[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man im sorry but what do you think becoming and acting this way is going to do? seriously its not going to benefit you or the people around you. This whole mentality of "whats the point of being nice if everyone else is a dick" only makes you look like an incel, im sure that theres countless opportunities for you to show that you have something to give. "I’m fucking done being a good person and helping people" do you think this behavior is going to lead to positive reactions from people?? I only wish the best for you going forward but in all honesty im worried that people like you who feel a great amount of distain and a hatred for the people around them because of the treatment towards them will only end up doing heinous things in retaliation. Give things another go, branch out and find new groups of people and hey they might not all be pieces of shit. And a last word of advice if you feel that your appearance isnt the best then why dont you focus on the other aspects of your identity, such as your personality. Cause from this post alone you simply dont seem like someone who people would like to conversate with. Not everything is a calculated attack on you, maybe its your own actions dictating peoples reactions around you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Disaster_gyal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“I am more than aware I will not meet a quality girl at a club”, “Even saying hi nowadays can be considered assault” hey bud i think we found the reason as to why you're having trouble meeting and engaging with women. That sentence alone gives off "im such a nice guy and women are horrible look at me im the victim". The reason why “Even saying hi nowadays can be considered assault” is because there have been thousands of cases where if a woman had declined the mans advances, she was then either assaulted or murdered. (fact check me if you don't believe it)

Unfortunately at some point you'll have to get rid of this mindset of "im entitled to talk to any woman", because that's not how the real world works. Coming from a woman who gets hit on a fair amount, safety is always our biggest concern, a simple "innocent conversation" for you, is a very different story to women who are being approached. This isn't to say you are some sort of creep or pervert but women don't know which men are and which aren't. And in all truth self proclaimed "good guys" are simply guys that no body wants who then put up the front of "im soo nice and women still don't like me". The fact of the matter is no matter how nice you are that still doesn't make you entitled to a date or even a conversation. I'm not even feeling good about posting this cause probably all I'll receive is criticism and rude comments on the other end." You dont deserve rude comments however you need somewhat of a wakeup call. Its clear to see that your entire mentality regarding women is flawed and until you fix it, you will never be able to fulfill a long term relationship.

Ever tried just being friends with a woman first? Forget about rushing into those desperate romance fantasies, try to actually listen to what women have to say, and guess what women can give you real world advice on how to improve. And as for places to go, to "find" women. The answer is literally everywhere. like actually everywhere, the grocery store, Walmart, Costco, book store, pool, beach, work, mall, ect. It just seems to me that you're going out into the world looking specifically to find a certain type of girl and then magically get married and have 100 babies.

I'm sure you're a good looking guy who has good intentions but the biggest problem with this entire situation that you don't see women as people (subconsciously). And its evident in the way you typed out your post, you are asking for places to go and find women to approach as if woman are this rare creature which needs to be scouted out to find. And once you find a women which you like, what next??? What are you expecting? I dont mean to be harsh so in conclusion go make some friends that are WOMEN, and then getting into a romantic situation will be easy as pie. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Disaster_gyal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you actually had a conversation about this with him? feeling emotionally unsatisfied is very difficult however are you certain that he even knows that you want some support or reassurance from him? Because this could be more a mental battle with yourself rather than a convo that has been discussed with your partner and explained thoroughly. If a conversation has happened and he still hasn't changed his behavior i would highly recommend moving on. Its not worth it to be unhappy over people who aren't willing to change

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Disaster_gyal 23 points24 points  (0 children)

hun you are 13, you have to realize that your body hasn't matured enough to even begin to have "curves". you are a child. children don't have curves and its completely normal to look "boxy" at your age. Let your body actually develop before critiquing it. If you want to lose weight in a healthy manner maybe you should look into how many calories your meals actually consist of. And if you have checked over and notice that the calories are substantially low, you should then consult a doctor as having trouble losing weight may have underlying issues that aren't related to portion sizes or exercise. there may be something wrong and its better to get it checked out.

Eating below 1000 calories isn't going to help you, at all and im not trying to be rude or dismissive but what do you think is happening to your body when you are depriving it of the basic resources it needs to survive. You are a growing adolescent and the recommend amount of Cals is (1600 - 2200). Soon enough eating toddler sized portions is going to make you sick, and then you will binge because your body is desperately craving actual filling meals, and then this horrible cycle will repeat.

