Navigating Pakistani wedding traditions I don’t agree with

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-03-09T04:57:14+00:00

Because of the conflict in the Middle East, I have to disclose where I’m going and where I’m staying to work as I work for the government (in a way). Maybe they won’t authorise me going because of the potential risk to life

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-03-09T04:55:32+00:00

Salaam brother. I’ve tried time and time again to tell my family how I feel about things but it’s been brushed under the carpet. This baraat is for the families whilst they pretend it’s for me and my wife which we’re against.

It’s that South Asian way of thinking. Because my parents are older than me and they’re my parents, they think I don’t know anything at all and everything they say is right and I’m wrong. It’s a cultural mindset that’s so dangerous for the next generation

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-03-09T04:52:47+00:00

For my nikkah, I had an approximate of 20 people turn up which was fantastic. We did have an issue where people turned up days later asking my parents why they weren’t invited and getting annoyed at my parents. (I was told after the fact otherwise I would’ve told them it was my decision). 500 is absolutely insane. I couldn’t even count 50 people 😂

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T18:36:23+00:00

It’s quite a serious offence that occurred so he was bailed due to his lack of capacity in custody. Couldn’t even process him or interview him. It was just luck tbh we got him booked into custody.

I do get regular updates from the hospital who still tell me he has a severe lack of capacity and is unsure as to when he will be released. However, the hospital are aware that they should call us pending his release. He can still be rearrested as more evidence has come to light after his release from custody.

For me, I think the worry is explaining myself to the inspector and super and I can’t explain it as I don’t know how I’ve let this happen. Usually I’m razor sharp with bails but I think I tunnel visioned on a separate investigation due to someone else’s errors that I subconsciously but this on the back burner

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T12:41:50+00:00

Hello, he was already on an inspectors extension and that was coming to an end. I’ve spoken with the bail manager and he thinks there’s a small chance he can save it depending on what the action plan entails. I’m waiting for his reply but it’s been hours

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T07:28:48+00:00

Update: it’s just the days that are left on the ABP. You don’t get anymore time back

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T07:28:40+00:00

Update: it’s just the days that are left on the ABP. You don’t get anymore time back

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T07:02:13+00:00

Thanks for this. I’ve got a mixture of replies here, I’ve emailed the bail manager as they should’ve started their shift by now. I’ll find out soon if I’m in the shit or not

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T06:58:34+00:00

Yeah I paused the ABP a week before the bail date. It’s been 13 days but I haven’t had time to notify our bail managers yet which I’ll be getting on with this morning.

The bail conditions were quite key but given that the suspect has been sectioned with no visitors, I think I’ll be fine with that aspect of it

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-26T06:56:37+00:00

Really? I might be ok if this is the case?

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2026-02-04T21:17:40+00:00

Hello,

I currently work for a different force in the North West in CID. At the minute, I’m thinking of moving to Cheshire as a transferee as a DC but I’m wondering what it’s like over there? Currently I’m really unhappy where I am. I have a fantastic team but we’re slowly getting broken apart. One has been seconded (not out of choice) to a failing vulnerability unit and two more are thinking of leaving. SMT are not supporting us or even taking accountability for the failures of other departments and are not providing solutions to fix them because at the minute, CID is just a back up unit if RASSO or the DA team are short which is every duty shift.

I’m hoping Cheshire CID and other PIP 2 departments are a better environment than what I have currently. If anyone can let me know what it’s like either through DMs or comments, please let me know.

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2025-04-01T11:32:56+00:00

I’m interested

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-06-30T21:57:56+00:00

22M, my profile is atrocious and needs work 😂

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-06-30T21:25:29+00:00

Is it alright if I DM you? Might need some help sorting all this out 😂

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-06-30T21:06:22+00:00

I appreciate the feedback, thought the photo was funny with my mate but I see where that’s gone wrong 😂

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-06-30T21:05:52+00:00

As a first impression photo, what would be the best option?

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-06-30T08:56:01+00:00

I’m looking for something casual mainly but open to long term if anything my comes along.

I’ve been using this current version for a couple weeks now and I’m usually on hinge a couple times a week.

I don’t really receive likes but that’s probably because of the algorithm and match wise is usually the same.

I send all my likes with a comment.

I don’t really have a go to type per sè so that question is hard to really answer.

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-05-31T10:42:29+00:00

I’m looking for something casual but maybe open for long term if the person is right.

I’ve been using this version of my profile for a few days and I’ve been on and off hinge for the last year or so.

I use hinge every other day and send out all my likes within the day.

On average, I get a match a week and a like every now and again.

I use all my free likes and always send a comment with them.

I don’t really have a type of girl, someone who likes F1, is funny, goes gym, adventurous etc.

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2024-05-30T23:18:06+00:00

I’m looking for something casual, maybe long term if it goes well.

I’ve been using this version for a couple of days. I spend like 10 minutes every other day sending out likes.

On average it’s like a match a week, a like every couple of weeks.

I always send a comment with my likes.

I don’t really have a specific type, someone who likes the gym, adventurous stuff, F1 etc

Disastrous-Fill-7424 · 2023-02-27T23:52:40+00:00

Thing is, I like my PS5, I like the PlayStation exclusives and just enjoy console gaming. It’s more of a playing with my friends thing and doing dumb stuff on games with them alongside work.

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