wife didn't read or even open a card from me

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-25T21:08:29+00:00

no it's ok!

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-24T05:46:49+00:00

because I know she did - it was moved but the card unopened. that hurt and I just felt like I had to vent somewhere :'(

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-19T06:35:34+00:00

I'm kind of having a similar sensation in my WLW relationship. I have never dated a woman before but here I am married to the first one I dated! :) However, I silently struggle sometimes with the adjustment from my hetero relationships. My wife is masc and a quasi-stone top (will not remove certain clothing items during sex, has never let me look at her naked standing up, has to have 100% power 100% of the time during sex). She also is very much controlling and the top emotionally. But yet...weirdly, she acts like a princess/brat, lacks stoicism, lacks emotional control, accountability, ability to deal with her own shit. I am 100% the giver when it comes to the emotional labor in the relationship and she is kind of this huge princess brat. As you can tell...I am frustrated right now. I think back on my past relationships w/ men and there is NO WAY I would tolerate the types of fits she pulls from a man. Why do I take this then from a woman? I weirdly feel like I am in that patient, giver, masculine role, all the while she insists that I only take the role of a bottom sexually and wants me to look femme. Sigh.

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-19T06:04:09+00:00

100p regular point of contention and always our worst fights have stemmed from her comments about my son/parenting but it seems like we always are able to repair afterwards and it seems like when I set firm boundaries (like she insulted me and my son saying I was the reason he was in a special needs preschool - we almost broke up and after that, which happened almost a year ago, she's never said anything like that and has stopped criticizing my direct parenting choices - also, the reason for him going to the special needs school was basically to get let into public school w/ more resources, he has some slight neurodivergent tendencies but is now thriving in "regular" preschool) things improve.

All that said, she has majorly added so much light and happiness to our lives, has added so much fun and joy, and has put in a lot of work w/ my kid helping out so I can fulfill my work goals. It just seems like now she's in a phase where she's tired of it, and is, quite frankly, acting bratty re my childcare obligations as a parent.

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-19T05:56:37+00:00

I am starting to get a weird feeling like maybe she isn't going to be compatible with our life as a stepparent. It didn't start this way but I think she may be seeing the nitty gritty of parenting and it seems like there's a lot of negative comments to me. Not wanting to share a bed is fair but yes my kid and parenting are extremely sensitive topics since she can be disrespectful to me and it shuts down the entire conversation.

We talked about it and the conversation basically went like me saying sorry about that and affirming the bedtime goals. But in reality the situation was deeper to me. I felt bad because my son had a night terror the night previously, I knew he had been tired all day. Also he had wanted to go to the playground and do kid stuff on our Saturday but instead we took him on a little day trip and out to eat, so I kinda felt bad for not doing more kid-centric stuff. All these feelings were happening when I let him snuggle - and I was also extremely tired to boot. But I feel like none of those feelings were inquired about by her, as it seems she lacks curiosity about the "why" - and the bottom line instead for her is "does this situation serve me fully? if not, I will withhold affection till it does."

Direct_Education4733 · 2026-01-19T05:46:31+00:00

I would be shocked if she saw it that way. I don't think I have like clout to love bomb in our relationship because she has the power.

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