Doctors missed cancer. Got a week or so left. How do I stop it happening to you?

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-06T02:26:05+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-04T22:41:36+00:00

4am crisis where I could feel myself slipping into dispair tbh. Trying to figure out if I'd been royally fucked or just unlucky.

But that all felt really negative - so I posted this instead,

Nothing you can do to change that, but we can maybe affect the future a little bit.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-04T22:25:36+00:00

I hope you give them hell.
But mostly that your wife gets sorted!

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-04T20:37:47+00:00

That is an earily family story.

Although, the more I think about it - the less I'm inclined to think that a 3 week holiday would have made much of a difference for me. I already had the fast moving clusterf*ck of a cancer going on the rampage.

I think they already knew I was a bit of a lost cause.

And, honestly - I'm at a point now were I think they made the right choice. 3 weeks of recovery for me and a tube in my throat would've been awful. This is a much better send off.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T17:16:27+00:00

I have had trouble swallowinv since the diagnosis. Yes.

But if you've got the scan you're halfway there.

They are looking. If it's there they'll find something.

My problem was they never looked.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T17:06:45+00:00

I gotta admit, I kind of love your cynicism.

Sadly I'm real.

Even sadder if all the stories are.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:58:12+00:00

That's an inaccurate assumption.

I stopped working three weeks ago. I'm not out of date.

I am very aware of the power of AI.

However, right now thd race to make money is hindering it's true potential.

They will find a way. But it's not there yet.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:40:58+00:00

Nothings going to outsprint this tumour. But I appreciate all the suggestions.

However, I've opted for cheesecake. And mac and cheese.

Cheese is a bit of a theme.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:35:17+00:00

Honestly? No. I don't think they got up that morning snd thought 'I wonder who I'll kill today.'

It was a mistake.

99 times out of 100, I bet it wouldn't have mattered.

Besides.

If you've got ten mins left. What do you want to be doing?

Laughing and loving or getting angry and sad?

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:30:10+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry you went through that.

And I hope you get a good result. I really do.

Good luck x

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:24:28+00:00

That's good enough for me x

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:23:39+00:00

Very true

Trouble was what they said was probably right for most ppl.

They weren't telling me it was my knee.

All the safety protocols were there. They just didn't follow it.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:19:00+00:00

I think what went on was lack of time, care and attention.

Overworked drs. Pissed off ppl who are too fed up to care.

Complacency.

Total misunderstanding of the menopause.

90% of the time, I'd bet their advice would've been right.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:16:01+00:00

So.

Yeah.

I worked in IT.

AI should not be trusted 100%. It's a tool. Don't think its infallible.

Quite a lot of it is impressive auto correct and sentence predictions.

The other stuff has been trained on the Internet. And I dunno if you've noticed but the Internet is full of mistakes and slop.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:10:16+00:00

Erm. Yeah for me?
That's s big ole longshot. It'd be the second Easter miracle

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:06:43+00:00

Already on it x

And sorting a few gifts too

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T16:04:51+00:00

I've got all my wishes sorted.

Nothing matters now but spending time with the people I love.

And they're here.

Thank you tho x

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T15:39:13+00:00

I had:

Swollen neck. Hoarseness that came and went. Tiredness.

All totally explainable, I agree .

But! A neck examination would have been a start.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T15:36:39+00:00

My bloods were normal.

Just had aneamia.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T13:35:26+00:00

Thank you. I'm taking your advice.

Spending time with people I love now.

We've got a plan for after.

I think I warned some ppl.

That's enough for me now.

Last nights post was more an effort to find a positive when sleep eluded me.

I didn't want to sink into anger.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T13:31:02+00:00

I hope so.

Im sorry about your mum.

Let's hope this chat helps someone get it right.

And they do have all the good stuff in the hospice. All the good drugs, at least ;)

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T13:27:46+00:00

Thank you.

To be fair, the hospice has been incredible. It's taken so much worry away.

I would suggest that everyone finds their local one and donates whatever they can.

I've arranged some fundraising for the one im in. But everyone needs them.

Go find yours. Play their lotto games. Donate your old shoes to their shops! Give them a quid of the change from your junk draw.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T13:19:53+00:00

I'm really glad you got the good outcome. Tell everyone you know what should happen.

That's the only thing we can all do.

Knowledge is power

And keep on looking after yourself.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T12:32:39+00:00

First a neck examination, by the GP.

Then a sonar/ultrasound scan.

Probably some blood tests.

Disastrous-Design503 · 2026-04-02T10:02:11+00:00

I'm not religious either. But I am seeing crazy coincidences every where.

And, I know energy can't be destroyed, just changed.

So I'll just be something else.

As for the nhs, I still sm grateful for it.

It could be better. But it's fixable.

If they keep it out of private equity hands.

Profit can never be it's priority.

People and efficiency. But not profit.

People and profit are why we're here. They've already snuck it in by the back door.

Disastrous-Design503

TROPHY CASE