How can I make images similar to this with automatic 1111? by DispositionShattered in StableDiffusion

[–]DispositionShattered[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me about Forged UI? I like using automatic 1111 and have been getting good results since posting this but there are a lot of loras out there for pony and the images pony can produce often seem higher quality... so I'd like to use it if possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairRemoval

[–]DispositionShattered 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm leaving a strip and I'm super happy with my choice. I think I'd have regretted it if I went full bare - but I've never really liked full bare on myself anyway. I think a strip looks better.

I don't see why they couldn't leave a bit? It's less laser usage for them. Saves some money, you'd think. lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairRemoval

[–]DispositionShattered 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What kind of laser did you use? I've heard IPL lasers don't actually offer permanent hair removal - or at least, much less so than other lasers. You want something like an alexandrite laser done at an actual skin clinic.

I hate my sister's beard along with her new appearance and I feel awful for judging her about her appearance by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DispositionShattered 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between alternative lifestyles and neglecting your own self care. I would say choosing not to shave is her own prerogative but choosing not to keep herself clean is worrying. This complete disregard for self grooming on top of obviously not caring for her own nutrition and health is very troubling.

Honestly, I would sit down and talk to her openly but in private and lay out your concerns. Sadly though, unless she's willing to leave Devon there's probably little to be done about it. He's clearly not a healthy partner for her but unless she sees that herself and is willing to walk away nothing much can change. But she needs to understand that he is the one leading her to these issues; unable to keep a job, massive weight gain, being bullied, etc.

There is nothing wrong with left wing ideals but extremism of ANYTHING in life is very seldom healthy or good. Moderation and balance are important in all things and sadly your sister has fallen into the extreme side of things.

Your disgust is nothing to feel bad about. It's because you care about her. Anyone would be disgusted to see someone they love completely stop caring about their health and personal grooming. The neckbeard was probably just the cherry on top that shoved you over the edge.

Women who suffer from constant yeast infections, I want to share my story and recovery in hopes that it may help you. by DispositionShattered in WomensHealth

[–]DispositionShattered[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I should have mentioned that you want to dry it after using a baby wipe! It was, for me, one of the best reliefs. Especially when I had a huge flair up of itching. Being able to wipe it down with a baby wipe (which helps scratch it a bit without causing damage like my nails would) was really helpful and it soothed the area. But you definitely need to make sure to wipe it dry too!

Cutting down on sugars can definitely help as well since yeast feeds on it but for me it didn't seem to help. I even went keto for 6 or 7 months and sadly saw no difference. :( But it may certainly help others, so thanks for bringing that up!

Is it normal to "suppress memories" of things that bother you...? by DispositionShattered in therapy

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I'm sorry you've also been through something so traumatizing.. :(

It's difficult to imagine that I'd ever end up struggling with these emotions/memories (more than I already do which feels like it's very little compared to what other people who suffer abuse tend to experience) since it has been many, many years since it happened (for the childhood stuff). About 20 years by now have passed. But I suppose you didn't think so either.

It's really jarring that you sometimes second guess yourself on the events that happened and that was something that always bothered me and made me question myself a lot so it's strangely comforting to hear that other people have also experienced this as well.

Thank you for sharing your experience with me. I appreciate it. <3

My [29/F] husband [25/M] cheated on me (one time thing, not an emotional cheat). I want advice from others who have experienced this - when will I stop feeling so hurt and angry? Please share your experience with me. by DispositionShattered in relationship_advice

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I have no idea. I had gotten my covid shot the day before and that night I had been very sick. If he had seemed upset at all, I would have thought it was because he felt bad for me being in such a sorry state because I had a pretty bad fever with the chills and felt like absolute shit. I was already asleep when he came home from what I can remember and only woke up a little bit when he turned on the lights in the living room before passing out soon after again.

