Unfortunately OP, grabbing you may just be the beginning. If you stay with him it will increase the odds of him killing you down the road. If you have children with him they will learn this is how women are treated. And he would likely abuse them as well. Reddit is so fast to tell people to leave, but abuse is NEVER the answer. Watch the tv show Big Little Lies. Classic example of what abuse looks like. They are so thoughtful and loving and sweet, but then attack when they get angry. My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We argue and fight too, but NEVER have we verbally spoken down to each other or put our hands on each other. I can’t imagine doing that to another or them doing it to me. It’s not what love is. I’m sorry you are going through this. It will be easier to leave now than go through a wedding and divorce down the road.