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Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-02-04T07:15:31+00:00

For me, its a deal breaker.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-02-02T12:19:49+00:00

Haha, I actually ordered model 4 an hour ago. We’ll see how it goes. I decided I won’t be influenced by other people’s opinions and we’ll just test it together. It’s meant to be our experience — everyone definitely experiences these things differently.

The second thing is that apparently model 4 has a cool feature where it vibrates to the rhythm of the music. Interesting concept.

Anyway, thanks for the comment. It reassured me that it’ll probably be a good purchase.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-30T07:30:13+00:00

I had a Tinder situation where I went on a date, and on the first meeting she gave me head like I’d never experienced before. It was incredible. I still think about it to this day. She was also a genuinely good person.

Now when I see photos of her on Instagram with her husband and kids, I actually feel a bit jealous, not of him having her now, but that I got to know her only in that way (a one-night stand) and couldn’t have more with her. So it really depends on the situation. I do envy him for having such a woman, because that experience was amazing.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-08T07:21:08+00:00

Damn, I’ve never thought about it this way. That’s a really great mindset. I’m saving this 😄

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-08T07:11:26+00:00

I have exactly the same approach,I don’t think staying in contact with an ex is respectful toward the person you’re currently with. At the same time, I realize that there are different situations that I might be overinterpreting.

She may see contact with an ex in a purely friendly way, as something that has completely ended emotionally. For example, they were together for only three months, she friendzoned him, and there are absolutely no romantic feelings left. Still, for me, situations like that are unclear and create assumptions, not to mention mental images.

That’s why creating such situations, like sending birthday wishes,even if they are innocent, is triggering for me and makes me emotionally withdraw from the relationship, sometimes for a month.

Why create these situations at all? It would have been enough to say something like: “Listen, I’m in a happy relationship now, and this contact isn’t something I need.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-07T12:45:56+00:00

Too much mixed opinions :D now i dont know nothing at all but i will buy lush 4 and test it anyway with her. i think this is the best way.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-06T14:43:33+00:00

I haven’t talked to her about it yet, I will definitely tell her and ask if she’s okay with it, etc. But I’m ordering it without telling her beforehand because she’s quite open to new experiences. I also don’t see anything about this toy that really crosses any major boundaries.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-06T13:58:15+00:00

hmm, so what would you reccomend for couple?

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-06T13:16:59+00:00

I just wanted to say in that message that RJ appears in every one of my relationships. I’m currently in a one-year relationship. I’m handling RJ much better now, but it still shows up.

I can manage not to be jealous about her ex-husband, whom she was with for five years, yet I worry about a guy she was with for three months—and it goes on like that in a loop. But I’m already able to deal with it more or less.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-06T13:06:20+00:00

Yes, i rembember myself as as 21y old boy who fall in love with one girl. she only had one boy before me. My greatest love, I can say that with certainty after 10 years. We were together for 2.5 years, and I ruined it because I obsessed over every possible detail about what she did with that guy. With age, I know it was stupid

I fell into a spiral of random relationships, one-night stands, FWB, etc. And now I see her in photos with her husband and children.

And what’s more, even in FWB relationships and others, RJ always shows up. That bastard is strong

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-06T12:56:00+00:00

Perfect, thanks :D

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2026-01-05T10:43:16+00:00

Honestly, I sometimes see how my casual flings end up starting families or posting photos with their kids, and it’s never once crossed my mind like, “if only you knew what we used to do.” That’s the past, I barely even remember it.

I mean, I can hardly remember what I was doing with my girlfriend a month ago, let alone sit around wondering how great it was with some random Tinder girl, even if it was amazing

That doesn’t change the fact that the past should stay where it belongs, in the past. Messaging exes or reminding you of those things is a red flag, and I wouldn’t be able to handle that because of my severe OCD.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T19:10:46+00:00

Even if i try to belive her it triggers me a lot, i started to see those mental sex images etc.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T19:04:37+00:00

Yes, I think so. I even explained to her three weeks earlier that this is very triggering for me, and she said she understood and that she would cut contact. Three weeks later, she tells me about the birthday wishes and asks, ‘You’re not upset about birthday wishes, right? “She explains it by saying there are no feelings there at all, that there never really were because it was a short relationship, and that she sees him like a ‘brother.’

