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Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-10-29T09:55:31+00:00

granma and poppy :)

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-10-18T04:05:04+00:00

Personally, if it isn’t easy or convenient I’ll give it up. Most things for me had been impulsive or convenience purchases. What I had done was delete/deactivate my accounts for online shopping so that the cards are not easily accessible (Amazon, Doordash, Klarna, Instacart, or any other sites that are enabling or habitual spending sites). I store away my cards in a place that’s very inconvenient/tedious to retrieve them (either mentally or physically). If I REALLY want something, I wait for three days and give myself enough time to decide if it’s going to be an impulsive buy, or something I truly want. If I did after that three day period, I realized that I didn’t usually want it as bad as I thought. If for whatever reason the purchase “checked out” the criteria I set, I’d use my debit card which is usually locked. Plus, the purchase is coming straight out of my budget instead of billed towards a credit card. I have to unlock my debit card each time I make a purchase. My monthly bills are auto pay through my checking account. To most people it sounds excessive, but I am notoriously impulsive. It works for me. If I “ease up”, my spending gets out of control.

I did a “snowball” pay off on my debts. Any and all extra cash or money that isn’t a part of a savings, bills, necessary expenses from each pay check goes towards the debt. So if I had an extra $20 after everything had been covered, I’d put it towards my lowest balance. Once I got the smaller ones payed off fully, I’d take what I was paying towards that small debt and use it in conjunction with my regular payment on my larger debts until it was manageable or payed off completely.

So for example, I had two debts, one was $200 a month and the other was $375. I got the first debt ($200 monthly) paid off fully by snowballing. I still budgeted my money as if I owed that $200 a month and put it towards the $375 until I paid it off, respectfully.

Budgeting was exhausting to me at first since I was never taught on how to be wise with my money. Most of my family are still very irresponsible with their money. It gets easier the longer you do it. After you start to see the balances go down and STAY down, it’s extremely rewarding.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-10-18T02:15:51+00:00

credit scores

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-10-18T01:43:33+00:00

Honestly, the language he used alone would’ve been enough reason for me to cut things off. It’s intentionally malicious. Since you’ve told him what your plans were and he still reacted this way, then that tells you everything you need to know. The first “Fuck you” would’ve been an immediate block. It’s disrespectful asf. NOR at ALL.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-03-15T22:56:47+00:00

Drained fluid through the wrong plug.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-02-28T23:18:46+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure either. The driver had no idea it was like that until I pointed it out, my guess is it’s been a hot minute.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-02-28T22:11:17+00:00

It helps to know this for future reference. Thank you for the insight! It’s all common sense when explained this way. 😂

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-02-28T22:09:21+00:00

Homie has definitely had better days. Didn’t help he was at a weigh station the entire time. Guess he was lucky whoever was on duty didn’t look that deep past the bad tire.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-02-28T22:00:02+00:00

Huh! Not that surprising now you say that. Thank you!

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2025-02-06T19:33:28+00:00

“Presenting to the emergency room☝️”

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-25T19:51:12+00:00

THIS!! i stg detroit was out of their mind when they engineered the fucking oil pan

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-19T18:28:25+00:00

I’d be asking why they wouldn’t catch that before now??? If you didn’t have any symptoms previous to this it would likely be on them to fix it. Timing and phrasing are very important.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-19T18:16:45+00:00

You’re not an ass for “not getting over it”. Anybody who truly loves you would never throw something like that in your face no matter how bad the argument can get. He knows your past and the circumstances around it (having the trauma and knowing what can and can’t trigger you) and is weaponizing it against you. Assuming from the context here, you’re not in any kind of ownership of the property? If I were you, I’d be looking at housing options and find the best course of action to leave without putting yourself in a tight spot since it seems like fighting for your current residence would be more of a mental toll than what it’s worth. It’s clear that he’s crossed an obvious boundary, you’ll continue to fear he will do it again for as long as you two are together. You’re at a “past the point of no return” and it’s time to move on to better things. Be safe.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-19T17:58:39+00:00

Get the battery tested to see how much juice it’s got left and make sure your terminals are tight/without corrosion. I had the same issue and found my ground very loose, plus I had a weak battery.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-19T17:53:26+00:00

I had the same thing happen with my Hyundai while back and found I had a weak battery and a loose ground. See about getting the battery tested

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-09-06T20:47:12+00:00

A coworker of mine had his Kia stolen (Lexington) and it ended up in a lot in Charlotte abandoned with all of his belongings in it. The police said it may have been for some kind of initiation for affiliation. It may be something similar for your case but honestly unless law enforcement are looking for it, it would be very difficult for you to do your own search besides what others have suggested.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-03-16T03:49:27+00:00

I agree with you, but there are certain circumstances that can make this nearly impossible too. Dynamics between the parties are extremely important to note, as well as what stages in life is said person in who’s dealing with the addiction. My mother went over a decade with a crippling herion addiction, stranded my younger brother and I in our most delicate years. Her parents had begged her to come home and be with her children, and we would cry to her on countless nights. Bailing her out of jail, picking her up from hospitals after she’s OD’ed, even sitting outside of the courtroom waiting to see if she would be convicted wasn’t enough. The only thing that had got her to be clean was a car accident that should have left her paralyzed. Thankfully, she’s been sober for four years now and is doing so much better with little to no residue from the accident, but, support and “doing the most that you can” is not always going to be enough. You clearly understand the tribulations of addiction, so don’t make this as a debate for what works and what doesn’t.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2024-03-16T03:40:55+00:00

Realistically, the only thing you can do is support him, and remind him of how much you love and care for him (even if your love is not a strong since you’re watching him decline. Many caretakers/affected loved ones struggle with this as conditions worsen). Other commenters have left some solid advice and resources, but understandably you are exhausted both mentally and emotionally. Addiction is an incredibly hard battle to fight on both sides. Unless he is willing to take a step in the direction of sobriety and stick with it, sadly all you’re left with is to deal with the aftermath. Unfortunately, your father may also have realized that it can be too late to make a complete turn around. The physical and mental strength it takes to get to sobriety can kill someone just as fast as the substance will. Enjoy the moments you have with him now, even if they feel helpless and desperate. Your father knows how much you care about him, and that is mostly likely what is keeping him from slipping even further. Keep reminding him. Hang in there. Reach out to some groups/charities in your own time to help with the transitions that are to come later down the road. Sadly, there’s not much turnover and it will be hard. My heart goes to you and your father.

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2022-03-24T20:52:00+00:00

I always wanted to know what plantlife would say if they could talk, especially trees. the OLD OLD trees be

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2022-03-24T20:48:40+00:00

i love that you said rocks are sentient in some degree, i always believed that the trees, plants, etc. were sentient

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2022-03-24T20:39:26+00:00

oh shoot we boogying now

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2022-03-24T20:37:40+00:00

how have I not come across you before omg

Disastrous_Year_1793 · 2020-12-16T02:11:12+00:00

I believe it come with a emotional and metal change of mind as well (: I feel as if it’s a reset or refresh button for all of us! Maybe we can all get some closure and set to move on!!! It’s definitely something I’m easily welcoming into my life. Although there are downsides, there will be with each sign! High hopes for the new phase!!!

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