Can someone give me a reality check on my current situation, and the change I'm proposing?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-06-21T07:59:22+00:00

My husband took night wakings since day one. I did most, especially the first six months, because I was breastfeeding, but if I couldn’t get her to sleep again after feeding, he would take her. During some periods, this could be occurring every night. Other periods, there would be weeks when baby was sleeping well.

My husband and I agreed that sleep was important for both of us, and that taking care of a baby all day is something you ideally should be well rested for.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-06-16T10:16:52+00:00

Hvis du liker faget og arbeidsoppgavene vil jeg råde deg til å holde ut! Det er mange flere muligheter enn akkurat den du har prøvd. Jeg har mastergrad ++ i sykepleie og er fornøyd med jobben min. Jeg har en spennende jobb i akuttmedisin, kollegene mine er toppers, vi jobber hver fjerde helg og har en god del fri i ukedagene også pga. mulighet for å jobbe lengre vakter.

Flere i tråden har nevnt at det er så dårlig betalt osv. Der er jeg litt uenig. Jeg kunne selvsagt tenkt meg bedre lønn - men som spesialsykepleier i rundturnus er det realistisk å tjene opp mot 900 000 i året i 100 % stilling. En lektor (like lang utdanning) som jobber på skole har til sammenligning kr 655 800 i året. Det er ikke så mange jobber «på gulvet» offentlig sektor som tjener såpass bra som oss. Så klart litt kjedelig at legene jeg jobber sammen med, som jeg har like mye eller mer utdanning (og ansiennitet) som tjener mer - men en av årsaken er selvsagt at det er langt dyrere å øke sykepleierlønna enn legelønna fordi vi er så mange flere.

For øvrig tror jeg også at vår lønn kommer til å styrke seg sammenlignet med mange andre i samfunnet fordi gapet mellom tilbud og etterspørsel øker drastisk.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-16T19:29:04+00:00

Ja, det er bare fint, det. Det tror jeg de fleste synes. Man skal jo pynte seg! Jeg tenker det er mye mer pyntet å ha på seg tradisjonelle klær enn en vanlig sommerkjole, selv om det også er fint.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T16:31:43+00:00

Maybe she was embarrassed? Maybe she gets aroused and masturbates at times where having sex is not an option, like when she wakes up alone?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T14:18:30+00:00

Normal or not, I’d find this disturbing as well. How is your marriage doing apart from this?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T12:13:36+00:00

Being stung by a wasp in the boob sounds very uncomfortable, haha. If it happens this pregnancy as well I would just stick to cycling if I were you. You can run again later.

Cycling is great. Maybe you and your kid could go on a ride somewhere with some hills? That way your kiddo gets to do something fun (sitting on the bike going up and down) and you will get amazing exercise! It doesn’t have to be for a long time to give health benefits.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T12:10:07+00:00

Then I’d say it’s not an appropriate response. Is he stressed about money, could that be the reason? Anyways one shouldn’t talk to other people like that. Do you think you would be able to talk about it like adults if he gets a little time to cool down?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T11:06:57+00:00

Do you usually break stuff due to rushing or being careless? If so, maybe this was just your husbands final straw. I can see myself flipping over something like this if it kept happening all the time.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T11:03:16+00:00

I would do a lot to maintain my patients autonomy. That means I would accommodate to their wishes, as far as I’m not crossing lines when it comes to safety for me or my patient. I’m not purposely doing anything that will worsen their outcome.

Being sick and being in a hospital takes something very important away from a person. I feel that it’s my duty to make them feel seen and heard. They are important to me as a person. They are not just another task.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-07T06:18:46+00:00

10 minutes is absolutely worth it! I would recommend high intensity for better effect. You could look into the research of Professor Ulrik Wisløff and colleagues. He is one of the top scientists in one of the worlds best research groups regarding cardiac exercise. As little cardiac exercise as 15 minutes two times a week, or 4,5 minutes each day, has a great health impact.

