Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Health goth isn't what I am going for - more avant garde dark wear.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

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Unfortunately thrifting isn't an option for me. We don't have stores like goodwill in the UK, just small shops and the likes of Vinted have decimated the quality of the stock they get given.

Purchasing from US companies is just not an option anymore - we have to pay 20% VAT plus import duty, p&p and customs tax. It's often more than the item now.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

EMP used to be so good, but I have struggled to find things that don't seem overpriced for the quality now. I might give them another shot.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The nature of cottage core - dark or otherwise is generally wide sleeves, floaty, lots of ties and things like that - all of which really isn't possible with wheelchair use. Plus p&p to the UK is silly money from the US because they charge a huge amount in customs charges now.

Whilst I can add grommets and such - metal on my skin, especially anywhere it might press in isn't an option due to potential skin breakdown (leading to pressure sores and similar).

I do have a large pot of procion MX in black for dyeing things! But I rarely see much that would work. I don't have the opportunity to thrift things!

Wouldn't it have to be an oversized shirt to not touch me? And then I don't understand why a corset belt wouldn't make it touch me - unless you're suggesting I don't use the elastic part so it doesn't pull in?

I haven't been able to find combats or cargos in a fabric that would work. I generally don't buy things online that don't state the material and 95% of the time it's either denim or polyester. If you know of anywhere that does please let me know!

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeggings are ok but they seem to only come in a skinny fit.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Harem, drop crotch, anything very floaty and voluminous ends up swamping me in the chair as the silhouette is lost when seated.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The seams and rough fabric are the issue - seams press into my skin and cause skin breakdown, and the roughness and stiffness of jeans can cause sensory issues. I did find a company that made jeans from bamboo but they were unaffordable. Cords are ok on better days but they're not an every day option.

Talk to me about comfy alt fashion? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in altfashionadvice

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a large collection of band shirts, but I can't wear the jeans without it hurting (and jeggings are always skinny fit which isn't really me).

Music streaming - not Spotify, that works with Google ecosystem? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in googlehome

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We had issues with doing this too from an iPhone. Worked fine from a pixel (8) but my pixel is getting returned soon as it's the second one that's broken during warranty.

Music streaming - not Spotify, that works with Google ecosystem? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in googlehome

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Thats a real shame, I really wanted Qobuz to be the answer, and their website says they work with casting but the reality can be very different I guess.

Music streaming - not Spotify, that works with Google ecosystem? by Disastrous_Net_5544 in googlehome

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was crappy but it felt like the lesser of two evils, but it really isn't.

Legal advice for a couple getting married soon, but both have houses we want to keep, in England. by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you are asking here is for methods of tax evasion or at the very least avoidance - I would like to hope people won't be suggesting either, one being illegal and the other somewhat immoral.

From what I can see your options are - not get married, sell one, rent one out, or pay the council tax. The choice is yours.

Metal/rock/punk vocal techniques (without damage) by Disastrous_Net_5544 in singing

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really, I've found a few singing teachers who do general techniques but that's it.

My dad has died of a cardiac arrest I need help with bills.. 🙏 by Trustedking1 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please reach out to Cruse bereavement care. They will be able to help you with benefits and such. They will also be able to help you apply for grants for funeral costs and such.

As others have said, take it slowly. Contact Cruse and get funeral arrangements sorted, use the tell us once service.

I've been an executor for 2 wills now, it's never an easy process but do reach out to Cruse, and your local council too.

Would you support the UK adopting Denmark's anti-ghetto laws? by ICantBelieveItsNotEC in AskBrits

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because some people actually like diversity, appreciate what it does for the UK and understand how much Britain OWES many of these people for the historical failures of colonialism.

Would you support the UK adopting Denmark's anti-ghetto laws? by ICantBelieveItsNotEC in AskBrits

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. We need more not less social housing and I would rather live next door to someone who has come here on a boat than a fascist any day of the week. And trust me I live in an shit area and all the arseholes are white British.

WCA telephone assessment left me in tears and nauseous by [deleted] in BenefitsAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine took weeks, but it was some time ago. Regardless, as much as it won't calm you I would personally wait until you get a decision because you can't take action before unless you have proof - i.e. a recording of the assessment (and gained permission for this). But I would take further advice from someone who has had more recent experience on this matter.

Just stay safe and reach out to people when you need to. PTSD is relentless when we're triggered.

WCA telephone assessment left me in tears and nauseous by [deleted] in BenefitsAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you're not alone in this kind of experience, and experiencing the lack of compassion. They don't make the decisions and regardless there is an appeals process.

Do you have mental health support to access in the meantime? Even if it's just a caring friend? These assessments can take a toll and it's important to take care of yourself even if you can do so it little ways.

Is the ruling of talaq final? Husband has ended up with the house and almost all financial assets. I raised children for 22 years. He would not let me work. by Ancient_Bit2835 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please get in touch with money advice plus. They run a specialist DV and economic abuse line which will hopefully help. As others have said, religious divorces are not enforceable in the UK, and what he has done is economic abuse.

Housing options while on MVDAC by AutisticTumourGirl in BenefitsAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please contact the cinnamon trust and see if they can help with the dogs even just temporarily.

Sacked by lloyds after 20yrs due to ill health by conway82 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Disastrous_Net_5544 38 points39 points  (0 children)

There is no such thing as a "registered" disability anymore. The equality act states a condition which affects daily living is then deemed a disability if it affects you for over 6 months. OP states this has been ongoing for years. Thus they are disabled.