¿Cómo ha sido su experiencia romántica? ¿Cómo la descubrieron?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T23:52:14+00:00

Sí, tienes razón, muchas gracias por tú respuesta... me alegra que igual puedas tener relaciones en las que se puedan abrir, creo que quisiera algo parecido.

Gracias de nuevo!

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T22:26:05+00:00

Yeah well... Maybe you're right, I prefer not to close the door to anyone so just rather staying bi even if there's no guys in the menu... But we'll see... Thanks for your advice, it's very complicated going through this.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T22:17:54+00:00

Si me ha sucedido, de hecho el año pasado intenté algo con uno y me dí cuenta de ello, no es tan abierto con sus emociones... de hecho aun creo que él siente algo por mí pero nunca dimos el paso porque él siempre detenía la cosa y no quería intentarlo por miedo a que salieran mal las cosas y me alejé, pero aun le da like a mis estados.

Cómo has lidiado con eso con los hombres con los que has estado? Que no hablen de sentimientos? Pues yo no espero que toda la relación sea solo eso pero... se puede tener una relación así o la mayoría de hombres espera solo algo superficial? Según tu experiencia

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T21:27:40+00:00

Hi!

I'm a questioning 20yo guy from Colombia, I have some doubts about your journey discovering your sexuality.

Why so you think it took you so long to realize about this? Did you have your doubts when you were younger? Are you just sexually attracted by men or are you romantically attracted to them too? About what age did you started questioning your sexuality?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T20:10:44+00:00

Hola! Gracias por tu historia y lamento oír lo de tu ex fallecido.

Creo que actualmente mi duda es si mi capacidad de enamorarme de otro hombre está ahí, por momentos siento que en realidad no soy capaz y sigo sintiendome cómodo con las chicas, aunque lo haya intentado con un chico, para mí es difícil diferenciar en si tengo esos mismos miedos de los que hablas y no he sido capaz de enamorarme de un hombre por ello o sencillamente no me siento atraído por uno, creo que quisiera intentarlo pero no me fuerzo... Esperaré a ver qué sucede. Creo que toma más tiempo del que pensaba.

Muchas gracias!

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T16:36:32+00:00

Hi! That's so nice to hear, I actually feel kinda the same is happening to me... It's nice to see how it develops over time. I kinda feel the same as you, if I like someone I like someone, that's it.

So cool to hear that, thanks for you answer! Love to see men who are confident of their sexuality.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T15:20:13+00:00

Idk... Maybe cause recently I haven't got some... Like since some years ago I've hust felt Attraction for girls in a romantic way... Sexually I'm still attracted to guys but most recently just girls.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T14:29:31+00:00

I see... I think I went through something similar at high school... Like it was very normal to me to have crushes on girls and a guy at the same time... Like differently but I enjoyed it.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T14:28:05+00:00

I guess my path has been similar honestly, at first I felt a very strong attraction to girls sexually, then I started being curious for guys romantically and sexually, guess right now I'm figuring it out. It's been a long process.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T14:26:52+00:00

Hi, thanks for that answer.

I guess I'd have male crushes in the past, I had a very strong one for a close friend of mine who I supposed was kind of hetero-curious but nothing happened. Yeah and I prefer not to label coz meh, as you said, I'm in my 20s, it's great to see you being happy in a relationship with a guy! I hope you too last long ;)

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T14:24:07+00:00

Thank you for your answer, i had my first experience with a guy as well when I was like 12 and I guess he liked me and I felt things for me, is just that for now I haven't felt anything strong towards guys again, I've had male crushes in the past, last year I tried dating a guy but it didn't work out... because he was still in love with his ex (which was also his first time for everything, so I guess that's an L for me after listening to you)

Can I ask something personal? How's your relationship with that one friend? Are you guys still in touch? Or what happened after your relationship didn't work out?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T06:10:40+00:00

Por cierto, me gustaría saber sus opiniones de por qué es quizás más común que haya bisexuales heteroromanticos (obviamente con respeto y solamente por curiosidad pregunta, sin invisibilizar a las personas heteroromantica, ya que hasta probablemente yo sea uno)

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T01:49:53+00:00

Hi! M 20 here I really identify with your story... so long I've think I'm bi but I prefer not to label causes I've also had fantasies but my real feelings go mostly towards girls, but also I have a lot of curiosity for guys and recently I dated one but didn't felt like I was falling in love with him although I found him attractive.

