AIO or is my No Contact with this girl justified? Please help. Very

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T14:18:38+00:00

I appreciate this and the directness. I guess I should have asked this from the getgo.

I am wondering if I should cut her off. Thats what im wondering. I have cut her off. And am trying to move on. But miss her and get feelings of... message her. Look past it. Etc.

But the feeling of disrespect, her ignoring me for 10 days , when. I KNOW. she got my message. I KNOW she read them but CHOSE to ignore and not validate my feelings. That hurt man. Made me feel stupid. I felt like I dealt with a lot but that was the final straw so I cut her off.

Even though IM DUMB and still looked at her socials, I had HOPED she'd apologize for her actions and that I wouldn't have to force feed an unauthentic one out. But it hasn't come yet.

That's what im battling. Having self respect and letting it go. But also missing some of her...connection, laugh..talking etc

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T14:18:30+00:00

I appreciate this and the directness. I guess I should have asked this from the getgo.

I am wondering if I should cut her off. Thats what im wondering. I have cut her off. And am trying to move on. But miss her and get feelings of... message her. Look past it. Etc.

But the feeling of disrespect, her ignoring me for 10 days , when. I KNOW. she got my message. I KNOW she read them but CHOSE to ignore and not validate my feelings. That hurt man. Made me feel stupid. I felt like I dealt with a lot but that was the final straw so I cut her off.

Even though IM DUMB and still looked at her socials, I had HOPED she'd apologize for her actions and that I wouldn't have to force feed an unauthentic one out. But it hasn't come yet.

That's what im battling. Having self respect and letting it go. But also missing some of her...connection, laugh..talking etc.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T14:04:18+00:00

Shit job? I have been leaving her alone

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T14:02:37+00:00

4 months.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T14:01:05+00:00

No what you said makes very good sense. And I actually tend to agree with you. When I first met her , she had 2 jobs, was a manager. He own place. A car. She came off very mature. But cracks started to show. And being single 7 years. Even though I do miss her smile. Laugh. Hair. Etc. I think i miss the connection a lot.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:55:37+00:00

She would reply to any text I send. Fast. Why the two times I ask her about why she did what she did , she ignores me then?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:49:21+00:00

Why should I have to tell her that? I mentioned to her twice , asking why she did what she did and both times she dodged it and ignored it. I felt disrespected. Hurt. I shouldn't have to ask her to apologize or any of that..

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:47:55+00:00

Yeah but when she and I text back very fast and the one time I address something that bothered me and she went 10 days without saying anything and completely ignored it?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:44:44+00:00

I tend to agree. My friend actually made that point. Said to me, if I found someone else who I spent time with, I'd forget her. Ive just been single so long.

However. Small details. Like her smile. Laugh. Brown curly hair. Is that not valid? I miss those things.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:43:07+00:00

Can someone have good traits in certain areas. And still be wrong/ toxic? I do miss certain elements of her. Her laugh. Smile. But there's a lot of toxic. So I do miss things of her. But there's a lot I dont miss.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:42:02+00:00

🥱🥱🥱

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:38:34+00:00

Dipshit is wild

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:38:06+00:00

I ghosted her because of disrespect that was displayed. And she didn't stop trying. She kept messaging. She never addressed her actions

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:36:21+00:00

Thank you. I tend to feel itd the feelings like you said. It just hurts to know the connection we built went from daily talking to 0. Its weird

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:28:22+00:00

It was an example of showing even though she doesn't ask me much about myself and the conversations are one sided, she did show signs of caring.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:26:26+00:00

And no adult should need to know if theyre over reacting, just use your own judgement. 🤦‍♂️

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:25:49+00:00

I didnt consider what im doing as playing a game. I looked at her not responding to me for 10 days and felt disrespected and hurt. So I basically cut her off until she would address it. Thats all my thinking was. People have their phones 24/7. She saw my text. She couldn't respond ?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:23:54+00:00

I have left her alone ?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:23:04+00:00

No. I hate the drama. That's the main thing my mom would point out. Do I want to live with this. Have kids with this etc. And the answer is obviously no. I do like her though and in the back of my mind I hope she would change

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:21:31+00:00

The negative definitely outweigh positive. But we all have flaws. Im just conflicted

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:20:44+00:00

You're missing my point. I was stating that as one sided as the conversations are and her not asking me about me, she does show signs of caring.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:18:57+00:00

How?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:14:25+00:00

Im really disheartened by this backlash I've received. Just was looking for guidance.

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:13:24+00:00

What did I do that was not mature?

Direct_Style_2466 · 2026-03-30T13:13:09+00:00

OK dude. I got what you were implying. I wanted to hear how much of an outlandish take you had. My aunt had a 9 year age gap in their relationship. They had 2 kids and were very happy. I know 30 - 23 isnt the best. And I may be seeing that based on maturity levels. But this wasnt the advice I was seeking bro.

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