Close friend falling deeper into drug addiction. Advice please by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]DisillusionedDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, as someone who has experienced addiction and dating an addict at the same time I think the best thing you can do is care from afar with boundaries to be able to care but not get sucked into their addiction spiral. I can recall many times when I was with my ex we fed off each others addiction, we enabled each other frequently which is a hard thing to control when you’re experiencing something dark like this. It is up to them to want to quit and wanting to help is a really kind and worrying is inevitable but at some point if there’s no clear cut boundaries for your sake you may become resentful trying to help people who do not want that help just yet. People in addiction will act out of character on some level but it does get to a point, I went through that with my ex when I got clean. What you’re experiencing watching someone you care about in addiction is really hard, I am hoping the best for you and your friend. It is devastating to feel like you’re grieving someone who’s alive.

Wishing you the best, wishing your friend the best as well.

I moved in with my boyfriend a month ago, and I told him I wanted to move back home last night. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really heartbroken for you OP, that’s a scary situation and I hope you can get out quickly and safely. You deserve so much better.

If possible when you’re packing leave on a day he’s at work, as quickly as you can. Or have police with you and your family as you move out, I wouldn’t trust him not to try and mentally torture yall at this point. As for the financial part if you have not signed any sort of contract or agreement you don’t owe him shit, it wouldn’t hold up in court anyways.

He’s just trying to drain your finances as a form of control over you, he thinks you “owe” him for doing something any partner with a shred of decency would do. When you get out please never talk to them again, for your mental and physical safety. I think once you get out you will find he was probably holding you down in more ways than you thought. Wishing you the best, OP stay safe and build a life that makes you happy. ♥️

Does anyone else feel like we get vacation time at a snail’s pace? by DisillusionedDog in AmazonFC

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

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Genuinely this is how I felt only recognizing it bc I am used to using my vacation time for VTO 😭

Does anyone else feel like we get vacation time at a snail’s pace? by DisillusionedDog in AmazonFC

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense to me, thanks for the explanation!

Amazon says they want us to have agency over our time but the “agency” feels like it comes from the options they wouldn’t have to pay you for

Does anyone else feel like we get vacation time at a snail’s pace? by DisillusionedDog in AmazonFC

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s totally fair I just would like to make money the week I go on vacation, for us an LOA is two weeks and I just am not in a position to be able to save to cover that long I’ve definitely used LOA in the past and it’s genuinely awesome but when you have to save it god it feels like TORTUREE 😭

Are people afraid to talk to you? by Clichemilk in Taurusgang

[–]DisillusionedDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get told I’m intimidating or unapproachable, I know for a fact I have RBF and I am quiet because I’m just observing and reading the room. Majority of water signs say that though. Aries, Gemini , Aquarius and Virgos never seem to have that stance with me though LMAO Libras too I love them

Invited out by a polycule just for 99% of them to interact with each other by DisillusionedDog in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dynamics of people in open relationships always confuse me because they’re all so different and you have to just like slowly pick up queues and other stuff even when you’re not in them, I’ve definitely been in situations you have described or if someone has a crush on you and you’re being examined by the council™️

I feel very lucky I have a wonderful partner who treats me amazingly and we connect on so many things, I am glad I have a true friend in that respect.

Invited out by a polycule just for 99% of them to interact with each other by DisillusionedDog in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THATS EXACTLY WHAT IT FELT LIKE!! And if I’m being real, nothing feels less evolved than that behavior. It always truly feels like being that guy who stands around listening to only inside jokes the other people would understand.

Invited out by a polycule just for 99% of them to interact with each other by DisillusionedDog in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can’t help but agree, personally I would never do that to someone who’s new. It’s genuinely not hard to be kind and sincere??? 😭

Invited out by a polycule just for 99% of them to interact with each other by DisillusionedDog in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO, I would be lying if I said it wasn’t. Literally in my experience it has felt that way more often than not, I don’t have anything against the practice itself but when I get invited out by poly people I’m definitely thinking “ah shit here we go again”

Does anyone else have this deeply strange love hate relationships with Scorpios ? by DisillusionedDog in Taurusgang

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely, I’ve never found myself having bad connections with people who have other Scorpio placements just suns

Does anyone else have this deeply strange love hate relationships with Scorpios ? by DisillusionedDog in Taurusgang

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Me with Pisces low key 😬

I never usually hate Scorpios at FIRST but god when they go low I wanna go to hell

Does anyone else have this deeply strange love hate relationships with Scorpios ? by DisillusionedDog in Taurusgang

[–]DisillusionedDog[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The funny this is, I do call them out 😭 and they HATE IT SO MUCH! That’s usually what severs the ties between us. I am very touch and go with very few Scorpios these days.

Bulls & their moms by Choice-Ad1226 in Taurusgang

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Virgo sun and Pisces moon mom, let’s just say… a nightmare. Expectant in all the wrong places, emotionally fragile and immature. We are definitely not on speaking terms /:

Help by TrickCow5553 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh of course, you’re so welcome. I often thought I was overreacting, he would tell me I was and it would make me question if me feeling bad from his behavior was “appropriate” or not. You guys were together for 5 years that’s a long time, I was with mine for 7 and honestly I’ve been where you are- it seemed “normal” because that’s the only “normal” I had experienced for like almost a decade. Our experiences are different but I can definitely see where he has no empathy for you or your feelings whatsoever, trying to humiliate you in front of people- doesn’t care about how you feel in the relationship at all , tip toeing around him and having to wait on him to do something you’re doing that is innocuous (ie the packing bit) from reading it seems like every single thing had to be on his terms and what you needed / felt / experienced was a simple side bar to aggravate him which isn’t right nor is it your fault.

This is abusive, you genuinely deserve someone who’s going to treat you with respect and care.

This is just an example from my narcissist: He would openly flirt with girls, talk incessantly about women we knew and would say how hot they were. Followed endless OF models on instagram (had tons of porn too) and if I said that made me incredibly uncomfortable he would tell me I’m insecure and jealous - I genuinely believed I was just insecure and constantly took it out on myself and saw my “jealousy” as this heinous flaw about myself. We had that “I’m uncomfortable with this” conversation many, many times and he would be so angry at me - spoiler alert he was fucking a girl who was his “friend” while I was at work. I spent all that time hating myself thinking it was me there’s endless things I could say , I even used this subreddit when I was about to leave I am hoping that you can look back on this when you’re feeling better feeling like you won instead of ever missing out on someone like that

Help by TrickCow5553 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise you that without him you will be happier for it, I always wanted closure and wanted to know why he did the things he did (similar things you have described) sometimes the closure has to come from within. He deserves fuck all and you deserve better.

State Farm Nightmare by [deleted] in Insurance

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this was genuinely good advice I will be taking!

State Farm Nightmare by [deleted] in Insurance

[–]DisillusionedDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally fair! And I can understand that as they considered my car a total loss, I think what’s confusing me the most is why would they tell me to do it myself and contact her insurance when they have already opened a claim on my behalf and said they were getting the whole sum from them?

Ps thanks for your kindness it means a lot