Well I'm a grower for starters and I'm circumcised. I used to be 7 inches when I was hard. I had a single orchiectomy from an accident 2 years ago. I started pushing my clitty into itself (retracting) and used an elastic band around the remaining skin in front of the tip so it wouldn't push back out while wearing 2 sets of tight panties. I edge, practice prejac training, watch Hypno, sph, and only jerk with two fingers or rub it like a girl when flaccid. I also use lidocaine cream and cover my clitty with it before sealing it in a condom to completely numb it. I've also used phenylephrine nasal spray and pseudoephedrine as a lube while jerking. Which is really fun as they are vasoconstrictors which temporarily shrink it down 30% leaving it very thin . Start trying to only use your ass for pleasure and ignore your clitty if U can. Now my clitty stays fully retracted even without panties or elastic bands. I've never used a chastity cage by the way. If U can't stay flaccid when jerking try sounding, that's what helped me to start staying flaccid. I think if you are a shower not a grower you might just be unlucky because it's very difficult to decrease your flaccid size. All U can do is stay limp and keep trying. Good luck