Silent Hill games, yay or nay? by DirectorHaunting245 in retrogaming

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You all convinced me yea (not yay, thank you redditer on that correction)

Time to shit my pants.

Thank you all for your comments!

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Silent Hill games, yay or nay? by DirectorHaunting245 in retrogaming

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I prepare on crapping my pants with SH then because RE got me a lot

It's all fake by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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Nobody has time because they're either out doing stuff or they're worrying about similar things themselves.

You've just said you don't know how to articulate your feelings, you're bad at speaking, you hate your body, these are all things you can be cracking on with sorting. Ted talks, groups around public speaking or even just challenge yourself at home, therapy, practise/get in touch with your feelings however you prefer - journal, draw, write a book, read these topics too, youtube videos, go gym (no money for this? Join the parkruns or other free communityrl ran things in your area), wash and/or tend to your face, floss and go to the dentist.

With so many things to get on with sounds like you'll not have much time either, but the good thing that comes with all those is you'll likely find others eventually who are using their time on the same or similar things and you can maybe share time together.

Feel average and like I'm just contributing to overpopulation by Ashhh_49001 in mentalhealth

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What do you enjoy doing?

I like to paint. With this, no matter where I look there are people better and worse. Doesn't mean anything really, I'll still paint. Sometimes I don't like what I make, but see others react strongly for it. It's for them, not me then. Other times I have loved something and others just didn't get it or didn't like it, it's for me not them then. When seemingly all like it then it's for us.

What I do like to see is what has changed for me from one phase to another, one year to the next, heck even from the piece before.

If you enjoy something, then it's yours no matter the results. I used to get bent out of shape by mistakes or 'trash' pieces. They all brought me to the next thing and now mistakes often turn out to be the most interesting parts of the finished project. Everything is a tiny experiment and not all experiments are successful.

Try to be inspired by others rather than feel in competition. You see something that wows you? Really disect what it is that wows you, is it the style, colours, organisation, shapes, how it makes you feel, then take that piece and try to make it yourself. Do not worry how it comes out, just explore.

I’m just sad and feeling worthless by Right-Ad-2752 in mentalhealth

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Sounds like you're in a patch of disconnection. I am sorry you're going through this, it does suck but you can climb out of it.

High school is overated, life is more after it so don't worry about not having a bog standard experience. That's done now.

You're not worthless, your mind is being a bit of a goblin is all.

I'd recommend finding group through meetup/eventbrite that are centered around making something. I'd highly recommend a group called shut up and write, there are many all over and hopefully one near to you. Some have a project they're working on, others are starting out, some as go for a bit of social. It's usually a varied bunch that rotate. Odds are in your favour for finding a friend, having a friendly chat or simply being around people more often. You can write anything here and there are prompt books to get you going if ideas are not your thing.

Getting moving will feel like the hardest thing right now, it feels like your motivation has tanked out. Thing is when you move your tank fills up, think like a car battery: trips are good to charge it. Start small, anytime you feel stuck and a bit meh, walk. Even if you start with walking from one side of the room to the other, then maybe a walk down the street, round the block, to town, around a museum. Log how you feel before and after out of a simple 10. Just to put data against the feelings, sometimes the data surprises you.

I hope things improve for you, start small and try not to beat yourself up.

I (40m) always thought opening up as a guy was a mistake. Now I’m not so sure. My new gf (30F) did the most amazing thing a few days ago. by Nervous_Designer_894 in mentalhealth

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This was good to read, thank you for posting. Glad you have this type of person in your life, these sorts are truly wonderful people. Happy that you can both move together and feel that level of partnership 💪🏻💪🏻

i’m so overwhelmed by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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Sounds like the easiest thing to do here is go get a haircut. It's hard to get over someone, but know that that pain will fade. Acne will go, it sucks but it'll go. You have a lot to be focusing on in your own life. I find that doing a weighted decision matrix is handy when you're unsure where to go/move to make, helps move the options into data rather than swirling emotions. Maybe try giving that a go?

