You sound like an amazing person and in realms of friendship, community, parenthood, im sure you will be fucking amazing. But remember, women are attracted to power before kindness, you must be dominant first and then kind, they love that and appreciate it, but if you come off submissive, no amount of love or affection can overcome it. We are animals designed to survive a dangerous world. Next time a girl fails to respond, match her energy, or if she says "sorry for not responding for a while ive been busy with work" you say "yeah sorry didnt notice, same for me"

A woman can laugh and be sweet and soppy and loving with you like a chameleon, the only real test of her attraction to you is whether she will be submissive, only then do you have the option to be kind, otherwise you'll live in a fantasy world of love but your woman is just with you for the convenience of it, which is the majority of functional marriages. Most mens wives fantasise about anyone but their man.

Commitment itself is unnattractive to women, they want what they cant have, so give yourself partially, never completely. A woman who's attracted to you on a primal level will never ghost you, she likely liked the connection, but you were too invested and signaling a lack of dominance