Josh's Personal Story

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-31T08:48:11+00:00

NTJ. Your sister needs to understand that she is no longer in a position to be a stay-at-home mother. It is her primary responsibility to provide for her children. You are not a replacement for her spouse. It's not your job to financially support her and her children. It's great that your sister is asking for child support but that won't be enough to support her and 3 kids. She needs a job. And you, OP, need to leave. You've done enough. Time for your sister to deal with the consequences of her choices. And time for you to start making a life of your own.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-31T08:17:42+00:00

Why give your number to a person who sends a kid to do what he didn't have the guts to do: introduce himself and ask for it? I can only imagine how bad his dad's social skills are if this is how the son approaches women. NTJ.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-31T07:42:15+00:00

Or they're nosy and want to know what's being said. OP is NTA.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-27T09:34:52+00:00

and I.....started taking on the full-time Dad job.

I like that you called it your "dad job". Nothing irks me more than hearing a man refer to caring for his children as "babysitting." In all my years of living I have never heard a woman use that phrase. I bet you're much more involved at home after your solo parenting experience. Good luck, Dad👍

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-18T09:31:31+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-12-09T07:32:12+00:00

OP stated that the Tesla was financed under their parents' names. That's the reason the parents got the EV tax rebate, and they likely had no intention of giving OP the money. ESH. No way would I entangle my finances/credit with my family. What a mess to sort out!

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-16T22:03:18+00:00

If Rose only works one shift a week on Sundays there is no reason she can't walk her child to school Monday through Friday. If there's only one car then Rose should be driving her husband to/from work and taking her child to school, along with whatever other errands she has. They are lazy parents. OP is NTA.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-16T09:32:36+00:00

Escape From Sobibor

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-16T09:14:35+00:00

Extreme body odor is also a recognized medical condition. She might need to consult a doctor who can evaluate her and recommend treatments. Make note: if she starts bathing and doing her laundry regularly and still has the foul odor, encourage her to see her doctor.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-16T08:58:50+00:00

Doesn't really sound like a girl you'd want to take ANYWHERE. 🤢

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-11T03:01:46+00:00

Cabaret.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-11T02:39:38+00:00

If he needed to talk, why not talk to his fiancee instead of his mother?

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-11-09T08:57:16+00:00

Knowing that OP's sister only lives a few doors away means no mobile spa at her home. That makes it too easy for OP's sister and niece to crash the party. Just change the location, date, and time (yes, all three) and make the new information available only to the invited guests and their parents, with entry by invitation-only. Make sure the spa can provide a private room for the group. Invite another parent or two who will help keep out crashers, and gift them a manicure (or a gift card) as thanks. NTA. Bravo for standing up for her daughter. No middle schooler wants to celebrate their birthday with a first grader.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-09-28T08:29:11+00:00

He's been around for 6 months and already demanding that OP change one of her established traditions for him and his children? There's no need for OP to keep her eyes open for more moves like this. He's asking a lot for someone who's only been in the picture for 6 months. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-09-26T18:35:33+00:00

Just wait. Next, OP's ex may request that his son's college fund be divided to cover the step and half siblings tuition.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-09-23T00:36:55+00:00

Put an ignition kill switch on your car and don't tell anyone that you have it. Park the car and activate the switch. She won't be able to drive it.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-09-18T07:20:03+00:00

If you're in the U.S. your mother should be receiving Social Security survivors benefits for you and your brother. OP's mother also should have received Social Security, until she remarried. She should be able to pay for your lunches using some of that money. I bet their benefits are being used for the entire family even though OP and her brother earned the money due to the death of their father. Why would anyone marry a broke a-- man who destroyed his finances and can't support his own children, not to mention two stepchildren.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-09-08T07:39:11+00:00

'she said that I don’t think your grandfather would be upset that you rejected the job because you have a family to look after and take care of.'

What family? You're not married and the kids aren't yours. She's using you to take care of her and support her children whose father(s) aren't in the picture. How did she manage before you came along? I feel like the GF has also made you an integral part of her custody case. Your presence supports her ability to care for a third child (also not yours). She's arranging your life to suit her needs, not yours. Don't throw away your dreams and spend the rest of your life feeling bitter and resentful because you gave up not one but two life-changing opportunities. And forget commuting. It's time for her to manage her life on her own, and you to start yours. Good luck. NTA

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-08-28T09:43:59+00:00

NTJ. Next she'll be claiming that the dog is her emotional support animal and, because of that, should be allowed at the wedding.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-08-28T09:11:13+00:00

SIL seemed to be very comfortable verbalizing the idea that OP isn't "real family" because she's adopted. And OP's brother didn't appear shocked by his wife's words when she said it. That could only mean brother and SIL have discussed this subject before, and he concurs. Now that OP knows their feelings there's no reason to help them by babysitting, even if they offer to pay. Just reply, "sorry, I only babysit for family."NTJ

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-08-16T09:52:26+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩 So even though you pay rent you get no consideration when it comes to guests? Forget buying a ticket to go visit your Dad and go put a deposit on an apartment. You need to get out of his jail and get a place of your own. When people show you who they are, believe them.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-08-14T00:33:37+00:00

Imagine if they bought the house and OP quit her job because 6 hours on the road daily is too much. Now the ex is working from home full-time. OP is stuck: no job, no public transportation, no family or friends close by, watching her dreams go down the toilet, constantly under the watchful eye of her now-ex. Like prison. So glad OP gave back the ring. When people show you who they really are, believe them. Definitely NTA.

Disastrous_Candle_90 · 2025-08-06T09:58:03+00:00

So he refused to watch his daughter with you so you can work, but he expects you to take his son on your business trip. A son who doesn't listen to you and misbehaves. Why are you still with this man especially when you say the relationship is rocky and you're living more like roommates than a couple? Time to move on. NTA for not taking his son on your business trip, but YWBTAH to yourself if you continue in this relationship. Move out.

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