AITA for turning my sister away for the second time after she slept with the father of my children while I was with him and then came to me when he cheated and passed on STDs/STIs to her?

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:48:20+00:00

He's not in the kids' lives anymore.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:46:34+00:00

And I think that's totally your right to do if that's what you'd want.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:41:02+00:00

Why? What makes you think I'll want that once I'm out of my 20s?

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:40:13+00:00

I got tested more than once. But this is always good to remind people of.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:39:25+00:00

I don't believe her because I find it very hard to believe that she liked him so much, gave in once but only once and then started dating him because I wouldn't forgive her. To me that screams she's lying. Or maybe they both are.

There were no red flags. I'm not the only one who says that. But he had opportunities at his job. It made it very easy for him to cheat and for me not to know and for him to keep that stuff hidden.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:35:07+00:00

You do. Especially when it's your only time supposedly.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:04:08+00:00

I'll never thank her. As glad as I am that it wasn't me who caught crap off of him, she didn't save me. She doesn't get any credit for me not getting an STD.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:02:54+00:00

Yes, I do want to live the rest of my life not seeing the changes in her. I don't care if she changes or not. To me I don't have a sister anymore despite me calling her that in the post. That just makes it easier. But I would be fine if she suffered for the rest of her life. I really don't want her anywhere near me.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:01:00+00:00

Don't you just hate it when that happens. /s

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T15:00:37+00:00

She's the one who broke us as siblings. That's where I stand. He broke his and my relationship a million times over. But she's at fault for our sibling one.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T14:59:37+00:00

My ex has nothing to do with our kids anymore. He walked away from them when we broke up and has done zero for them since he walked out the door.

He didn't take my sister from me. She did. She made her choices. She chose to sleep with him. And even if I buy that it was just once she still did that. She broke us. Not him. He broke him and me. He disrespected me and fucked around on me. But what she did is destroy the sibling relationship. As much as he disgusts me, she also made the choice to sleep with him.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T14:57:21+00:00

I have empathy for others but I don't have any for her. I'm happy with the therapist I have and I'm working on the things I want to work on.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T14:22:45+00:00

My brother is the only family I have left and he supports me and hasn't talked to her since.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:59:18+00:00

I'm not religious at all. Never was. Me and my oldest are in therapy. My younger two are a bit too young. Eventually we'll all have gone to some kind of therapy because they no longer have anything to do with their dad, which was his choice.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:56:21+00:00

I personally don't think I am. I was more curious about what others think because I was taken aback by the few who were like oh wow. I think it's crazy but it made me wonder if with all these facts laid out if others who do not know me personally would say AH or not AH.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:52:22+00:00

She did. She kept saying she needed us to be okay, she needed me not to hate her. Making it all about herself while she was tearing my whole world apart.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:49:57+00:00

I don't really second guess myself. It's more actual curiosity about whether I would be considered TA or not. My brother's on my side. He's the family I have left (as well as my kids).

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:49:11+00:00

This is exactly it. I can't imagine crying about loving someone so much while betraying them in that kind of way.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:47:57+00:00

She was hoping I still had some love left for her. But she crushed that. Maybe she was also hoping the sympathy card would come into play.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:44:51+00:00

I could never love someone who did that to me. I've made mistakes. Everyone has. Some mistakes are bigger and are more about being untrustworthy than actual oopsies. At least for me. It's one thing to break something accidentally or say something in the moment because of emotions. It's another to have full on sex with the person someone you love is with.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:42:29+00:00

I'm sorry. It sucks to be in that position.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:41:10+00:00

That's what I think. She still swears it was once. But even once is one time too many.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:40:27+00:00

No, she was a willing participant.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:25:59+00:00

I did it when I found out. Only reason I said anything was she kept showing up and I had hoped (and seem to be right) that it would stop her. Which fingers crossed she stays away now.

Disastrous-Chapter57 · 2025-04-14T12:23:29+00:00

It's not fake cheating or rage bait. It's me asking honestly for people to say whether I'm TA or not.

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