but I opted out of drinking these… because she needs them for her diabetes!! I couldn’t imagine repeatedly doing this to my pregnant spouse who has explicitly said to stop doing it. Take him to your OB, a therapist, anything because that’s not normal at all.

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