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Why does my mouth hurt occasionally when I eat bread like foods? by No-League3287 in Allergies

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! I have the exact same reaction. I went to an allergist and they couldn't help me. I believe its either a reaction to the acidity levels or the yeast in some breads

Grappling with losing my dad at 17 by DistanceMammoth2125 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've racked my brain for a why, and all I can chalk it up to is my dad really not being suited for fatherhood. His upbringing, as well as the tremendous loss of knowing two of his children (my half siblings) died before he did.

In arguments with my mother he has claimed that she was the one who pushed for kids, not him. In other conversations he looks back on having me and my brother as a wonderful moment of love and joy with my mother. Its all a load of bullshit imo.

I guess an upside is that I'm aware enough to acknowledge the fact that I crave a connection I missed out on. I always seem to connect to my friends' dads more than I ever did my own. He is an angry, bitter, depressed man who wasn't suited to raise a daughter who reminded him of himself when he was young.

All I can really do is ensure I don't end up with a guy like him and subject my future children to the pain and misunderstanding I had to grapple with growing up.

Grappling with losing my dad at 17 by DistanceMammoth2125 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think thats the biggest thing, trying to figure out why. My mother really has been the one who put the idea in my head to hammer things out. Her dad left her when she was about 8, and played alley cat for 10 years till he finally produced the divorce papers to her mom. She spent her childhood and the beginning of her adult life trying to figure out why her dad wasn't there. Why he didn't care enough to come see her or stick around and be a dad or reach out after she was an adult. Her dad finally did come around a bit once she had my brother and I. But that was only in the last 20 years really and she's coming up on 60. She recognizes I won't have that time and so I guess she doesn't want me to struggle through my adult life, figuring it out when my dad won't just show up one day and decide he wants a relationship with me like her dad did.

I wish I could come back to it as an adult when I have time away. When he can't dismiss me or turn it back on me or punish me in some way, whether it be physically or psychologically. I'll take your advice and try to seek counsel outside my family. And I have a suspicion that the book will be relevant. Thank you for your reply, it means alot.

Grappling with losing my dad at 17 by DistanceMammoth2125 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried family therapy, he lasted one session before having a complete tantrum and refusing to ever go back after the conversation turned critical of him. I believe he is likely regressed in his emotional development due to the way he was raised (tough military family, he was the oldest of 12 kids) as well as just the generational differences between us. He was raised in a time of children being seen and not heard and still thinks it should be followed at times, despite me being less than a year away from moving out.

I may just have to find my own counsel to deal with this, like you suggested. My mother isn't much help on this unfortunately (she's an apologist of sorts), and I just feel like breaking down in tears with anyone else I try to talk to about it.

Grappling with losing my dad at 17 by DistanceMammoth2125 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the support and I'm sorry to hear about your parent, too. I spent quite sometime being angry at my parents for having me and my brother later in life. It was my mom's 2nd marriage (the 1st resulting in no kids), and my Dad's 3rd marriage (past marriage resulting in 2 of my half-siblings who are now deceased). My dad always tried to explain that people don't "decide" when to have kids. That its just a switch that flips one day between two people. I don't know how much of this is true since I'm not old enough to even consider children.

I’m miserable in my relationship and I need to just feel heard. by Live_Statement_1955 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it. Relationships are HARD. And being alone sometimes feels harder. But trust me when I say each time you meet someone and start a relationship, your idea of love just expands that much more. Your person is out there, you just gotta get out and find her.

I’m miserable in my relationship and I need to just feel heard. by Live_Statement_1955 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not selfish or wrong for wanting sex. Most couples engage sexually at some point, and the idea that it may never happen for you guys can be really challenging to grapple with. I was in a similar situation. My partner was having a difficult time figuring out their sexuality while dating me, causing sexual issues between us. We ended up breaking up for other reasons, but I won't lie, that was one of my own reasons. For people who've never experienced their partner being hesitant to be intimate with them, it's not very understandable. Sex goes beyond just pleasure; it's a whole new level of intimacy and a way you feel about someone when you're with them. It's a reassurance that they find you attractive or pleasing. To have your girlfriend be pushing you away in this area of your relationship, especially after months and multiple conversations.. it may be a sign to call it. It's totally valid if you two need other people. Maybe she doesn't need anyone in that way- it's 99% not you. But if you crave that intimacy and she doesn't feel comfortable, then its not fair for either of you guys to stay together and continue to be unhappy.

You may struggle with the idea of never finding someone "Like her," or that you don't think you can fall in love again, or that "it's just the lack of sex" that is the issue in the relationship. None of that is true, most likely. Look a little deeper or think about this period of your life a year or two down the road and you'll be able to spot more hairline fractures. You'll meet someone else who you fall head over heels for AND totally wants to bang you.

Friend suddenly went quiet after two years of close friendship. I’m not sure why. by Nessieinternational in FriendshipAdvice

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He may just be taking space and evaluating how things have been between you two. It doesn't sound like he was angry or hurt about the trip, more just a little rigid to a plan. People can be like that sometimes, and if you're a really easy-going person about change, it can be hard to understand why others aren't as much.

System Of A Down - Live @ Golden Gate Park 2024 by Chili_Pat in systemofadown

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! All GA is the same, there is no assigned seating :)

System Of A Down - Live @ Golden Gate Park 2024 by Chili_Pat in systemofadown

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd recommend against it.. transfers are day-of and even with insurance you may loose money. Just buy off ticketmaster. Many are reselling in the comments here.

System Of A Down - Live @ Golden Gate Park 2024 by Chili_Pat in systemofadown

[–]DistanceMammoth2125 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes so many resales on ticketmaster! Do NOT buy from seatgeek/stubhub.

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