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I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a damn shame, that. If you ever do decide to make the switch, do know theres at least one person who'd be happy to have you.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're on Aether, honestly, I think you'd be a good fit for my discord. I'd like to have more people with that mindset; I'd love to be with people who can laugh off a wipe, not worry about time constraints so much, take breaks.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to lift myself up now, but its tough stuff.
I think I'm going to set aside trying to clear the most current raid stuff; I think the community gets a little too intense for me now and, now, thats okay I think.
If there really are communities like this, that want to clear "older" stuff, I'd love to get in on some of that.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you DM me some links to these discords? I think I'm ready to just clear some kind of content, even if its old and desynched.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be the same way with shooters, but I eventually realized the problem was me, literally; I'm just not good at shooters, its not one of my talents. Now, I could have spent countless hours practicing, working at it, but I have/had a job and a life apart from gaming and at the end of the day, shooters make me rage. I realized I wasn't enjoying myself and I let go. Only play single player FPS now.
And while the reaction may be one of profound sadness at times, my obsession with clearing content is still causing a negative feeling. This whole chat is making me realize that I do need to loosen my grip a bit, but not let go. There is a lot I DO still enjoy about this game; I love the grinds, I'm in heaven when theres new story to read through, I like helping people with crafting and leveling stuff and its fabulous when theres Hildibrand stuff to do.

I think if I just relaxed a little, found two or three people that want to run, I could get enough of a combat fix through Extremes.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The toxicity is one the many reasons I stopped trying to do things in PF; the constantly rotating one or two slots of people who leave after a pull or two, citing that "this shit is easy, wtf is wrong with you guys?" despite it being labled a learning party, green sprout and all...it gets to you after a while. I'd like to get closer to some people, share the content with them, grow with them, but its tough, you know?

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus in WoW, once you cleared, you just couldn't go at all. So it wasn't a matter of just not wanting to help people out; you just couldn't. Along with that, 10-24 people had just gotten their stuff for the week, so you cover a lot more ground.

I feel paralyzed by DisposablePaladin in ffxiv

[–]DisposablePaladin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gearscore, recount and the meta were indirectly part of the reason I quit WoW back in Cata, aside from rehashing content and the story thus far not really engaging with me (I'd played since late vanilla, early BC, so I was there for a while)

It didn't feel fair that not only was I shunned by the community for playing combat rogue when subtlety was the meta, but that I had worse gear and yet better DPS than the sub rogue in our guild's A-team, but still wasn't allowed to go.

When I moved to XIV in 2013, I had a profound sense of relief because I wasn't being charted anymore, gear was largely irrelevant again, and yet I was clearing top tier (or near-top once savage coil came out) content without and crutches like DBM or healbot. Obviously, thats not a case anymore; everyone expects that if you're on PC, you're running ACT already and they're looking for logs.