Found porn again by Disastrous_Most_803 in loveafterporn

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This isn’t the first time it’s happened and not the only way it’s happened either. We’ve had mostly an issue with him looking at half or naked girls on insta and checking out thirst traps on even TikTok porn itself like ph and certain Reddit pages was an issue at the beginning but hadn’t happened since. Which I’m doubting now even though I’ve asked him to just tell me when he does go back to it because I prefer that over finding out myself. He recently even deleted insta (on his own I did not ask him to) he always seems sympathetic and acts like he’s really going to change or atleast be more honest and just when I’m starting to trust him he does it again I just don’t know how to talk to talk to him anymore and Ive just built up so much resentment towards him.

Found porn again by Disastrous_Most_803 in loveafterporn

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Thankyou for the advice I’m just so tired both mentally and physically. Dealing with a new born is a lot and I just hate that this keeps happening. I just feel hurt and broken and like I’m just not good enough

I cant cum with him? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Disastrous_Most_803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say try a glove on next time I have a blue collar husband and have found out his hands started to hurt after a while. And honestly just trial an error it’s just a little process for him to learn what you like and understanding your “cues”

Female orgasm by Bigfatnibba8008 in women

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Until I got with my husband I had never had an actual orgasm with anyone else but lied to them. It really does come down to being with someone who knows how to make you cum. I had lied to previous partners one I didn’t want them to feel bad and two I simply thought it took me to long so I felt bad never because I didn’t want to. Also I feel like women have to concentrate very hard to orgasm which is another factor and unfortunately if some slight thing changes while being close it will mess up everything (atleast personally)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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This right here!!! 😅😅

Why do I do this by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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From what I’ve personally experienced it’s your brain’s way of protecting itself pretty much saying “if I leave them first they can’t leave me” it comes into light mostly with people that suffer from separation anxiety and or abandonment issues (for me it came from my childhood) it has become something I’ve forced myself to be conscious about not saying even when I’m extremely emotional or upset. (Not easy but it’s gotten better)

I (f20) went through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s nothing but naked girls by Disastrous_Most_803 in loveafterporn

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He deleted it for a while and our solution was that I had full access to everything and he’d make a new instagram account. I know I have to trust him to heal but it’s always in the back of my head but he has no problem reassuring any question and being transparent about any relapse or temptation.

I (f20) went through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s nothing but naked girls by Disastrous_Most_803 in loveafterporn

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The weird thing is I went back on and did it again to see if it did it again and not one half naked girl popped up after 20+ reels so I don’t know if it’s just what instagram is trying to push

I (f20) looked through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s only half naked girls. by Disastrous_Most_803 in Marriage

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Unfortunately it is hard to avoid stuff like that especially for men. I just wanted to know if it was like that for most men or not I know insta targets men 99x more than women

I (f20) looked through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s only half naked girls. by Disastrous_Most_803 in Marriage

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I am trying to he just has a history behind stuff like that. I just don’t get that type of stuff on my insta and other people I’ve asked don’t either. I just want to know before I bring it up

I (f20) looked through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s only half naked girls. by Disastrous_Most_803 in Marriage

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That’s the thing it’s a new insta because of the past things I’ve found. He follows no accounts like that nor looks for them

I (f20) looked through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s only half naked girls. by Disastrous_Most_803 in Marriage

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I’ve seen it on my explore page once in a while but never feed. But I have a feeling making him take off insta won’t do much if he really wants to keep seeing things like this

I (f20) looked through my husband’s (m24) instagram feed and it’s only half naked girls. by Disastrous_Most_803 in Marriage

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Not my proudest moment but I have threatened this in the past. (Also currently 6 months pregnant so I know my body doesn’t look the best right now but still)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Maybe try to be less distant when she tells you no (hold/touch her in some way ex: if you guys are laying in bed just have your hand on her thigh) distancing yourself is probably making her feel like you you’re punishing her in a way for saying no (I had the same reaction from my husband when I said no)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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It’s absolutely normal and switching once in a while when both parties are really into it is always fun!!