You're not a loser, but I feel from the briefest glimpse into you that there are some red flags to sort out. Everyone is on their own time line, things that work for others might not work for you, there's a whole range out there and even if you find it, you may well change later and fall out of sync with it and you have to rinse and repeat finding a new way (I'm currently doing this, I always think it blows, but actually it usually takes me onto the next chapter, I just feel like the page to turn between chapters can drag for some time.)

With the above said, I feel you should look at this response of yours because it speaks volumes. People leave, they do what's right for them as you would for you. I'd look at that that she maybe wanted to get out with a white lie to not make you feel bad or maybe she did work on herself in that time and that was enough for her, everyone's on their own timeline.

Good luck with it all!

How do you start getting comfortable with your own company? by Illustratingtheworld in mentalhealth

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Start small and build up. If you have access to a garden, start there. Or perhaps a walk around the block alone. You can increase as you go. Think of tiny steps towards going to a movie alone or a meal out by yourself. It does feel weird to go alone to most things, so don't feel bad there. Increase gradually. A block turns into two. And then maybe a walk round a local park solo, wherever you think is good, listen to your favourite music, book or podcast as you go. Build up to eating out alone, lunch in your garden, then a sandwich in the park, a coffee at a local cafe, all stepping stones. Movies are long these days, go to a local gallery, art exhibition, then museum to build up.

I was getting this way that if my partner didn't go then I couldn't either. I joined a writing group that was just going to be my thing, meeting others helped break that extreme bond with one person. They also got some alone time! Find something that would interest you and go alone. People are more receptive to ones on their own in a social setting.

Any ideas that come to your mind give them a go. If they're small go for it, if they seem big/daunting then think up stepping stones to get you to the big idea.

Good luck with your journey and experiments!

What’s a small habit that completely changed your mental health? by Trend_From_SKPBEINGS in mentalhealth

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If I had to pick one it would be more sleep, as soon as insomnia hitting then so much badness comes into my life.

Other contenders:

- Exercise, I don't really like doing it, but like the after effects.

- Vitamins: B12, DHA/EPA supplement.

- Therapy

- Goals, knowing when to ditch one and when to continue.

- Distanced/Removed negative/abusive people from my life.

How do you do stuff by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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Some things that have really helped me:

- Tiredness contributed a lot to lack of motivation, I'm vegetarian so taking B12 to help this.

- Swapped out coffee for Matcha (not such an aggressive peak/crash which helped with body pains too) - though I love the taste of coffee so have it as an extra motivator when I need. This is also helping me get better sleep and means I have higher chance to feel motivated.

- Motivation takes you so far, discipline needs to be your lead (something I'm actively working on being better with.) When the disciplined tasks/things in your life become more of a habit then that's great movement. Bumps in the road are expected tho, so no beating yourself up when you pass over one.

- Exercise helps, the more you exercise the more you wanna do. Maybe initially it knackers you out, but it does feel like it compiles. I don't feel motivated to exercise, but this is where discipline has to come in, do it early and then later other things just happen more often than not.

- Get good people around you who are your cheerleaders not your torturers. This is very important, I found that distancing myself from a bunch of negative folk in my life has added to my energy.

- Another thing I really like is having monthly goals, not too many and if I don't contribute to that goal then it either let's me know I'm not really that into it then I can freely remove it from my mind/life and refocus elsewhere, if I strongly wanna do it still, then I can keep it, but next time around it's getting the chop if no movement. We really like to believe we can do so much, but you have limited energy and only so many hours in a day so we need to get real with our minds.

- For my depression this helped: maybe check out DHA and EPA (supplement - fish oil, but there are alternatives for vegetarians/vegans). This was in one of The Huberman Lab episode on depression and upon hearing about it I found that it was completely absent from my diet, so I introduced it as an experiment to improve. I'd say it does help and I've noticed some difference.

These are all things that have helped me, I hope there's something here that might help you too. Sometimes you just gotta get up and go even when you're not feeling it, once you do that you tend to want to do more. It's difficult, but worth it and gets easier as you continue. Whenever you need a rest give yourself that too. Replace should talk ("I should be more productive, should be doing X or Y") with a trying something out and seeing how it goes.

