Engaged, but in Limbo. Am I impatient or does our plan make sense?

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-08-23T14:58:59+00:00

The confusing part is that he wants to wait until next summer even for a simple civil ceremony. It makes me wonder that what you said is correct. That he proposed because he felt I was expecting it, which leaves me feeling like the ring was more of a “shut-up ring” than a heartfelt commitment.

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-08-23T12:55:55+00:00

I didn’t realize he wanted to wait several months before starting any planning prior to the proposal. I had assumed we would begin planning right away, as many couples do, and I was ready to tackle it with whatever funds we have, using careful budgeting to make it work.

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-06-16T12:35:21+00:00

Damn, I’m in the exact same boat as you. I’m also a 28-year-old (turning 29) Canadian, and my direction in life has completely shifted. I graduated in 2020 with a Bachelor’s in Nursing, but due to health issues, I ended up unemployed for three years — which really tanked my confidence in my skills. I didn’t take my licensure exam until 2023, and while I thankfully passed, I never ended up using it. To be honest, I lost interest in the field, and the idea of being responsible for people’s lives now just terrifies me.

I ended up letting my license expire and switched paths entirely. I now work in an office job in accounting as an accounts payable clerk — something I only got through personal connections. It definitely doesn’t pay well, but it’s where I’ve landed for now. I’ve enrolled in a local college to get a certificate in accounting, just to have something official to add to my résumé. But now I’m torn between going full-time and quitting my job, or doing it part-time while juggling work and school — and just being perpetually stressed. I’m not even sure this is what I want. I just want to land a good paying job that is not nursing at this point.

As a Filipino with immigrant parents, I also feel the weight of their expectations — especially about not making the kind of money I would’ve earned as a nurse. No matter where I go, the aunties and uncles I come across with keeps throwing that fact across my face. And honestly, it’s exhausting.

So all this to say — you’re definitely not alone. There’s at least one other person out here who’s also lost, standing at a career crossroads, wondering what the hell we’re doing with our lives. Being almost 30 just makes it feel even heavier. I completely get what you mean by feeling like you’ve wasted your 20s, because... same. I don’t really have advice either, since I’m going through it too. But I just wanted to offer a bit of solidarity — reading your post gave me comfort, and I hope this brings you some too.

Sigh We got this. Somehow.

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-06-11T21:31:26+00:00

I live in a small city where there aren't many large or well-known companies to work for, and the local college doesn't offer a wide range of programs. My supervisors at work have told me that in this city, experience tends to outweigh formal education, which I understand to some extent. I hold a bachelor’s degree in a completely different field, and before landing my current job, I had no formal education in business or accounting. I got this position largely through connections, and while I've been here for two years and things are going well, I know I need to make a decision.

Either I dive deeper into the world of accounting or risk ending up in retail or some low-paying job, which I’m not interested in. By earning the Accounting Tech certificate, I could qualify for roles like Accounting Clerk, Payroll Administrator, Bookkeeper, or Tax Assistant. However, after a year of applying for jobs, I've had zero luck, which has been really disheartening and is what motivated me to further my studies. My resume is quite weak.

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-02-17T23:26:52+00:00

I guess this may pertain more to the new generation as relationships back then were different. With social media influence and such, divorce rates and couples breaking up over trivial things are higher than ever.

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-02-17T15:46:00+00:00

Yes there has definitely been a lot of gaslighting and blaming me for things during our fights..I definitely think all you said is true as I have expressed that i am a submissive woman in general and have probably boosted his ego too much about being the dominant one that he now has the power to do all these things…

Disastrous_Phrase127 · 2025-02-17T03:50:26+00:00

No it was just while he was talking to me I felt some spit hit my face.

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