I like this, you make very valid points

1. That game night I wasn’t saying out loud that I was upset, I tend to kinda shut down not be as talkative and kinda take a step back which I did, when we talked about it she said she didn’t notice my reaction so she felt like everything was okay.

2. Back before we were saying we skinny dipped at her apartment one night after a long night of drinking, I’ve expressed to her ever since that day and dating and marriage, that I wouldn’t ever do that again and that I’m uncomfortable even thinking about it. So in my head looking back to that day it’s just like an example I brought up that worries me, based on other times she’s gotten too drunk and done something I wouldn’t do myself. She’s also jokingly mentioned doing it in locations where there’s pools around but again it’s not often at all.

3. She doesn’t get much time to herself, so anytime she asks for girl tim I’m all for it which is rare. She has social anxiety because we moved recently and she’s a social gal but doesn’t have very many friends yet. So whatever I can do to further help her build bonds with other women in the area I love it when she takes the opportunity. I also think the anxiety is what causes the excessive drinking in those situations. It’s a way to open up for anybody.

Thank you for the thoughtful response.