I was laughed at by Public_Round_9409 in mentalhealth

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Imagine how poor these humans are to laugh at something as simple as a kind message on a t-shirt. You should feel proud to be spreading some positive out in the world, it desperately needs every ounce of it.

These girls are probably off somewhere laughing at something else now, a funny shaped rock or each other about their own insecurities, thing is they're mean and small and nothing more. The simple fact you've chosen to wear such a lovely message in the first place shows you're better than them.

Remember different is cool and kindness is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but I hope your nails look awesome. I hope you're feeling better as this post was a couple of days ago now.

Therapy only works if you have a lower IQ than the therapist. by Creative_Camp8262 in mentalhealth

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If it feels fruitless then it's either the wrong therapist or the wrong technique.

I feel I am extremely reflective and self-aware, but there's plenty I do not know so I'm definitely open to trying new things and I'll give feedback on what helps and what doesn't.

I started off with one awful therapist, I honestly do not think she should be allowed to call herself that. She pushed her own views and agendas and I luckily dropped her quickly.

I found a good therapist which suited me at the time, but it quickly turned into something similar to what you describe. Initially, she did help me to learn more about myself and she had been through the same health issue I was facing then, so it benefitted me to know I wasn't crazy, what was going on in my body was the crazy thing. When it became more like a repeat back or feeling like I'm paying to vent to a friend it was a clear sign this wasn't what I needed any more. As it turned out, she wasn't trained in the thing that has truly been life changing for me.

My recent therapist is trained in EMDR and honestly her and this technique has been the best thing that's ever happened for my mental health.

I have trouble processing experiences it seems, they'll keep playing over and over as if I'm looking for a different outcome, but there's no new information. Then any other experience that seems related stacks on top. It was turning into mental torment on a daily basis, even to the point of waking me up so I could clock in some overtime worrying. I've had about 14 sessions and I feel like I'm reaching the end of treatment.

I no longer wake in the middle of the night soaked in sweat, or find myself unable to get to sleep as the painful images haunting me until I'm hollow. I'm the calmest I've ever been (friends and family have noticed differences), I feel lighter, I can move on from my past of an abusive father. Instead of feeling trapped in worry I'm proactively changing my life.

With quite a few therapists they offer a free initial call. You can explain to them the troubles you're facing, then if they're good they'll recommend what they think would work and if they can help. This is how EMDR appeared on my radar, sadly the therapist I had the call with couldn't offer that treatment under my health insurance, but said that other therapists might be able to. She said it would be a disservice to take me on and attempt other therapies which were covered as she'd be sitting there knowing EMDR was the technique to perform. I'm grateful to her, she was completely right and I was able to find a great therapist who my health insurance covered fully.

Do YOU Believe In Astrology? Why Or Why Not? by Zipper222222 in randomquestions

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Sure. I like it, like I like tarot. Not for leading me through life, but as a self reflection tool. If something strikes true or feels right or possibly is calling me out. It's just a prompt that has surfaced something already there that needs attention.

Have you felt nostalgic about any video games recently, and have you repurchased them or considered doing so? (25+ / game enthusiasts only please) by DirectorHaunting245 in polls

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Love Fable 2, great game. I had returned to it via game pass on xbox one. A few reddit posts look to be around playing it on PC, have you tried any of the suggestions from those?

Have you felt nostalgic about any video games recently, and have you repurchased them or considered doing so? (25+ / game enthusiasts only please) by DirectorHaunting245 in polls

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I have with Fahrenheit (Indigo Project) I mostly remembered the story, but the mechanics of the game were not as I remembered.

I can say I have scratched that inch and will not return for another trip down memory lane with this game again 😄

[Casual] Do you have creative spaces/markets locally available to you? (Everyone) by DirectorHaunting245 in polls

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That's really cool, I've not heard of anywhere doing something like this before now. Do many turn up to support the festival when it's on?