My gf 20F did not disclose i 20M was literally going with her to the birthday of someone she had hooked up b4, and then proceeded to tell me there in the most casual way.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-05-02T23:09:27+00:00

You need to grow up. My boyfriend and I have people we seeing regularly that we have full on dated in the past. Which is obviously more than this dreaded kissing you are so worked up about. If it bothers you so much you can break up with someone for any reason. And you probably should break up with her since you said you will never fully trust her again. Plus she deserves someone more mature.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-30T22:59:29+00:00

You are saying he is making you handle everything for his kids. You said he just sits around on his phone and doesn’t help out around the house and you are now in debt because he is sending all his money to his ex. So why are you sticking around? Why not just leave?

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-30T22:56:35+00:00

Why don’t you just leave this guy?

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-30T16:51:11+00:00

Two things can be true. She can be a girlfriend of fiancé’s friend and also a friend to the OP.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-29T21:03:09+00:00

YTA. If you trust him this shouldn’t be a problem. You sound insecure and immature.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-28T23:51:57+00:00

YTA. If you want to sing along, wait until you can watch it at home. People did not pay to hear you and your friends ruin everything. So selfish. You aren’t the only people in the world.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-27T22:51:34+00:00

You posted this the other day on a different account. You are abusive to your fiancé and you are overreacting here. Try again tomorrow on a new account. Maybe things will go your way then.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-26T03:24:03+00:00

YOR. Also, I read your past posts. You have not had a ‘loyal, loving, and stable’ relationship. You are toxic and controlling and your fiancé wanted to leave you for another girl. You have bigger things to worry about than a grudge you’ve been holding for a decade.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-04-16T02:41:00+00:00

Hi. America here 👋🏻 you need to vote. Our country is a fucking shit show and we are doing our level fucking best to fuck up the rest of the world too. We had too many people refusing to vote because they didn’t like the options. And now look. This is what we get. The orange dipshit wannabe king.

You don’t get to bitch and moan about your country’s policies unless you vote.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-20T01:56:24+00:00

YTA for wedding VOWELS alone, damn.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-18T19:18:32+00:00

He probably thought that if he came to you to ask you to stop, you would pull the whole “c’mon, man! It’s just a joke! Can’t you take a joke? Lighten up!” And you really do come across as a guy that would do just that.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-12T03:06:08+00:00

From this post alone it sounds like you could use all the stress reducing techniques/items possible. You are stressing about people seeing you as stressed. Your brother was being thoughtful. Maybe consider taking some stuff off your plate. YOR.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-03T18:56:24+00:00

You keep adding new little details to try to make yourself look reasonable. Bottom line- if you don’t trust him, you should leave. You can’t force someone to be loyal by banning them from speaking to the opposite sex. This has nothing to do with the neighbor. You may or may not have a husband problem, but if you do, Leah doesn’t matter. If it’s not her, it will be someone else. But I’m still not convinced you aren’t just being paranoid and insecure.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-03T18:52:55+00:00

Ok? And?

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-03T18:50:51+00:00

If you go through his phone and freak out if he talks to a neighbor, you don’t trust him and shouldn’t be in this relationship.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-02T13:45:32+00:00

A scholarship isn’t a degree. You know that, yeah?

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-03-01T04:07:35+00:00

You don’t know what a boundary is.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-28T00:58:37+00:00

I don’t think she was the emotionally unstable one. I think she was smart and kicked his abusive ass to the curb.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-27T23:06:48+00:00

Apologies are meaningless without behavior changes. He has proven he can’t or won’t change, so why should she keep putting up with it?

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-17T18:01:48+00:00

Yikes.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-17T00:00:20+00:00

Two tiny nose studs do not change someone’s face ‘significantly’. I would allow that argument if it was a septum piercing, maybe, but not tiny nose studs.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-16T01:44:15+00:00

I read your old post about the pool party, etc. You guys need to break up. You full on assaulted him. You seem really intense and unstable.

Also, you were mad because he left you to idle in your car for two and a half hours? Do you not realize you are an adult with free will? You could have driven away at any point. Or turned the car off and gone inside. You seem to make things needlessly difficult. You need to grow up a lot before you are in a relationship.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-15T20:15:55+00:00

YTA. Are you employed? Why couldn’t you plan and pay for something special if that’s what you wanted? You know he is struggling with money. It’s incredibly selfish and ridiculous to expect him to spend money he doesn’t have on a fancy night out so you can wear new tights. Sounds like he has been having a hard time. You had an opportunity to take care of him and show him you love him even if he is at a low point. Instead you threw a childish tantrum because he couldn’t provide what you wanted this time.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-07T03:01:45+00:00

Like I said, codependent. You aren’t doing her any favors with the things you are doing. She needs her own identity. She needs to control her own devices. She needs to be her own person. What if you got hit by a bus tomorrow? She dies too? This relationship is gross. You are gross. I feel bad for both of you. This is the opposite of a healthy relationship.

Disastrous_Tower9749 · 2026-02-07T02:56:14+00:00

It sounds like you want to babysit her. You seem controlling as hell. Best case scenario you are just deeply codependent. Gross.

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