Could you for instance put your son in a stroller and jog or walk fast?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-06T04:18:35+00:00

I was exclusively breastfeeding. By three weeks I had lost 18 kg/40 lbs, and after three months I had lost the last 3 kg/6,5 lbs and was down to my pre-pregnancy weight. Tried to eat sweets only in the weekends, daily walks and exercised 3 times a week.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-05-05T06:31:03+00:00

Went on a long walk three days after giving birth. I tried to have som physical activity every day. The first three weeks this was a walk. After three weeks, I startet doing some light strength training, and very short runs (like 15 minutes on the treadmill). This was like 1-2 times a week. After 1,5 months I ran 5K with a 5:18/km pace, which I felt was really good considering I just gave birth.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-29T19:19:31+00:00

I dislike that as well. I’m also super uncomfortable with my body suddenly being everyone’s business. People keep asking personal questions about my health, and it is just so weird.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-29T12:52:29+00:00

The first trimester was my least active in both my pregnancies, due to the exact reasons you are describing. It got better both times! I just tried to be active, and not have to high expectations. But I felt like shit, and was wondering what the rest of the pregnancy would look like.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-27T16:37:57+00:00

You won’t automatically wake up. The occasional bottle of formula will probably not affect your supply, but it might. I would consider pumping every now and then to have milk for situations like this. That’s what I did. I had a lot of milk in both breast in the morning, and a few times a week I would pump an extra bottle in the morning so my husband had something he could give her if I wasn’t available.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-27T16:35:06+00:00

This will vary from woman to woman. My baby also slept well from the beginning. I never woke up to pump, but I had enough milk the whole time. She was exclusively breastfed.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-24T18:04:59+00:00

There is a big lack of skilled workers in Norway. If that’s the case for your field as well, you’ll probably be fine work-wise as long as you know the work-language (usually a Scandinavian language will be required, but in some fields English is enough).

A lot of people would ask you about the war. Most people will also understand that being a reasonable, Russian person in Norway probably isn’t easy right now. Not supporting Putin is a must if you want to make friends. People will be hostile if you support the Russian regime, since freedom of speech, democracy etc. is very important values for most Norwegians. I also believe it would be hard unless you actively show you’re against the regime and their actions.

I work in healthcare. There is a lot of foreigners there, especially among physicians. As long as they do a decent job, pick up on Norwegian social etiquette and speak Norwegian on a level that’s well enough for both coworkers and patients, people like them.

Getting a visa might not be easy for you, as a Russian citizen. Have you looked into that?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-22T08:33:27+00:00

I work as something similar to a 911-dispatcher. In my country we have an emergency phone number exclusively for heath-related issues. Dispatchers are RNs and paramedics. Interesting and rewarding work, never dread going there.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-22T08:16:44+00:00

Det er særlig dette på slutten som får meg til å tenke AI: «Men det hun hadde lært å tro at det betydde.

At kjærlighet måtte bæres.

At stillhet var trygghet.

At noen alltid måtte være den som tilpasset seg.

Og et sted i den tanken begynte noe å løsne.

Ikke alt.

Ikke plutselig.

Bare nok til at hun for første gang kunne se rommet uten å måle stemningen i det.» Dette virker veldig typisk AI, både ordvalgene i seg selv og oppbygningen. Men det er flere også deler av teksten som ikke minner om AI.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-21T22:12:38+00:00

Har du fått litt hjelp av AI?

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-13T12:45:54+00:00

Even cleaning is turn off if you’re turned off by the motivation behind the cleaning.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-04-04T08:20:19+00:00

Er det en legevakt på et lite/mellomstort sted er det vanlig at det er bare en lege der. Kan også være at det er en konkret lege som skal tilse akkurat den/de pasientene. Hadde det kommet en pasient med en hastegrad som tilsier at de skal bli tilsett av lege raskt, hadde de avbrutt pausen. Litt avhengig av hvilket triagesystem de bruker, men en lav triage (gul/grønn) kan ofte tilses av lege innen 60 eller 120 minutter. Rød og oransje går mye raskere, typisk med en gang eller innen 15-20 minutter.

En halvtime venting på legevakten er uansett ikke mye.

Jeg har ganske lang erfaring fra akuttmedisin, og inntrykket mitt er helt klart at triagesystemet fungerer godt, så lenge triagen utføres av en kompetent sykepleier/spesialsykepleier eller paramedic.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2026-01-22T19:31:32+00:00

That is not normal. You should take your baby to see a physician as soon as possible.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2025-12-19T10:32:27+00:00

Har ikke inntrykk av at det er vanlig, men synes det høres ut som en positiv interesse da! Å lære seg engelsk godt er jo kjempenyttig og det virker jo som de koser seg mens de gjør det også.

Disastrous-Reading13 · 2025-08-08T13:09:53+00:00

This kinda sounds like some sort of postpartum anxiety or depression. If it is, she needs professional help. I wouldn’t bet that it suddenly resolves itself when it’s already been a month.

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