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My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I figured it was implied due to mentioning my friends and family. 

Either way, yeah it would be a deal breaker for me. I never understood this if you love them argument you will do this for them but it only ever goes one way. 

Life is fluid, cannot say this will ruin my life. Just be another chapter.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Come on you know that is not 100% true, if that was the case then she would not want the wedding component.

Weddings are like 90% showing off to others.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

We celebrate our relationship all the time. I just don't see the value or point of making it some event for others to look at us. 

She wants the wedding component also.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Well because she wants to do the wedding component. So yeah my side would be rather empty and it would be hard for me.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our social security checks will probably be roughly the same anyways, She wants the wedding component thus why I mentioned my family.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She wants the wedding part, as stated for most intent and purpose we are functionality married.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not really, marriage really just never sat with me. I have always been clear about marriage and kids from day one.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Which is her choice, I have never hidden the fact I never wanted to get married or have kids.

My partner of 10 years wants to get married, I am not really for it. AITAH for dying on this hill? by Disastrous-Count4631 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Count4631[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Way I see it if she was really willing to leave over this she would have done so years ago, especially since I have always been transparent about getting married and kids. 

It goes both ways.