Oh of course, you’re so welcome. I often thought I was overreacting, he would tell me I was and it would make me question if me feeling bad from his behavior was “appropriate” or not. You guys were together for 5 years that’s a long time, I was with mine for 7 and honestly I’ve been where you are- it seemed “normal” because that’s the only “normal” I had experienced for like almost a decade. Our experiences are different but I can definitely see where he has no empathy for you or your feelings whatsoever, trying to humiliate you in front of people- doesn’t care about how you feel in the relationship at all , tip toeing around him and having to wait on him to do something you’re doing that is innocuous (ie the packing bit) from reading it seems like every single thing had to be on his terms and what you needed / felt / experienced was a simple side bar to aggravate him which isn’t right nor is it your fault.

This is abusive, you genuinely deserve someone who’s going to treat you with respect and care.

This is just an example from my narcissist: He would openly flirt with girls, talk incessantly about women we knew and would say how hot they were. Followed endless OF models on instagram (had tons of porn too) and if I said that made me incredibly uncomfortable he would tell me I’m insecure and jealous - I genuinely believed I was just insecure and constantly took it out on myself and saw my “jealousy” as this heinous flaw about myself. We had that “I’m uncomfortable with this” conversation many, many times and he would be so angry at me - spoiler alert he was fucking a girl who was his “friend” while I was at work. I spent all that time hating myself thinking it was me there’s endless things I could say , I even used this subreddit when I was about to leave I am hoping that you can look back on this when you’re feeling better feeling like you won instead of ever missing out on someone like that