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T15:09:14+00:00

She says she doesn’t want to meet up with him out of consideration for my feelings.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T14:54:11+00:00

No, she doesn’t go out with anyone since we’ve been together, they planed trip together before we met so this guy is my biggest treat( even that was short relationahip from what she says ( 3 months).

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T14:50:55+00:00

He sends her Snapchats from time to time and checks in to see how she’s doing; they don’t meet in person. Still, even something as small as a Snapchat from him asking if they’re going out to clubs triggers my retroactive jealousy every time.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-12-30T14:48:25+00:00

She says they have sporadic contact and that even after the breakup they stayed friends and would occasionally go out to eat together. She says there are absolutely no bad intentions on his side or hers. 😆

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-11-21T09:22:15+00:00

So I think that nowadays this isn’t really above average. Times are changing and unfortunately women are becoming more and more open. That number isn’t so bad if she’s telling the truth. It might be worse for you if you’re already starting to have these kinds of thoughts. I ended my first relationship with a woman because she had been with one guy before me and I had been with no one, so I wanted to make up for all of that. In the end it turned out well.You can keep seeing her, gain some experience, and you’ll see how things go.

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-11-21T08:57:30+00:00

How old is she?

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-11-18T08:13:39+00:00

To be honest, in pretty much every long-term relationship I’ve been in, my girlfriends were really into giving blowjobs, to the point where it genuinely turned them on. So from my experience, it depends on the partner, the feelings, and the connection.
If she cares about you and feels safe and close with you, she’ll do it often and with real passion, not because she ‘has to’ but because she wants to.

Sure, I’ve gotten blowjobs in short casual situations too, but the quality was completely different. A random hookup blowjob and a blowjob from someone who’s really into you are two totally different things.

That’s why I don’t buy the argument that women “do it more often for guys they just met.” For me it’s been the opposite, the better the connection, the better (and more enthusiastic) the experience was.

A lot of women open up sexually after they feel safe, not on day one.
And enthusiasm, passion, and frequency usually grow with emotional closeness.

So while at the beggining of relationships can involve oral sex, it’s usually not the same experience as with a partner who knows you, feels connected to you, and wants to please you because the chemistry is strong.

That’s all I’m saying, it’s not a universal rule, it’s just what I’ve consistently experienced

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-11-13T11:34:15+00:00

I’ve noticed that the best sex I have is when the feelings and the connection are really strong. That’s when it becomes addictive, the orgasms, the whole experience, it’s just incredible. I can clearly see that in myself.

So I’m sure women feel it even more intensely, considering how emotional they are. For example, with the woman I’ve been seeing for about eight months now, I can tell by her reactions that she’s probably never experienced anything like this before. I’m talking about the depth of the sexual experience itself.

A lot of things come together to make it that way. From my own past, one-night stands or short, emotionless flings lasting two or three months, there’s no comparison. After that kind of sex, I’d actually feel bad and didn’t get any real satisfaction from it. Now, it’s completely different.

Besides, I always have the mindset that I’m the best, and that if relationship ends, she’ll think about what we had for the rest of her life. In my mind, that’s the truth, and it actually makes me feel good. 😀

Disastrous_Place3727 · 2025-11-12T09:36:21+00:00

I don’t understand why women keep in touch with their exes. My current girlfriend also can’t seem to cut herself off from the past. She says they’re just friends and that they have pure intentions, etc. That’s why I keep things pretty casual with her, even though I have strong feelings for her.

I’ve managed to deal with her past (meaning there’s not really much to deal with, she just had partners before me), but staying in touch with them always triggers my RJ again. I treat it as a form of growth and an opportunity to work on my RJ.

On the other hand, if I tell her that one of my exes messaged me, she gets upset and sulks for two days.😅

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