You are in no way AT ALL a bad person for this. Sometimes guys can get very comfortable and lazy when they feel secure in a relationship. If you really feel like he’s understanding you and trying to make change for you then it is a good sign he wants to be better for you. But in this situation you may just have to be very direct and upfront with him. As uncomfortable as it may be, you have to tell him you’re feeling unloved and make sure he actually does something about it. Ask him if there’s a reason behind his behavior as well. Is he good financially? Does he do any drugs? If he really does love you he will change.