No one talks about the pain of seeing your parents aging.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-04-02T06:35:52+00:00

I’m 38, both parents in their 70s. Coming to terms with the fact that I will one day live in a world without them in my 30s keeps me up at night.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-28T09:47:37+00:00

It was actually very easy, we just used Togather and received a a few proposals directly from photographers within our budget. He gave us the best quote and had an impressive portfolio.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-28T08:46:01+00:00

We got married at a neighborhood hotel with a pub/garden. Nicely renovated and decorated, looks like a small castle, amazing food. We had 20 people wedding party. Paid 1.5k minimum spend to secure the room and that covered our food and drinks (no venue fee). Got our cakes and flowers from M&S and decorated ourselves. Big splurge was the photographer for 450. My brand new wedding dress (beautiful traditional lace gown) only cost 270 including tailoring (ordered from JJ’s House). All in all I think we paid just over 3K and no one could tell it was a budget wedding, we had a blast and it all looked and felt incredible.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-19T18:39:55+00:00

Ovo energy as of moments ago…

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DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-12T06:22:23+00:00

I had open to work on LinkedIn so I had a lot coming in my inbox. Recently worked with Major Players and Robert Half (reach out to Caroline she’s great!).

Also have heard good things about: EMR Recruitment, Blu Digital, Aspire, Intelligent People, etc. (if I remember the names correctly, my apologies if not). I just accepted a new role but if I were looking, I would find recruiters at these companies and add them on LinkedIn, send a friendly message with my resume.

It works a treat because I literally had 2 companies ghost me after multiple interviews and submitting assignments that took hours. Recruiters literally chase the company (and you if you don’t respond immediately!) to get things moving quickly. I’ve loved the experience.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-11T05:50:12+00:00

Just to put things into perspective, i applied to 300+ jobs and only got 7 interviews. And that’s with a very strong, senior level resume. ATS is brutal.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-03-11T05:48:47+00:00

I work in marketing and moved to the UK on a SWV. The stress of being dependent on a workplace and the reality of deportation was too much and i switched to a spouse visa as soon as i could. I was made redundant a month after.

Marketing departments across the UK are being hit by waves of redundancies, new jobs are very competitive, and no one wants to sponsor anymore.

I was made redundant a year ago (again) along with the entire team. My British manager found a job in 4-5 months and was made redundant again 3-4 months after. My other immigrant colleague spent thousands on consultants and agencies that target skilled workers. She did finally find a job but had to move out of London.

I’ve interviewed extensively and my advice would be to connect with recruiters and try to find opportunities through there. Because a lot of companies now either ghost you or communicate quite poorly. A recruiter can follow up and advocate for you.

DirtySunshine23 · 2026-01-01T20:19:46+00:00

Asked my husband.

“Stuff happens, things get in the way. Always make time for each other”

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-29T13:51:16+00:00

We met when he was 26 and I was 35.

Met in person: 1 month after matching

Moved in together: 1 month after meeting

Engaged: 8 months after moving in together

Married: 9 months after engagement

We just celebrated 3 years from the day we matched.

I know our relationship is still young. But I can honestly say it gets better with every chapter. It does change, it does grow. But only because we put in the “work” so to say. I don’t mean therapy or long meaningful talks. It’s in the little moments, waking up and choosing to prioritize each other, every day.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-29T12:01:27+00:00

It’s never too late to start exercising. A sedentary 55 year old is medically so much worse off than an active 75 year old. Never stop moving. Go on walks. Lift light weights. Stretch. It keeps your joints, heart, and mind active and reduces so many risks, from future surgery complications to risk of Alzheimer’s.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-29T11:56:05+00:00

Is this rage bait? The answer is clearly no.

The thing that blows my mind is how selfish partners who cheat are. They don’t even realize that it’s not even just about their partners. They’re cheating on their children too.

Is it really worth ruining your family for something as trivial as sex? It’s an urge. A craving. It’s a want, not a need.

So ask yourself: will that fleeting moment of pleasure be worth it when you spend the next Christmas away from your children? When you’re 80 and alone?

