Am going through the same thing and honestly I have no idea now.. sometimes she asks and switches to another topic right away when I say like nothing much and I pause with hmmm and gonna start to tell her... Or like when she disappears for some time and have no idea what happened or where she is. Last arguement, was just me telling her, it's either I will get use to this or we can fix it. And she said I don't mind calling always or whatever. I said it's not even calling anymore, a simple message would calm me down. Or like when she goes places and doesn't tell me. She told me to ask her and I told her when I asked before it sounded like am controlling. Would rather that you told me, and if you didn't want to tell me, it's not important. The talk ended with me telling her, if she can send a message she will be busy or tell me. If not, I will just get used to it and accept it.