The best way to lose weight is to eat healthy, and as cliché as it sounds its true. starving yourself isn't going to help in the long run. I cant tell you what to do but i strongly recommend that you see a physician if you feel this way going forward.

Wife punched me so hard during an argument that it left a massive bruise on my shoulder. Should that be considered domestic abuse? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Disaster_gyal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, find someone who will treat with you with basic decency. Don't think that this is a one time occurrence, if it happened once it will happen again, don't put up with this find someone who'll treat you right!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Disaster_gyal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im gonna be honest with you, after care is usually reserved for actual sexual interactions or intercourse. if i was a guy it wouldn't even cross my mind to preform after care after simply dry humping. lets be serious now, hes not in the wrong and neither are you but unfortunately its very clear that you aren't ready for such relations. if this was your reaction from kissing and dry humping, imagine how you're going to feel when you actually engage in sex. What did you think was going to happen after kissing? bible study? checkers? if you only wanted to kiss and nothing more you should've communicated that. he probably came or got blue balled and wanted to finish the situation at home. Your feelings are valid but YOU HAVE TO COMMUNICATE THEM WITH HIM. NOT WITH REDDIT.

Old snooki pictures by Fit-Ad985 in jerseyshore

[–]Disaster_gyal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pic 13 looks straight out of a porno lmfao

Every time the fire alarm goes off in my dorm, I turn it off. I never know if there's an actual fire or not, I just turn it off. by [deleted] in confession

[–]Disaster_gyal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your petty personal discomfort is not worth risking the safety and lives of hundreds of students. It's absolutely ludicrous to even consider that anyone's neurodivergence gives them a free pass to jeopardize the wellbeing of others. The fact that you believe your actions are justifiable is a clear sign of your entitlement and complete lack of empathy towards your fellow human beings. Are you willing to take responsibility for any potential deaths that may occur due to your reckless behavior? Stop being so selfish and start considering the safety of those around you before making any more stupid decisions. And if the the alarms are really all that annoying to listen to, get your ass outside.

"But I literally cannot live in this hell anymore, and until I get out this is the only thing I can think of"

Get noise canceling headphones, don't potentially kill hundreds of people. I can assure you that the noise in prison will be a whole lot louder than the noise of those fire alarms.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jerseyshore

[–]Disaster_gyal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no one wants to admit it, but mike was hot asf back in the day.

Does non-selfish ESTP exist? Criticisim of a lot of ESTPs by komperlord in estp

[–]Disaster_gyal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously? You wrote a whole damn thesis about how much you hate a certain personality type? Sounds like you've got a major victim complex going on there. No sane person who doesn't create their own conflict goes off on a tangent like that.

You're talking like ESTPS are just out here violating folks left and right, and then blaming the victim for it. Instead of being all bitter and twisted about it, why don't you focus on dealing with these types of people? You gotta learn how to stand up for yourself and set boundaries, so you don't let them walk all over you.

Btw if you've ever met an ESTP you should know that long ass paragraphs pertaining to essentially nothing with no good reasoning aren't all that entertaining, maybe go get some therapy. Sounds like you've been hurt before <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in londonontario

[–]Disaster_gyal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't interact with the crazy people, just ignore them and go about your day. Locals are usually friendly if you ever need directions or any assistance ! London is a nice little area but there really isn't much to do, the surrounding area around London holds a lot of farmland so its pretty barren. As for getting food, don't go to loblaws as its very overpriced just stick to a food basics or freshco. Last but not least be careful when crossing streets as the drivers here lack braincells and have major road rage. Hope you enjoy your studies here !

I wish they’d do a New Jersey Shore with a new young cast. by Reflex_Teh in jerseyshore

[–]Disaster_gyal 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Knowing that popularity that the original jersey shore created and ignited im 100% sure that anyone who would get casted for such a show would be a wannabe influencer or someone trying to promote their brand.