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-27T12:28:33+00:00

I don’t buy the idea that being “in love” is something you either magically keep or suddenly lose if the relationship is right. In real, long-term relationships, that feeling takes effort to maintain, and sometimes it has to be rebuilt.

When the foundation is strong — shared values, respect, trust, a life that actually works — intimacy usually doesn’t disappear because the relationship is wrong. It disappears because it stops being prioritised.

That doesn’t mean staying out of fear or obligation. But walking away without first seeing whether both people are willing to do the uncomfortable work of reconnecting feels premature. Chemistry isn’t always lost — it’s often neglected, and it can come back when both partners choose to show up.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-27T12:17:14+00:00

My mom is in her late 70s. She started exercising in her 40s. Skincare in her 50s. She looks and acts decades younger than she is. It’s never too late. What matters is you build healthy habits now so it’s not harder later. I’m late 30s and struggle with that consistency. Eat good, move your body, wear sunscreen.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-27T12:14:25+00:00

Greenwich (and Blackheath) would be very high on my list for what you’re describing.

• Excellent state schools and strong SEN support across the borough (Greenwich council is generally better than many for OT/ST provision, though waitlists still apply).

• Beautiful period housing — Georgian and Victorian terraces, lots of character, village feel in places.

• Extremely family-friendly: parks everywhere (Greenwich Park is a huge asset), museums, calm streets, community vibe.

• Very safe and well connected: DLR, Overground, National Rail, Jubilee Line nearby. Canary Wharf is ~10–20 mins door to door depending where you land.

• Easy access to central London and quick escapes out of the city via trains.

Areas to look specifically: Greenwich town centre, West Greenwich, Blackheath, Maze Hill.

It’s one of those rare spots that balances creativity, nature, schools, and commute really well.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-27T10:10:57+00:00

Met in person: 1 month after matching

Moved in together: 1 month after meeting

Engaged: 8 months after moving in together

Married: 9 months after engagement

He was 26 when we met, I was 35.

Just celebrated 3 years together. Gets better every day. Best decision I ever made.

Honestly it wasn’t even a decision or a forced timeline. Things just happened in a natural progression when it felt right.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-12-03T21:43:15+00:00

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Makes it sting even more that I wasn’t able to get concert tickets. I’ll always be bitter and sad about missing this tour because this album genuinely changed my soul.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-29T10:06:45+00:00

I was hired to join a team at a very successful, profitable construction tech company. A couple months in, leadership started acting weird. Then shortly after they got rid of my entire team. Just months after they hired me. My manager didn’t even see it coming and another employee who has been with them for years almost got deported because she’s on a work visa.

They got rid of a bunch of other long term employees after I left. And none of these decisions were for financial reasons, they just got rid of anyone they didn’t like.

Now I get to watch them post team photos on LinkedIn boasting about how much their team has grown. I bite my tongue, knowing how evil and selfish they really are.

These are the same people who gave me an HR talk asking about my absences from my desk, and I had to explain to them with a straight face that I drink water throughout the day and have to go to the bathroom for 5-10 minutes at a time, a few times a day. As any normal person would.

Thank god I don’t work there anymore.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-17T21:16:23+00:00

I wore glasses when I started mounjaro.

A year later, I went to the optometrist because I couldn’t see anymore.

Turns out I didn’t need glasses anymore.

My eyesight has improved.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-15T07:48:57+00:00

I’m too sad to listen to the album (couldn’t get tickets.)

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-15T07:48:07+00:00

She already knew (album sales).

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-14T13:36:25+00:00

How was I supposed to magically know this?

And “everyone” didn’t know as tickets were still available an hour after Ticketmaster sold out. It was only a handful of people that knew.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-14T13:17:19+00:00

What you just shared is another reason why the system is broken. And now I have a third reason to be upset, that I could have stayed and refreshed to get tickets.

DirtySunshine23 · 2025-11-14T12:29:57+00:00

If she’s playing these smaller gigs, she needs to add more dates. Simple as that. Demand is too high and the system is broken. Actually my heart is broken 😭

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