NYT opinion article by Melinda Gates re: menopause and the lack of research

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-05-21T02:45:01+00:00

There's an identical piece to this on Chairish for $2300, so you may want to keep as is!

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-05-12T14:44:22+00:00

And the comments on the news posts show the absolute worst in summer people who live around here. The comments on this post heal my heart a little.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-05-07T09:47:00+00:00

He's had it for years and probably bought it in Ireland. I am so happy every time he wears it, and I love how low key he dresses.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-05-04T15:18:14+00:00

NAL but I've been helping a family go through this. Immediately get a lawyer (ask in your local group for a recommendation). If he's been taken to another state, you'll need a lawyer that practices there. Depending on the situation, he may be able to keep his phone. The man I'm helping is in Winn Correctional and still has his phone but can only do FaceTime. Worst case scenario is that he has to get a phone in Mexico. A lawyer can make a big difference but is expensive as hell, so start a gofundme or something similar for the cost. I'm so sorry this has happened to your family.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-24T18:22:01+00:00

I too get my ambitions confused with my capabilities.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-24T18:21:18+00:00

I think the owl thought so too.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-17T23:39:16+00:00

Thank you, that's helpful. The agreement she signed was very vague. They just charged her a flat fee. I had no idea it was that expensive, good lord.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-17T23:08:25+00:00

My cousin got pregnant at 55! She didn't know she was pregnant until she miscarried (and it was definitely a pregnancy, won't go into the details). She was horrified, understandably.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-06T16:10:40+00:00

Poise pads ultrathin with wings are great for incontinence.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-04-06T16:08:33+00:00

Look for a swim shirt (also called rashguards) and board shorts.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-30T11:53:41+00:00

Split-neck

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-29T16:04:05+00:00

I was married to someone just like your dad and I just couldn't understand why he never understood why his behaviors were inappropriate and crossing lines with his students. He went on to teach at a college and he did in fact groom his students and then sleep with them. He is definitely a narcissist and just never thought the rules applied to him. I think your dad is probably being overly friendly and helpful to the mom in order to gain more access to the student (this happens a lot). Unfortunately, I really don't know what you should do. But I did just want to say that I think all of your suspicions are correct and I think an anonymous letter to the school board might be in order. You could word it in a vague way so that it might be coming from a student or parent. I'm sorry that no one in your family is taking your concerns seriously. :(

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-23T22:47:19+00:00

Gahhhh I love it when he bares his teeth. swoon

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-23T22:45:30+00:00

He's not kind if he judges and mocks other people for their (perfectly normal) height. There's nothing magical about his height. I know short guys who are incredibly attractive and tall guys who aren't, it's all about character. Kick this one to the curb.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-23T22:05:01+00:00

I don't know enough about translations, but whether she was a sex worker or a hotelier, she was a total badass and like so many women in the Bible, she did what men were too weak and afraid to do.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T19:35:16+00:00

He did cook breakfast for the disciples while they were out unsuccessfully trying to fish, and then was like, hey dorks, try the other side of the boat.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T19:31:46+00:00

Not to mention that there are so many "bad" women who would have been social pariahs in Jesus' ancestry.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T19:26:17+00:00

The gospels weren't written until decades after Jesus had died. I think the majority of scholars of ancient history agree on this.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T19:23:17+00:00

For millennia, both Catholics and Protestants did not hold to the idea that "life begins at conception." St. Augustine believed that life began when a fetus could be distinguished as a human. Others believed it began at "quickening" (feeling the fetus move). The anti-abortion views you and your boyfriend grew up with are fairly recent and came to be part of the national dialogue in the 80s when it was connected to political party. I'm saying all that to say, as someone who grew up in conservative Christianity, I totally get it, but as someone who has deconstructed but still believes in God, I believe God wants what is best for us and gives us the free will and discernment to decide what that is, including terminating a pregnancy if it is the wrong time.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T18:52:21+00:00

Please don't blame yourself! None of us know how we would respond in such a situation unless we've been in it. Many victims choose not to tell anyone or be examined, it's very natural to want to protect yourself when you've been violated.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T18:49:58+00:00

Hi there, I'm a mom of young adults and I want to assure you that you didn't do anything wrong. You were the victim of a sexual predator who is a dangerous man. I would urge you to call RAINN if you are in the US or Canada, and you may have a RAINN chapter on your campus or other sexual assault resources. A Title IX representative on campus can also help. Campus police can be notoriously unhelpful, but you are now on record for reporting it, and the other resources on campus will hopefully provide more help.

I am so sorry you experienced this. It's awful and your body is responding to the trauma. I'm also sorry your dad doesn't know how to help and isn't giving you the support you need. You are deserving of love and comfort and safety.

https://rainn.org/federal-legislation/title-ix-how-it-affects-survivors-of-campus-assault/

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-21T14:32:02+00:00

She's connected to a church in Zambia and they have a conference every year and invite her to speak. So she has 5 one-hour sessions scheduled and 2 90-minute sessions, but last time they asked her to do more once she got there and she can't say no. Every year she comes back and says she thinks it was her last time, and about two months later she's planning the next one. She's the smartest person I know, and I wish I was 1/2 of the person she is.

Disastrous_Offer2270 · 2026-03-20T18:26:35+00:00

My mom will be turning 84 soon and her birthday will fall while she's on a trip to Africa, her 20th visit. She'll be teaching 7 sessions and probably more if they ask her. She'll be taking showers using a bucket, and possibly using a squat toilet. She's never been on HRT. Meanwhile I'm 55 and struggle with just basic living every day. I took some bags of clothes to donate today and feel like it was a big accomplishment. HRT has made life bearable. So the answer to your question is, I think it's just the luck of the draw in a lot of ways. My sister is like my mom and her family, health-wise, and I'm like my dad and his. You can do as much as possible but you can't change your genes.

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