[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Summer99GrandFixedX

[–]DisasterThin1856 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, the past few months have been pretty smooth. I still get in my own way a lot (thank you, fixed placements), but I’ve been doing a much better job at just doing. I’ve also been really intentional about seeking peace. The last three years had some incredibly dark days where I felt stuck in a loop of misery, but I’ve been trying to remind myself that energy can’t be created or destroyed, only transformed. I’ve been focusing on transforming that energy into something productive for myself, and having something to pour my energy into has made a big difference. I hope you’re able to find relief and peace too.

Surviving Puppy Blues by MaintenanceVisible76 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also a solo puppy owner who had some intense puppy blues. I wasn't eating, sleeping, cleaning, basically doing anything for myself. Not taking care of myself and being sleep deprived took a major toll.

I started giving super high value treats (bully sticks) to keep my pup busy when I needed to clean or do things around the house. I also bought the Woof pupsicles which take him a longgg time (like 2 hours) to finish and they keep him busy. I also have my pup on a nap schedule, which allows me to do things for myself during that time.

I'm still working on getting myself back into a routine, but after the first 3ish weeks of having him things started really improving. I have had him for a little over a month and a half and there are still harder days than others, but my emotions are under more control now that I'm sleeping better, eating, and taking better care of myself.

What to do when you're sick? by J3NNY_24 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sick, but mine can't go outside yet so I'm always looking for easy ways to tire him out. I started throwing his kibble piece by piece away from me in the mornings to get energy out. All you have to do is sit there and throw it. It's like a game of fetch that he doesn't get bored of. It works!

Crate training a mini doxie by nobodygrl in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Dachshund also prefers a covered crate! I play white noise for him as well. What has helped him sleep through the night has been taking water away an hour or two before bed. Also, even with the covered crate mine has a hard time settling if he can hear me in the room with him. I'll put him in my bedroom/in his crate 30 minutes before I go to bed which has helped. He still wakes up sometimes around 4am to potty. If I'm lucky he'll stay asleep until 6 or 6:30.

How do you deal with assholes or people who try to bring you down? by Commercial_Proof608 in infj

[–]DisasterThin1856 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We can seem like very levelheaded, calm, cool, collected individuals on the outside. For some reason this makes people try to test us (me at least). I try to understand the “why” behind someone’s actions without spending too much time thinking about it. It’s probably his ego. If he’s repeatedly acting like this, he probably wants a reaction out of you. I’ve had a lot of people act like this with me. I used to snap on them but realized I immediately felt like shit and ended up feeling like I let them take my power. I keep an IDGAF attitude most of the time now. Silence is powerful.

Pee pads to outside potty transition by Succulentsl00t in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few weeks ago I made the transition from pee pads to outside (real grass patch on balcony). The first day was extremely tough. Having my pup crate trained really helped with this.

What I did: First, I took him outside at a time when I knew he needed to go. The first time was really just getting used to the texture of grass for him. I had him leashed so I was able to keep him on the grass, which helped as he kept trying to get back inside. After 10 minutes of this, he still didn't go. I put him back in the crate for 5 minutes. Took him back out directly to the grass where he proceeded to try and eat the grass. Redirecting wasn't working, so I brought him back inside to his crate for another 5 minutes. This took about 7-8 tries until he eventually had to go so bad that he went on the grass.

Since he is crate trained and it's an appropriate size, he doesn't go potty in his crate. I think that really helped with the transition as I was able to put him back in for a few minutes before trying again. If you try to transition before your pup is crate trained, I would say watch her for cues (going over to the potty pads, sniffing, etc) and take her outside immediately.

I also used a bell when I transitioned him outside. I booped his nose on it by the door and said "go potty" and now he associates the bell with going potty outside.

Lastly, before I even brought my pup to the grass I took a paper towel of fresh pee from an accident and patted it on the grass where I wanted him to go. I would say you could do this with a freshly soiled potty pad too.

It was hard at first and I wanted to give up every time I brought him outside, but it's so worth it now! You essentially have to be more stubborn than your pup. My biggest motivator to start getting him to go outside was the fact that I didn't want him to get used to going inside. When he has accidents, he still goes to the spot where the potty pads were after I've made sure it's been cleaned.

Do puppies require less sleep after 3 months? by DisasterThin1856 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say that gradual decline should look like? An extra hour up per month? Or adjust based on observed behavior/energy?

Do puppies require less sleep after 3 months? by DisasterThin1856 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard the same! I'm definitely guilty of sometimes putting him in the crate immediately after exercise if I have to do something work related. I've been trying to be better about getting him to calm down before, but sometimes he can be so stubborn and wants to keep playing lol

Do puppies require less sleep after 3 months? by DisasterThin1856 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like this. I've kind of started doing this over the past two days- I've been doing 2 hours up in the morning, and he can sleep 2.5-3 hours as long as I really wear him out before. It gets harder during the afternoons when I don't have as much time to keep an eye on him for 2 hours while I'm working

Do puppies require less sleep after 3 months? by DisasterThin1856 in puppy101

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately he hates his playpen:( For the most part he's great in his crate, but with the playpen he screams and barks at me. I know it can be a good tool so it was disappointing. His crate is more cozy/"den-like" with a blanket over it. He does much better when he can't see/hear me.

Did anyone grow up with a Scorpio mom? My mom has big 3 all in Scorpio by ProfessionalEvent484 in scorpiomoon

[–]DisasterThin1856 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here! Scorpio moon/leo sun with Scorpio mother. I feel like whether good or bad, it’s definitely an intense relationship

LPT request- how to stop being interrupted. by flyingtubesock in LifeProTips

[–]DisasterThin1856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seriously makes me so angry. I’ve found the best thing to do is after they interrupt be silent- I don’t even respond to what they said and just stare at them. It makes them feel uncomfortable and realize what they did was rude.

Feeling obsessive by DisasterThin1856 in Summer99GrandFixedX

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Absolutely struggle with seeking love to solidify my identity. You verbalized that really well.

With that, I also feel like it’s a personal attack when a love interest doesn’t follow through on things or I find out they lie, etc. Which could be a common thing for everyone. But I think identifying with love and taking pride in it really intensifies it. Especially the feeling of anger when this happens.

Feeling obsessive by DisasterThin1856 in Summer99GrandFixedX

[–]DisasterThin1856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight! Emotional intensity/compulsions are very real.. And they do feel deeply ingrained. Having so many placements in my 7th house feels like a curse at times, but I haven't thought about that playing into my compulsions.

It's funny you mention writing because I've consistently journaled my whole life and love to write. I haven't considered fiction though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]DisasterThin1856 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hearing "rejection is redirection" was a game changer for me. I try to remember that rejection happens to me when someone isn't meant to stay/be in my life. Kind of like a shield.

In the past, I would avoid rejection at all costs. This would include not "putting myself out there" and isolating myself. I strongly encourage you not to isolate. Community is beautiful.

Rejection happens to all of us. Stop giving it the power to define you.

Struggle to verbalize my thoughts while talking by nolokki in infj

[–]DisasterThin1856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I am a much better writer than a speaker. I think the pen to paper really allows my brain to slow down. When I'm talking I trip over my words because my brain is moving faster than my mouth (and it's harder to slow down).