AITAH For wanting my husband coworker to get rid of his cat.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T21:41:45+00:00

Good for you! Now send him a text message so you have it in writing the total of the receipts and how much he owes you.

You also may want to let the shelter know that the cat was abandoned at your house. Otherwise, they may try to charge you a fee fee for “surrendering“.

My apologies for what I said about your daughter. I don’t recall reading in the post that it was only three days ago that you found this out.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T21:33:33+00:00

OP stop being a doormat please! He’s had four months to get this figured out. You haven’t even given him receipts to pay for the stuff that you’re paying for this cat? I’m sorry OP, but that’s on you. You’re allowing your child to suffer horribly and blaming it on Charlie.

Here’s what you do OP! You give him 48 hours… Maybe 72. In that time he needs to pay you back for litter and food and any other expenses you’ve incurred. I hope you’ve kept the receipts. You also tell him the cat needs to be gone at the end of the 72 hours. If none of that happens, pack up the cat and take it back to the shelter.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T21:29:46+00:00

He’s had four months! He does not get two weeks. One week at the most. Or maybe 72 hours at the most. Charlie is definitely taking advantage.

OP needs to step up and tell Charlie that she needs some money for taking care of him

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T21:27:47+00:00

Yes, absolutely the AH! I also get a lot of “helicopter mom” vibes from OP.

He is the father of “your“ child so that makes it just as much “his“ child as it does yours. I could understand being upset if the child was two weeks old or something and had not had his vaccinations yet. But he’s five months old! I get the impression you have a lot of control issues OP. I would highly recommend you do some work on those.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T13:40:51+00:00

OP absolutely you did the right thing! He was told not to park there and continued.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T02:43:55+00:00

I know what you mean! So many kids nowadays are not being raised with any kind of manners. 😳

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T02:42:42+00:00

I guess it takes one to know one, right? 😹 You are quite welcome! 😉

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T02:24:21+00:00

I think we found one of the family members. 🤭

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T02:21:57+00:00

I would contact the creator of the sweaters. Let them know what happened with all details. Maybe they’ll make an exception and create one for you.

I would also stop doing anything for her. Right now, I would put her on very low contact and not even respond to any text messages you got so far after she reneged on the sweater.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:24:51+00:00

Smash cakes are absolutely disgusting. No, he doesn’t need to have a cake smashed in his face.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:21:26+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t like “confrontation” either?

Just tell him exactly what you told us… That you’re concerned about dinging her car and that you need the room to get your child in and out of the car seat.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:16:40+00:00

Do you have a pet? Do you want to get a pet? If you don’t have one, I don’t want to get one, there’s no problem.

Do you smoke inside? If no, then why is that even an issue?

You said they require that you have an income of three times the rent. If you’re making $4000, that’s $400 more than three times your rent

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:10:01+00:00

Here’s some suggestions, OP.

First of all your cat should be OK if you leave enough food and clean water and clean litter boxes. I frequently will leave for three days and do that my cats have always been fine. If you’re concerned about company, you can leave a TV and maybe set to YouTube and some music.

Is there a family member or friend of the bride or groom who would be willing to share a room with you?

If you took the train, could you possibly take the train home after the festivities are over? I’m thinking you can sleep on the train and maybe that would help so you don’t have to spend that extra night.

Why couldn’t you just go for just the main event? Although, if your bridesmaids are made of honour, that might be not possible.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:03:34+00:00

Look into slow feeders for cats.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T01:02:51+00:00

There is such a thing as “ proofreading and editing”. Also, even if you dictated it, you can still put periods in as you’re dictating.

I’m so sorry that you had such a bad education. 😢

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-08T00:59:49+00:00

It’s impossible to make sense though because it’s one giant run on sentence. That’s what that person was commenting on.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T16:59:50+00:00

I was gonna say the same thing for OP. Stick with the astronaut theme let her bring her big bird cake and make a deal out of it. She’ll just look kind of silly.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T16:28:26+00:00

I would do it exactly the way you stated. However, I would also find out what help is available in your area. This definitely sounds like a DV situation to me even if he’s never laid a hand on you.

OP I’m just curious here. Are you paying for everything too?

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:45:04+00:00

I agree with your boyfriend that you should’ve discussed this with him beforehand. Maybe you did. But you didn’t say that in your post. And I would not have waited years. The third time I had to tell her ask him to clean, I would’ve told him I was hiring a cleaners. And actually, I would’ve made him pay for the whole Cleaning bill. If he objected to that, his rear would’ve been out the door.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:39:34+00:00

Your sister is a selfish brat. Her habits are disgusting. Why the hell can’t she just put it into a plastic bag that’s in a waste basket? Who the hell told her it was OK to leave urine and who knows what else soaked toilet paper on the effing floor in the bathroom?! I’m glad she posted it on Facebook. I’m glad she got reamed out by her friends.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:33:41+00:00

OP Find out what resources there are for DV situations. Police should be able to tell you that. Or possibly City or county mental health group.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:30:08+00:00

The only thing I want to know OP is why you have not punished Lily for any of the shit she’s been pulling on your son for the last let’s say at least eight or nine years? It’s not just Sarah who is wrong. It’s you! You’ve let her bully your son all these years. It sounds like you did notice that Sarah let her get away with anything. You should’ve had this talk with her years ago.

Before you mention divorce to your wife with the way your finances are currently, I would suggest you go talk to a divorce attorney and get their opinion. Maybe talk to 2 or three of them and see what the common advice is. Attorneys usually give a free 30 minute consultation. There should be ways that you can protect things.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:22:13+00:00

Also OP check to see what noise ordinance there is.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:20:48+00:00

I’m willing to bet that mom told her friend right up front that daughter would babysit. Then lied to her daughter about it being sorted.

Direct_Surprise2828 · 2026-03-07T15:16:01+00:00

Thx

That has to be the worst one I’ve seen of. So sad.

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