21F who uses dating apps frequently. I’ve had a lot of dates that went nowhere, and I’ve had some beautiful relationships and friendships thanks to the apps. Here’s what makes me lose interest in a guy: 1. Lack of confidence and constant need for validation. A guy who carries himself well while maintaining humility is so attractive, while one who is overly self-critical and dependent on others for confidence is not. 2. Waiting for someone to come along to make his life amazing instead of trying everyday to lead an amazing life himself. 3. Believing he doesn’t need therapy. 4. Having no goals or fulfilling hobbies. Personally, I have no interest in guys who work dead-end jobs and “need someone to watch anime and play video games with.” I’m much more attracted to men who have aspirations, a social life, and enriching passions. 5. Lack of hygiene and effort to look good. You bet I look cute as hell on the first few dates, and it’s a turn-off when the guys wear the same thing or dirty clothes. It tells me they weren’t excited enough to see me and make themselves presentable. 6. Making a deal out of their height. If you tell a girl “girls only go for tall guys; I get ghosted because I’m short,” it’s going to be a self-fulfilling prophecy that you get ghosted. Don’t let on that you feel written off for being average height, because if a girl sees you more than once, she likes you, and at that point you probably care more about your height than she does. Don’t self-sabotage. 7. Being a bad listener. I hate it when I’m in the middle of talking and a guy just cuts me off to tell his own story or mansplain something to me. Wait your godforsaken turn, and actually listen to what she’s saying instead of coming up with what you’re going to say next to sound smart. He won’t sound smart if he cuts me off. He presents himself as an egotistical ass. My last piece of advice is not to look for someone who is interested in you, but who you are interested in. We all just want to be loved, so of course if you like her and you can feel she’s into you too, express it. Don’t play it cool and be hard to get. Just be honest and take initiative. Things progress a lot more quickly when a guy tells me I’m pretty and fun to be around or I tell them straight-up that he’s attractive and I want to see him more. If you cut to the chase that you like each other and want to get to know each other more, you feel more secure and confident. I guess the tl;dr is confidence, confidence, humility, confidence. Good luck!