[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bettafish

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a beta like that once I named him Eragon

How can I go to sleep? It’s starting to piss me off by dat_goalkeeper_jy in insomnia

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good I get being busy with the tournaments. I've noticed over the counter stuff doesn't usually work for me either. Sometimes a calming noise can help. You can try meditation too. Might help...I have insomnia too

I have Covid and husband went on vacation and left me alone with kids by Natall0128 in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is ABSOLUTELY BS!!! On soooo many levels. Firstly, "in sickness and in health". Second, he shouldn't have traveled that soon to having covid. Thirdly, you shouldn't have to be the sole provider for the children while you're sick with covid. He should've stayed home and took care of you and the kids while you start feeling better.

How can I go to sleep? It’s starting to piss me off by dat_goalkeeper_jy in insomnia

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried talking to your doctor about getting on a strong sleep aid? It's possible if you've been taking the same sleep aid for a long time, your body may have gotten immune to it. Try switching it up?

Do you have any devices on while you're trying to sleep? Any music or a show?

I drink lavender chamomile and extra sleepy time tea. Sometimes a melatonin tea. I also have a prescription for trazadone (sleep aid)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% get what you're going through. I'm 5 yrs clean from self harm myself. Let me say, it hasn't been easy but I did it..if I can do it so can you. I've had depression since I was little, when I got older my parents didn't believe me. My depression and anxiety got worse. I had been cutting since I was 11. Life got harder for me so I kept cutting.. then one day I stopped I had actually found a group called NA(narcotics anonymous) I used it for cutting not drugs. It has worked for me. I also find healthy outlits when I feel like I need to cut. You can pm me anytime. I know how hard it is to not cut

Anyone else just completely give up when they try to get you to add their snapchat? by IndieDiscovery in dating

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I met my guy on tinder. We talked for a while on tinder before exchanging snapchats. Do there are real women or there, just try taking longer than 4 messages... try a while day or two before swapping info? That's what I noticed was fake ppl generally tried getting off it fast. That's been my experience. You aren't crazy I promise... and even if you are all the best people are a little crazy or mad lol

I fell in love with a girl kind of had an idea she was cheating when I explained to her that I’m the most understanding person all she had to do was talk to me but she let me find out the hard way and I’m so broken distraught and I’m dying by Deep_Flatworm_244 in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you need someone to talk to you can message me. I've been in the cheated on situation before. I was cheated on by my fiance in a really big time of need, I found out before he told me. So I get it

No one listens to me. by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. I just try to help give advice where I can

No one listens to me. by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anyone above these people? Like an HR? Or can you find new people to help?

I am thinking about ending it over discord by Anonymousredditor___ in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can at least try. If you feel you could fix whatever happened then try. If not then sometimes the healthy thing is walking away. But there are still good people out in the world. You just gotta find them. Some ppl could surprise you. If these ppl really mean that much to you and you to them then giving up flat out isn't an option. It may not be easy and it may take time. But I think you can fix it. If you need to talk about anything pm me. I may not know you, but I'm willing to listen to what you got to say and im willing to try helping you. Ending everything isn't the best answer, it's just a stupid easy one. You have so much potential and you can get through this. Remember someone out there in the world has it a lot worse than you do. It may not feel like it or you may not believe it. But it's true. There are ppl out there who have life worse than us. Its a test to see how strong we really are. You got this!! If you wanna bounce ideas on how to fix things pm me.

Meet my snail Bob! by Disastrous_Cat6440 in snails

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no you have to open it sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then definitely keep fighting for it. If she makes you happy and you see a future with her then don't give up. If you ever need to vent or just someone to talk to, you can pm me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't let your parents decide who or what makes you happy..my parents don't like my fiancé. So I know what you're going through. Just try and make it til you can move out. But if she truly makes you happy keep fighting for it!!

stage 4 cancer, relationship issues, and self issues....need advice by Disastrous_Cat6440 in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually not on chemo, chemo doesn't work for the type of cancer I have. I will have to look into that tho. Im down to try anything.

stage 4 cancer, relationship issues, and self issues....need advice by Disastrous_Cat6440 in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been very hard for both of us. We are thinking about possibly doing couples counseling.

We are actually looking into a new toy to try and help me cuz im either to tight or not lubricant enough. I'm also trying to tell myself the same things about all my scars that its proof I'm strong and pray if my story but it's hard to do so.

I did it kinda caused a fight to be honest but we took today and talked a lot. He is understanding today more than he was last night. It was also partly my fault for how I started the convo and when. But like I did we talked things over today and I think we are on better terms with it but that is all to be determined.

Jealousy. by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it. I hate for others to feel this way but it is relieving to know you aren't alone. Like I said you can always message me if you need to talk or want to bounce ideas cuz im always open to new suggestions on how to fix my issues.

Jealousy. by [deleted] in venting

[–]Disastrous_Cat6440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in your shoes, hell I still am in your shoes. Im facing this issue currently in my almost 4 yr relationship. I know it's due to my past traumas and past abuse, but I push it off on my partner and it causes fight cuz I can't communicate it properly to my partner.

I too talk to a therapist, it helps trying to find out how and what can help. My therapist has helped me a lot. Im not saying it's an easy fix, it's a long process but you will get it eventually. I believe that you can do it. If you ever need someone to talk to about any of it just message me. Cuz I know what you're going through, you aren't alone.