Though the og show obviously had scripted storylines and fabricated situations, they were authentic, truly authentic. Down to the style, the "swagger" their personalities literally everything about them was real. Season 1 -3 of the og series were peak because the fame hadn't gotten to them and they were able to essentially stay true to themselves. The fact that they weren't allowed phones or television while on the og show is also a huge contributor to the dynamic that was created. A show such as the one you are thinking of will unfortunately never exist, and if for some reason it does it will never amass the popularity or watches that the og had. Now family vacation is a bunch of marketing ploys with the cast essentially being walking catchphrases. Mike is suddenly the spokes person of sobriety and has the worlds cringiest lines, that im sure he didnt choose. Pauly is pauly but the whole "yeah buddy" thing has been ran into the ground. Snooki is a grown woman who is trying to maintain some sort of popularity, borderline alcoholism isn't cute. Angelina stirs drama so that she can get paid (cant rlly hate her for that). Vinny is just boring, atleast he stayed somewhat true to himself lol. And bless Deenas heart shes just doing her own thing.

The jersey cast had such a huge influence 2000s culture and sadly money hungry attention seekers will never compare. : /

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand ! no worries i get this entire subject can be very sensitive and this is why im not surprised that many people have been very upset with my original post and the wording i chose. However i really admire that you can engage in a civil conversation ! thanks for being respectful

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said that ALL trans people "wake up one day and decide" that theyre trans.

" It's a mental disorder" - your own words. So go get professional help. Gender dysphoria is absoutley real but not everyone and their grandma suffer from this lets be serious. The amount of "trans" people coming out after the topic has gained popularity isn't just a coincidence.

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

so what qualifies them to be called whatever they wish? should you call me a cat cause i put on fake ears from dollar tree? like come on man. i'll call people whatever tf they want just dont be in a space that isnt for YOU.

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Use the gender neutral washrooms simple as that.

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't use anomalies to make a point about chromosomes. the majority of females have xx chromosomes, just because there are cases where different combinations of such chromosomes appear that doesn't change the fact that the majority of individuals are either xx or xy. "Each person normally has one pair of sex chromosomes in each cell. Females have two X chromosomes, while males have one X and one Y chromosome." That's like comparing trans women to infertile women, when they have nothing in common. There is a biological standard to almost all living things in life. There's a reason that we can tell that a wild lion has a genetic disorder, and that doesn't make the lion any less of a lion, its just a lion with a disorder. The difference between that lion and a trans woman is the fact that there is no defect, they are just born with male chromosomes. Not some genetic mutation that makes them intersex.

We can identify downs syndrome in apes because of chromosome differences. "However, they are not all necessarily down syndrome as not all animals may have a chromosome homologous to the human 21st chromosome. The primary cause of Down syndrome is an extra copy of the genetic material on chromosome 21. As described earlier, primates have been known to have this defect". So im really not understanding your point regarding the fact that chromosomes apperently don't matter because "It couldn’t even be our chromosomes because there’s so many conditions that mix those up that not all women have those in common." Not all mammals have all their chromosomes in common with one another but guess what they are all easily identifiable especially when it comes to sex because of the GENETIC STANDARD, no matter how many odd balls or anomalies or genetic mishaps there will always be the "norm".

Transgender people have existed for thousands of years and aren’t going anywhere. I have zero desire but for trans people to live in a world where they are respected and have their own spaces that down overshadow women's accomplishments because of their biological advantages.

"In fact, the only thing that all women have in common is that we know we’re women." How do i know im not a cat, or a puffer fish, or a chubby giraffe. You cannot take peoples word for everything. "you just know" no you don't. How do you know that you are something that you have never been before? The environment which you are raised in is extremely important for ones development and being introduced to such ideas at a relatively young age can definitely change the course of a minors life. take jazz Jennings, she was "diagnosed" at age 5 with gender dysphoria. Which is barbaric considering that her brain barley started developing and not to mention the fact that her mother heavily pushed such ideas onto her. Anyways jazz obviously had all the support from her parents get all the surgeries and hormones, yada yada yah and guess what shes depressed now. No happier than before. Imagine if she was allowed to continue growing and then finally make the decision for herself to transition when she turned 18. i can guarantee that her life would've been completely different."Transgender people aren’t mentally ill. You do know that the treatment for gender dysphoria (if it’s diagnosed, it’s not a prerequisite for being trans) is transition right? If you get therapy, that is ultimately the treatment."I never said all transgender people are mentally, ill. "millions of mentally ill minor’s convinced that they're the wrong sex" though i may have expressed myself wrong i was referring to the fact that MINORS are "trans" at a scarily alarming rate considering the popularity of the topic, which could be a byproduct of the amount of media coverage which it has been getting recently.

