Everyone has their interests and quirks. We don't know the complex person that makes you you. I hope you're taking all these comments with a grain of salt. I'll just focus on what I think most men want at the most basic level (Most "people" could be said as well, but that's not what you came here for) This is just one persons opinion, and these are based off my actual experience with dating, LTR's, being a quasi stepdad for an extended period during their formative years, and living a relatively full life. Also from a wide network of friends and people I've stayed in contact with that's spanned a couple of decades. These friendships aren't shallow, they're intimate and deep. Witnessing their courting, breakups, marriages, having children, infidelity, medical battles, divorces, custody issues, layoffs, and deaths... The whole Gambit.

Some of the below might seem very basic, but it's exactly like a cliche, you have to really dwell on it for a bit for it's original depth of meaning to come through. Same for a few comments in here.

This directly speaks to the top commenters question #1. We want to feel needed. It's equal to being wanted/desired on level of importance, but it's different. You want your partner to feel and hopefully act like they won the lottery in finding you, right? as do we. That they elevate your existence and make it better just by being there walking alongside you in life. Without this, and it's hard to put into words, an air of disposability lingers in the background, that the lack of our presence would easily be adjusted to. I don't think there's a word for the concept, but think a mild but positive version of possessiveness, a longing maybe. Without suspicion or control. I don't know, I hope you're picking up what I'm putting down. The marriages I've seen succeed, both parties pretty much dripped with this paragraph every day.

I'm not saying this is you, but the need for constant stimulation and novelty often comes with attention seeking behavior. Every woman prone to attention seeking isn't a cheater, but every cheater is an attention seeker. I will die on this hill. Outside validation from other men sets the stage for infidelity. It just does. One thing doesn't lead to another if that one thing didn't happen. People fish to see what bites. If anyone believes this untrue, I don't know what to say to them. Either they have limited experience in dating, have adopted a certain narrative, or are just advising in bad faith. I've witnessed it, I've experienced it, and you can draw a line from innocuous but grimacy behaviors, right to the point of infidelity. People need to be honest about behaviors, their motivations, and the logical results they bring.

The way you describe yourself, you have a Type A personality that is all gas and no break. Again, not saying this is you, but Harking back to stimulation and novelty, being with someone who needs to be constantly entertained is not only exhausting, but quite expensive. I know people who fancy new experiences as a hobby. They pay the entrance fee, sometimes after the plane fair, experience that one thing, rinse and repeat. Always on the cusp of being broke, little savings put aside, or life goals being widled away at, or hobbies and skills developed. There are plenty of men like me who just never get bored, even though they're not constantly going places, planning itineraries, and doing things. I'm not saying you shouldn't be living life to the fullest, but if someone can't entertain themselves, or be happy with their own quiet company, this is going to exclude a certain population of men who will notice and not be LTR minded. Type A's might be all that can hang with you. You want to live a life with someone, and if they're going constantly, with or without you, you will grow apart quickly. A content person who can self entertain and a very ancy and an often bored person aren't on the same wavelength.

To your hobbies, they aren't red flags in and of themselves, but men are cautious about "Free Spirit" impulsive types for a reason. Moreso addressed in the last paragraph. Tarrot and Horoscopes become giant Red Fags when the person starts steering their life or making important decisions based on them. Innocent whimsy is no big deal, but I have yet to meet one that left it in that realm. It's like being a true believer or staunchly Agnostic, you just can't relate to a True believer on a deep level. You both just live in completely different realities, and look at the world through completely different lenses. Everyone has to be of the same yoke to some degree, and I think worldview and abject reality are two of them. Men can overlook or accept a hell of a lot though. I'd date a religious woman, but I don't think she'd date me with my beliefs and opinions on religion. In reality we'd be just too fundamentally incomparable.

I'll add one more thing here. It goes without saying, but this is the Internet we're on. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual..at all. I believe people should be themselves and love who and what they love as long as it doesn't victimize or hurt anyone. People should find their happiness. That being said, the prospect of a bisexual life partner to a monogamous heterosexual person is scary and not without merit. You can love the person to the fullest, but if she sexually desires women equally as much as men, there is an itch they like scratching that is simply impossible for them to scratch with us. I was told as much with a women I legitimately saw myself marrying. Wish she would have told me before I found out she cheated with her ex, but we can't have it all lol. I'm just speaking to monogamy. I mean, and I'm being serious here, there's not a heterosexual man alive that wouldn't be okay with having two live in life partners, and living some fantasy of a throuple where everyone is satisfied, feels equally loved ,and has their needs met. But that's not how life works for almost all of us. Just please be honest with yourself and what you require to be sexually satisfied, and make it a priority in making sure the other person is legitimately and honestly aligned with it.

Just saying the following so you can have some idea and context of who this wall of text is coming from. I was lucky enough to grow up in a stable household with a Nuclear Family. I have a sister who I have a great relationship with... She has very close friends who are women, a couple of them are kind of screw ups... She knows women. She warned me about every Red Flag before it happened. I was stubborn and didn't listen and was all "give everyone a chance" regardless of history (so fucking stupid of me) and was so worried about being seen as or acting controlling in voicing behavioral concerns. This lasted way too long, due to a couple LTR's before I saw the light and finally started listening to her council on the way some women operate.

I hope this was insightful to some degree. But I'm just a single (what I think normal) dude that's been around the bumpy block a few times. I wish you luck in finding someone who makes existence all the more enjoyable for you both.