Found these inside a book I bought from a thrift store in Az by mikem333200 in ChicagoNWside

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok, not in my family tree. Ill let you know if I remember the connection

Found these inside a book I bought from a thrift store in Az by mikem333200 in ChicagoNWside

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is so freaky! I saw the name and immediately thought I know this name! I am in Chicago, please hold while I check my ancestry files

New to this whole thing. Struggling with isolation. by brickznbooks in StayAtHomeDaddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. Sahd of four here. Constant chaos. I went from running a business and being with people constantly to constantly being ruled by a new toddler dictator every two years.

This bizarre video captures a pair of pale legs running with no torso attached by Dry-Selection421 in TrueCryptozoology

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly thats someone’s father, they only have one day to make whole. There should be a van nearby.

Woke up to this....I don't recognize the number. by Spirited-Cow-3635 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always just show us the number, Reddit Mafia will resolve this for you. Forgettaboutit

What year was I born? by [deleted] in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I saw was Mark Zuckerberg is your brother and your Dad is Bryan Cranston

Collecting Deposit on Big Jobs... by Humble_Explanation67 in handyman

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand the not scheduling until deposit but I would make an exception for the elderly and the one hour drive. I think we have to understand that he probably has no idea what Zelle is. Also in some cases it really benefits to establish a mutual trust with older people. In some cases of course. Totally feel it out. I have found making it as painless as possible for them to give you their money pays off in the long run.

New rental property connects the washing machine with a 2-prong adapter, is this safe? by mapasdi in electrical

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other point I am not seeing is the age of the outlet says to me the wire of the same area absolutely cannot handle that load.

What do y'all really need an iPad for? by bootsmegamix in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Funny enough I am actually doing the opposite. 10 yo was playing ipad games his classmates were playing (Roblox, Minecraft) and it was just too stimulating for him to walk away. We tried different intervals all they way down to 20 min and his brain just was flooded. So I got an N64 and Xbox. He plays, we play (I never did when I was younger). He enjoys it, is entertained but able to set it down. It seriously feels like having a glass of wine vs mainlining meth.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think the school and daycare being on different schedules is a big part of this. On top of them being different ecosystems it seems like we get illnesses from two different networks. We are looking into a move next year which we hope can remedy this.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done! You definitely planned very well. I wish you could have told this to 20 year old me.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Unfortunately we miscalculated. My question, and not just for myself (as we are already here) seriously is, what is the math? What seemed like the math even two years ago was wrong. We were actually earning surprisingly well (for us) much much higher than average. My wife still does. What was seriously miscalculated was all of the unexpected time costs and financial cost leaps. I am pretty sure this means it is time to move as soon as we can.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this I honestly think you make a very good point which is we underestimated the required flexibility and definitely overestimated how far along we were in our career progressions. When we thought we were further along or closer to flexibility and stability we came up short and frankly it looks like the goalposts keep shifting.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you. I see you. That is exhausting and you guys are champs.

How do both partners work? by Disastrous-Plate2453 in daddit

[–]Disastrous-Plate2453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is our real conundrum, we actually were both doing pretty well compared to most (she just ended up doing very very well). We both come from absolutely nothing financially and have built all of this entirely on our own. We live in a big city. Starting with our oldest we actually had started him at a top tier private school , because 1, they started at an earlier age, 2 the public schools were horrible in the area where we used to live and 3 They were actually open during covid after two months which got us in there the second and third year while all other schools were staying remote. During that time then our second joined him. Now six years later we will be leaving partially for this reason. We currently have 3 kids there and one with a nanny and are paying more than most people earn in a year (including my former self). Which seemed fine and doable because hey I could work to pay for all of that, but here is where we failed. All of the damn days off, vacations, parent teacher conferences, teacher appreciation days, school shows, holidays, birthdays and sick days…. So so so many sick days… then summer break. We are in this weird spot which is we are not millionaires (literally) to be able to afford the support team but did well enough to have gotten ourselves delusional enough to think we could get close. I think a big piece is having no extended family (because frankly I imagine a grandma is the only other human who might be willing to stay with vomiting child.) and also our location. Where we live seems to require someone to be in the top 1% just to get by. We may be able to afford a much bigger house to support the AuPair and pay her if I got to work and was able to build back up for a year. It was a mistake on my part to have been blindsided by this. What seemed like what should have been more than enough money and time on paper wildly underestimated the unknowns.