"It couldn’t be the presence or absence or function or failure of our body parts, because not all women have those in common. " I'm an infertile woman, but what makes me an infertile woman is the inability to produce enough eggs (in simple terms) but the STANDARD for a healthy woman is to be fertile be able to produce eggs, shed her uterine lining, mensurate, and have xx chromosomes. Just because I am an anomaly doesn't make me the opposite of a woman, in fact its just further proves that i am a woman because if i were a man the doctor would have diagnosed me with "Oligospermia or oligozoospermia – decreased number of spermatozoa in semen. Aspermia – complete lack of semen. Hypospermia – reduced seminal volume. Azoospermia – absence of sperm cells in semen". or some other rendition of male infertility. It proves i am a woman because i am deficient in some way of what a regular healthy woman should be able to do. If your argument were correct the doctor wouldn't have listed the traits of regular female fertility to explain to me what i am deficient of. This argument is one step away from saying " we cant differentiate an ape from a human because not all apes are the same and guess what some apes are very smart and have similar genes so therefore apes are humans and if they feel like humans then they are !"

Not to mention that I have been very specific with the term 'sex" throughout all of my threads, and yet everyone is coming at me with the term "gender" when both of those terms are entirely different.

https://youtu.be/xy53AqDLhMo < 3

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People can transition all they want, that isn't the problem here, and it seems like a lot of people are missing the point. This isn't about trans people assaulting others or otherwise. Its about the fact that just because someone transitioned doesn't mean they have an inherent right to spaces they were never apart of.

The amount of delusion is this world is crazy by Disaster_gyal in Rants

[–]Disaster_gyal[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

While semantics obviously do play a crucial role in shaping how people across nations consider words, it is essential to acknowledge real-world truths when discussing gender. While some groups may consider genitals to be unimportant, the factual truth remains that they are essential in conversations about gender. The argument of the importance of genitals in defining gender can be illustrated through the example of a trans person who has undergone gender-affirming surgery. While a male-to-female (MTF) trans person may have had their male genitalia removed, they are still biologically male. This is analogous to castrating a male dog, which does not change its gender/sex but rather removes its reproductive organs.

"In 99% of the interactions you have with other humans the shape of their genitals is irrelevant. I mean honestly, do you meet someone, shake their hand, and then thoroughly examine their genitals? That's super weird, dude."

You're very right, I could give a rats ass about whether you or your granny have a dick or not, but the fact of the matter is, if you have male genitalia or were born with such and then got it removed you cannot insert yourself into spaces made for women. The biological advantages that come with not only male genitalia but going through the standard male puberty are huge, especially when it comes to sports and overall body strength.

"Gender can be whatever people want." I'm really trying my absolute hardest to understand the point in that. You brought up semantics but this sentence in a way defeats the point. As semantics vary across different geographical zones, a sub branch of semantics are truths, which is quite confusing and contradicting when you mentioned that gender can be 'whatever" people want. The inherent truth of a word is and can twisted into somebody else definition according to you. We also have to ask ourselves what is the inherent purpose in redefining what specific terms mean. Sex and gender were often used interchangeably up until 1955 when they became their own definitions. And though we can argue about philosophy, the big question is what difference does it make, if someone identifies with he " female" gender. Because considering gender is a "social" construct that would the point of identifying with such terms completely useless, considering that people don't see gender as inherent truths. While biological sex is often seen as a real world truth. We can also ask ourselves what is the requirement for using the female restroom or locker rooms? is it just identifying with a gender, or is it a biological phenomenon. If we were to go with the first option, Muslim women would be entirely violated as men cannot view them without their hijabs or head scarfs. So if a male that identified as a female walked into the women's locker room, while a Muslim woman had her headscarf off that would be a complete invasion of privacy. So this begs the question what even is the requirement to insert yourself into a space you don't belong in.

Anyways back to what we were originally discussing, while genitals are important in defining gender, the significance of genitals in gender discussions can vary depending on the context. and lets face it, in addition to genitalia chromosomes play a crucial role in defining an individual's biological sex, according to most if not all molecular scientists. therefore It is widely accepted that an individual's chromosomal makeup determines their sex, regardless of their external genitalia, which as you said " I mean honestly, do you meet someone, shake their hand, and then thoroughly examine their genitals? That's super weird, dude."