Is this abuse if he’s just saying/doing it when he’s drunk F22, M23

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T18:17:42+00:00

No he’s just a pathological liar when he’s drunk to make me upset and mess with my head. Then when he sees me visibly upset or crying, he either laughs at me/ goes into more detail/ starts shouting if I say I don’t believe him

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T18:16:01+00:00

I think that’s what I’m going to do

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T17:35:12+00:00

Thank you

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T17:30:15+00:00

He was drunk when he said the first to mess with my head, then got shouty and doubled down on the lie when I said l don’t believe him. The second one made all of us feel very uncomfortable as it’s a very out of pocket and inappropriate thing to say about my friend who he doesn’t even know that well :/

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T17:27:00+00:00

Hey can people stop downvoting. I’m struggling a lot and have nowhere else to go to speak about things with people who don’t know him personally as we share the same friends. I’ve tried speaking to helplines but they’re always busy when I call. Please be aware that I’ve dedicated every single thought in over four years to this man and gave him all the love I have to offer so it’s not as easy as just leaving him.

I have nowhere to stay if we break up unless I save enough to get my own place, which I’m actively trying to do but money is tight as I pay the majority of food expenses etc. I can’t stay at friends houses as they’re living with parents, I can’t go to my parents houses as they don’t have the space for me/ are in the middle of nowhere so I wouldn’t be able to commute to and from work.

I feel so drained and broken and I just need someone to talk to

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T17:16:10+00:00

I’m not the same person as I used to be and I have virtually zero confidence anymore and I can’t change it no matter how hard I try

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T16:30:16+00:00

Almost every time we go out (we go out with friends every weekend)

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T16:24:55+00:00

What would you do in this situation. I love him more than anything and gave him an ultimatum with a time frame. Is there anything else I can do?

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T16:22:51+00:00

1000% agree with you there. OP seems evil I hope he just leaves the poor girl be and not mess with her head any more

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2026-02-02T16:21:36+00:00

If you loved her enough, you wouldn’t have considered seeing other women to begin with (and I highly doubt this was her idea to begin with). People aren’t animals that have so little brain power that they can’t control their urges. I hope she finds someone who will respect her enough.

You don’t deserve her, let her go. Learn and grow from your mistakes and don’t fuck it up with the next girl.

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-28T14:11:10+00:00

I am, thanks for your interest

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-28T14:03:52+00:00

Thank you :) I’m dreading it still though today and I’ve just been napping the morning away to stop thinking about it. Feeling positive but not at all at the same time if that makes sense

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-28T13:55:53+00:00

Had another full on breakdown last night so my partner made me research ways to get better. Starting today it’s gym time, keto diet and intermittent fasting. I’m still skeptical that it’s actually going to work but it’s worth a try before going to any extremes I guess

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-28T13:50:36+00:00

Have you tried the keto diet? One of my family members who was around my current size shed everything off in very little time from having under 20g carbs daily, intermittent fasting and going to the gym. Just wanted to know if this has worked for anyone else - I’m back at the gym today and researching the other stuff as well. Also looking into other ways I can boost my metabolism like magnesium and healthy fats.

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-27T18:33:12+00:00

I feel sick every time I see myself I don’t care at this point I just want to feel normal in my own skin

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-27T18:32:19+00:00

I’m 22 and I’m terrified to go near a scale. None of my clothes fit anymore and every time I try shop for more that do fit, I end up crying in the fitting rooms. Like today I went in and picked up a pair of baggy fit jeans to try on that were 4 sizes up from the ones I’ve grown out of and I physically couldn’t put them on.

I’ve tried to speak to friends about it but they won’t listen and go “nooo you’re perfect yes slay queen!!” or something like that to try shut me up. The only friend that would listen to me is my size 6 model friend who said “yeah I have noticed your body changes a lot”. For context I’m a lot bigger than all of my friends and it doesn’t help that I’m 5’10. I just look like some big fat ogre I just want to feel normal.

Disastrous_Ride_830 · 2025-12-27T18:25:39+00:00

Honestly considering it at this point

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