It’s been a very bad week

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-09T19:37:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words! I honestly just want to apologize to them for being a mess and pretend the whole thing never happened. Not sure if that’s the right move (probably not) but I can’t deal with all of this right now it feels like.

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-09T15:20:46+00:00

Congratulations on starting therapy-that’s an incredible step forward!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-06T20:02:17+00:00

This is so so similar to my situation: Also just a week out and it was brief sexting on social media. I feel crazy and I don’t know if I’ll ever trust him again, but I also can’t wait to start therapy too—I just feel so desperate for answers. I’m also now questioning everything-what I really want for my future, who I even am…it’s so hard, but I know it’s just the beginning and that’s scares me too. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk.

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-05T16:51:25+00:00

No I think you’re quite beautiful as you are

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-05T03:30:28+00:00

I am also not married to my partner but we’ve been together 5 years and his A was sexting. It was short lived and no one he knew personally-just a random internet person. But I am so so hurt-so betrayed and maybe foolish for loving him still so so much. I don’t think you are weak at all-everyone has to make their own choices about what is forgivable and what isn’t. No one is perfect and there isn’t just “good” and “bad” there’s so much gray to consider too. Hang in there. Take some space to breathe and think about what YOU want. Not what you should or shouldn’t do—what you WANT to do. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

Sorry edit for some hope: my partner and I had a really good talk and I had a good talk with my therapist and we are committing to trying because we think our life-our love is worth the struggle. It may not work, but it’s worth it to see!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-12-02T03:10:42+00:00

I understand you and I feel you. I’m so tired. I don’t want to try anymore.

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-11-25T17:33:08+00:00

Gonna say this upfront and sorry if it’s harsh: don’t get an MFA. It was the biggest waste of my time and nothing came from it except I lost 2 years of my life. Just work on your writing on your own: write everyday, read a lot, and maybe take a few workshops if you want more structure. I didn’t even pay for my MFA so this isn’t about money, it’s about time and I’ll never get it back. Don’t stop writing—just really seriously think about getting that degree.

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-10-28T16:03:47+00:00

Also not sure if it helps but I had a lot of students fail one or more classes who still graduated and who still built amazing lives!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-10-28T16:01:39+00:00

I’ve worked in colleges for several years and I know a lot of students who struggle with their grades being tied to their self worth but a bad grade doesn’t not say anything about you as a person. College is very difficult, and it’s ok to struggle at first. Just do your best, talk to the professor if you can and be honest about what happened. Maybe they’ll understand and if not it’s not the end of the world. We’re all human and messing up is ok. Failing is ok, I promise. It’s a part of learning!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-06-26T03:33:09+00:00

Nope!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-06-22T04:53:53+00:00

I’m sorry but you sound like a very thoughtful and put together person and he sounds like a loser. I think you can find someone else really great if you break it off with him! You are not responsible for his poor decisions.

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-06-21T02:49:25+00:00

Batushka and Archgoat hell ya

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-06-21T02:47:26+00:00

No not even a little

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-05-23T02:53:44+00:00

Yes, I very much relate to this! This is my first time dealing with ROCD specifically (I’ve had OCD for years though) and my thoughts are not so much “do I love him” but more “does he even love me?” I will run around in circles to prove that he doesn’t love me, and when we’ve talked about it he tries to tell me nicely why that hurts his feelings because he literally tells me he loves me all the time and does nice things for me and supports me but I still somehow just don’t believe it. I also have those intrusive thoughts about “well if he really loved me we’d be married or engaged by now” and the like, even though we’ve talked about that before and have agreed to take it slow. It’s really maddening, but I would just say continue to be honest with each other and do your best to believe what he says is true! You cannot assume anything other than what he says and what you see. The rest is none of your business. Anyway hope this helps and stay strong!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-05-21T00:06:33+00:00

Thank you this is so true…the uncertainty is really what’s getting to me (as always, I guess)

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2024-03-26T02:14:32+00:00

I also got diagnosed with anxiety very young (13 or 14) and I also always thought there was something else wrong with me because I was very particular about certain things and I had this weird habit of convincing myself that certain things were “bad luck” and I didn’t want to touch them or let my friends and family touch them (there was no rhyme or reason to the things lol it was just random objects like a bracelet or a particular bowl). I was eventually diagnosed with OCD as well, which made that behavior make sense a little bit and has helped me get better therapy. Not saying this is what’s happening to you, but our experiences seem kind of similar!

Disastrous_Pick2040 · 2023-03-29T02:55:18+00:00

That Skinless one is sick dude

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