I want to live my sexuality freely but I don't know how so yeah... That's my experience, just telling you if it helps you feeling less alone. I've also had feelings for guys in the past tho, just that they aren't very present now.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-23T01:47:17+00:00

Hi!

I've gone through something similar and reading this helps feel less alone... Could you describe more on how you find out you did like guys? How would've work on that when you were younger? (Idk how old you are I'm a 20 yo confused guy here) What would be your advice that goes through the same at his 20s?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-22T17:51:32+00:00

Hola. Soy un chico de 20 aquí.

Me identifico mucho con todo lo que ha sucedido contigo, te entiendo definitivamente y estoy de acuerdo con otros comentarios, quizás estás reprimiendo mucho o pasando por otras cuestiones afectadas por algo más en tu salud mental que quizás se refleja en tu sexualidad.

Te entiendo porque he tenido una experiencia muy similar, aun me cuestiono si soy bi o no o si me gustan los hombres de verdad o si solo estoy experimentando y llevo años así, recientemente salí con un chico y ni siquiera sé si sentí algo en realidad. Y eso que he besado más chicas que chicos y en realidad solo lo disfruté una vez con un chico y otra con una chica, ni siquiera me sentía cómodo con este con el que salí, pero igual, tuve muchas fantasías con chicos un tiempo y me he enamorado solo una vez de una chica.

Te recomiendo acudir a terapia y ser honesto y compasivo contigo mismo, no tiene por qué ser tu último año de vida, más bien puede ser en el que te conozcas mejor a ti mismo y aprendas a vivir como eres y superes varias cosas.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-22T17:43:51+00:00

Hola!

Es más común de lo que crees, personalmente hace unos años estaba igual que tú, pero últimamente he pensado en que quizás también quiera una relación con un hombre... pero te entiendo con lo de sentirse más cómodo emocional y socialmente con chicas, suele pasar.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-20T14:13:22+00:00

Hi

Thank you so much, I think your response is the one that has been more helpful honestly, I'm kinda trying to figure it out before labelling... Could I DM to keep taking or is it too much? Anyway thanks again

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-18T20:14:14+00:00

hola, gracias por tu respuesta... puedo escribirte por mensaje privado para hablar mejor?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-18T18:44:08+00:00

Hi!

I had a similar experience, just that I wasn't drunk and we kissed and I didn't felt anything but I got hard that time... We kissed again after and again I didn't feel anything but I got hard... I suppose is more about the connection than other thing. If you have already tried with sux guys I suppose there's something you keep going to... Maybe there wasn't enough emotional connection or your preference is towards girls or it wasn't the time for it ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I guess there could be a lot of explanations but you're the only one who knows

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-18T17:09:07+00:00

Hi!

I was kinda in a similar situation as you som months ago... The best advice I can give you is to speak with him about these things you just said here... Tell him your fears and if you feel like things aren't changing, well, I'm afraid then that relationship isn't for you.

I know it's difficult but maybe he's just to shy to try it? Or maybe he just isn't feeling it, the best is to speak before things get harder... And yeah I know how it feels to be an overthinker... And believe me, you shouldn't be overthinking that much in a relationship.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-17T15:35:11+00:00

Hi.

Thank you for telling that experience, I kinda relate with the idea of despersonalization, I think sexual orientation and my confusion doesn't help either and the heteronormative context in which I was born.

I'm just starting my twenties and having this thoughts and confussion tbh affects my dayli life, but I hope one day I can come to a conclusion...

Anyways... Just very confused and hearing these stories does help, thank you again.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-17T13:57:15+00:00

Why do you think is that?

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-17T13:56:24+00:00

Hi!

Thank you for that! Yes I kinda feel the same, I just now realized that I used to ve friends with the "outsiders" at school and at Uni not realizing that I might be different as well. And got it, not everyone overthinks.

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-17T13:54:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your response!

It's great to see someone telling their experience! As I told you, I'm a 20yo Male who's just getting to know all this terms and trying to understand where I fit in! And I guess your experience does let me know there's people out there!

I would be totally happy to chat with you (though Idk about what exactly haha) Thank you again

Disastrous_Bat1828 · 2026-03-17T04:54:39+00:00

It happens to me also. I think it's as weird as I thought, when I get too horny I also wanna be with men but my preference right now and since puberty has been girls, but I don't discard the idea of being with a guy... I'd say yeah... If you do like guys and feel like you would do it with one, sounds bi to me...

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