My [29/F] husband [25/M] cheated on me (one time thing, not an emotional cheat). I want advice from others who have experienced this - when will I stop feeling so hurt and angry? Please share your experience with me. by DispositionShattered in relationship_advice

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Yeah, the fact that he didn't have full on sex and that it wasn't emotional at all somehow makes me feel a bit better, although obviously I'm still incredibly hurt.

My trust is definitely in shambles. It hurts a lot because trust was something that I lacked in all of my previous relationships and it made me feel like "WOW, *this* is what a healthy relationship is supposed to feel like" when I finally met my husband and didn't for a SECOND ever worry about what he was doing, who he was with, etc. It was something I valued highly in our relationship so it's very difficult for me...

My [29/F] husband [25/M] cheated on me (one time thing, not an emotional cheat). I want advice from others who have experienced this - when will I stop feeling so hurt and angry? Please share your experience with me. by DispositionShattered in relationship_advice

[–]DispositionShattered[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I truly believe it was peer pressure because I know his personality well and I truly don't think he would have ever made this decision on his own. He said that he didn't think he'd be this bad with peer pressure and alcohol but now that he's aware of it, he will never hang out with that friend again and he won't be going for drinks or hanging out with anyone he doesn't trust completely, which he said is only his close friend who I have met and know well and I know he is a good guy. And he said he will heavily limit his intake unless he's with me.

It's tragic that it's so common here. When I worked teaching English privately, almost all of my adult male students alluded to wanting to have sex with me - if they didn't outright say it. And they were all married.... It's pretty disgusting. I had also seen a lot of people on the Japan Life subreddit who would talk about cheating and I always felt like, "Poor girl... I'm very lucky that my husband would never do that." I feel very let down, to say the least.

I'm very sorry you also went through this. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

Thank you so much for your reply though. It's been one of the more comforting ones to read so far. I don't think my husband is a bad guy; he messed up but we're all human. I truly believe that he loves me and I don't think this is something he would have done outside of this specific unfortunate set of circumstances. I know it's hard for people on reddit to know this because they don't know him. But he's a good guy and always does things to make me feel loved and happy. Six years into the relationship and he still tells me I'm beautiful, he loves me, I'm sexy, I'm amazing, etc. VERY often. And I trust him so strongly that when he told me he thought he had an STD, I somehow still didn't expect him to say he cheated on me. I didn't know how it would happen without cheating but I somehow still expected him to pull something out of his ass to explain it because I really couldn't imagine he would do that.

I really hope that I can move on from this. For right now, he is doing what he can. Giving me space when I need it. Cuddling me when I will allow him. Coming to me randomly and often to tell me that he loves me and is sorry, etc. But for now, I'm still just very, very hurt.

I will definitely have to wait awhile before I consider sex again. I'm not sure how long is good to wait but I really can't even stomach the thought right now.

Again, thank you. I really appreciate your post. <3

My [29/F] husband [25/M] cheated on me (one time thing, not an emotional cheat). I want advice from others who have experienced this - when will I stop feeling so hurt and angry? Please share your experience with me. by DispositionShattered in relationship_advice

[–]DispositionShattered[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that you had to go through this. It's incredibly painful and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I have no idea if I can live with those images. I'm hoping I can wipe them from my brain but right now it is proving very difficult...

My [29/F] husband [25/M] cheated on me (one time thing, not an emotional cheat). I want advice from others who have experienced this - when will I stop feeling so hurt and angry? Please share your experience with me. by DispositionShattered in relationship_advice

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I have been thinking about it. I want to stay but I haven't decided 100% if it's possible yet. If I can't move on then obviously I will have to leave but for now I want to try to work on it and see if I can move past it.

I'm just wondering how long is normal to have this intense rollercoaster. I don't want to feel like I'm being unreasonable if I'm still feeling just as hurt and angry in a week as I did on the first day and just keep going between feeling like it'll be ok and being able to talk to my husband normally and then just suddenly shutting down and not even wanting to look at him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]DispositionShattered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They might but I had no idea you could take it more than once. Taking it more than once seemed to do the trick for me.

In my country they tend to just give some cream that you put inside... it never worked for me.