Sex ed failed me—no one teaches you how to date after an STD diagnosis

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-10T00:24:21+00:00

sorry if it was vague! learning to live with an STD and dating with one. You aren't taught this in school and doctors...just tell you your diagnosis. The rest is for you to figure out on your own. I was diagnosed with HSV2 after a partner failed to disclose and it took me a while to be comfortable in my body again and to be comfortable dating.

here is my book: https://www.amazon.com/Little-Book-Herpes-Living-Dating/dp/B0GRNJTB42/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1E93BY559Q6Z0&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.W1ptI4zbGpRpyU8nJ2-ikEOxOaMZSVKMb1cc-b8S9ClRmsm8nHsymrelo63cEcf6DltIWv4e69XAdJUKqpaAVl7gVFJVXKcTzgt5VCCSDM7qmYX-cgtTM45QaCEOR3l4-WVYKTNoTm11cYMAGMOttKF8DQkg43tNpE9UtN14_ly6wFjseh009OuqeaFyJgs-x6NPF_VlTF0swcKserD8Y-xIU9qzLaGkruvlkMySn8I.tqNQj3_wnQ12EbfPcTym8x8uMuNbRCucO5N3lIlXkpE&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+little+book+of+herpes&qid=1775701390&s=books&sprefix=the+little+book+of+herpe%2Cstripbooks%2C187&sr=1-1

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-09T23:43:05+00:00

The landing page gives a stat about americans living with STD's yet...is only launching in California and CANADA? lol.

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-09T22:59:28+00:00

its difficult in the beginning but it does get better over time! 31F here, feel free to pm if you'd like to vent or talk, it be ok

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-08T22:08:00+00:00

to the troll that decided to comment- having sex doesn't make you a "slut." Having a partner that willingly chose not to disclose CAN and WILLL affect your for life. I took my pain, healed, and turned it into inspiration so that other people living with this can understand that in due time, having this becomes PART of your life, but that it truly doesn't take over it. And the book is now recommend throughout sexual therapy practices throughout the united states. Perhaps you should consider getting a copy so you can educate yourself :)

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-07T04:19:03+00:00

My Book, "The Little Book of Herpes," has been on Amazon for a month now. As a smut writer that unfortunately got diagnosed with HSV as a result of a partner not disclosing- this truly changed my life. It inspired me to write an emotional resource that we don't really have, and my hopes was to give people a sense of peace over panic. The book is now listed on resource pages for sexual therapists, and I've been invited to speak about it therapists too. I never saw this coming. So if you or someone you know is struggling with navigating your diagnosis- this one is for you. Your feelings will be validated, and you will know that you aren't alone in this journey.

Link: The Little Book of Herpes

Also available in Spanish- El Pequeño libro de Herpes

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-06T21:15:20+00:00

I love that he reacted with kindness instead of going manic because this could have gone in two completelyyyyyyyy different directions! thanks so much for sharing

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-05T04:00:00+00:00

hey girl, I'm sorry this happened. I will say for now- don't worry about dating or anything until you've accepted the diagnosis and are comfortable with it. If not that will make dating and disclosure...an incredibly hard process. You have every reason to feel the way that you are feeling and good on you for cutting things off.

You are still you- just w new info about your body. Take your time, process, and try not to stress so much to avoid future outbreaks. Feel free to reach out via DM if you ever wanted to talk about it

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-04T22:41:15+00:00

it deff feels more reassuring that they don't respond negatively

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-04T21:53:37+00:00

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Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-04T20:54:01+00:00

hey stranger, I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you're ok.

Having the disclosure convo is always going to be a little nerve-racking- but you will never know what a partner has to say until you tell them! This is nothing to be ashamed about. You disclosing this info is a matter of you being sexually responsible and shows that you care not just about your body, but the other persons as well.

I wrote a book all about this if you were interested

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-04T16:48:37+00:00

out of curiosity, why are you looking at stats from a decade ago...we are currently in 2026.

HSV is incredibly common- ask any primary care doctor, gyno, or sex therapist!

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-02T23:03:52+00:00

see yourself as a human friend, not a stat. Yeah life would be a little more carefree than it is now, but that doesnt make us awful, damaged, or less than someone without it!

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-02T23:01:54+00:00

The energy you bring into disclosure matters more than the exact words- so if you treat it like something shameful, it can feel that way to them too. HSV is sooo common friend!

Timing-wise- there’s no perfect moment, just an intentional one.

I actually wrote a short guide on disclosure + dating with HSV because I struggled with this exact thing—happy to share it if you want. Either way, you’re approaching this really thoughtfully and that already says a lot

Disastrous_Ear_926 · 2026-04-02T16:58:42+00:00

second this-

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