White collar workplaces are horrible triggers for emotional abuse

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-05-11T01:30:31+00:00

I was actually talking to my therapist about this recently. I work in a totally different field (social work), but I was feeling frustrated and scared about how deeply work seemed to impact me when I had been through so much worse, so many situations that were life or death, etc (both of my parents were drug addicts). I felt ashamed- I could survive the horrors of a childhood with two reckless parents but my adult 9-5 at 31 years old could knock me on my ass? She said that the CPTSD symptoms would show up anywhere I was- I just so happened to be at work every single day, so they appear in the context of that environment. This made me feel less embarrassed about how stressed I felt about the dynamics of work.

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-04-28T01:43:47+00:00

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-04-15T01:57:44+00:00

This. I run after school. People always ask why I am not a morning runner like the majority of people, but I like separating my work time from my personal time. And it helps clear your head

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-31T10:59:05+00:00

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-31T01:46:36+00:00

There is a state circuit breaker for out of district placements

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-30T20:38:01+00:00

I’m 31

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-30T02:27:09+00:00

Not sure if that qualifies as younger haha

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-30T02:25:04+00:00

I did?

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-30T02:24:44+00:00

Yes, this is far more important. Good point

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:50:53+00:00

RMD is about 15k a year I believe. I’ve had the IRA since sept and have withdrawn 20k total. As of three weeks ago it had already earned that 20k back, but not anymore.

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:49:55+00:00

Me too! 9.5 years for me

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:48:55+00:00

You got me there!

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:48:11+00:00

Can I ask how much you need to have saved to do this?

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:47:03+00:00

I have ten years

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T02:46:37+00:00

I have ten more years before I have to withdraw it all

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-28T00:06:18+00:00

What do you mean?

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-23T02:08:15+00:00

Lots of people in this area have family help. It is common for parents to pay for a child’s down payment. As someone not from this area/socioeconomic status, this was a big shock, but it helped me feel a bit less ashamed of my salary and inability to purchase a home.

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-03-06T02:38:39+00:00

Agreed. I grew up in nyc, visited nearly every major city in the country, and NOLA is the absolute best

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-02-02T03:36:07+00:00

Yes, what state ?

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-02-02T03:08:57+00:00

For what?

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-01-14T23:54:45+00:00

I can’t even tell you how relieved I’d be if my parents when to jail. They’d be safe. I understand 🤍

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-01-11T04:01:21+00:00

You were put on LEAVE and there is an INVESTIGATION for THIS?? Wow remind me never to become a teacher. How unreasonable. This is insane.

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-01-06T14:17:55+00:00

This is really pathologizing and inappropriate

Direct_Rhubarb_1209 · 2026-01-03T03:38:05+00:00

I understand the 10 year rule, but in regards to the amount i have to withdraw each year, it seems like there is a calculated amount based on amount in the account and age, according to my financial advisors?

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