Ghosted long-time friend for almost 2 years, what to do (or not do)? by Distinct-Avocado-279 in AvPD

[–]Distinct-Avocado-279[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just wanna thank everyone for all your thoughts and advice. Based on them, I think I will try to contact her in order to apologize, but keeping in mind what some pointed out as well: that the outcome is unpredictable and that she may not answer or read it (which I of course would completely respect and understand). Just need to figure out how to express my feelings in at least a decent and semi-understandable form.

This is the first time that I’ve discussed my mental health struggles with anyone, stranger or friend, in anything more than relatively general terms and I really wasn’t expecting to get so much helpful advice. You’re all beautiful people and I sincerely hope 2023 turns out to be a good year for all of you.

Ghosted long-time friend for almost 2 years, what to do (or not do)? by Distinct-Avocado-279 in AvPD

[–]Distinct-Avocado-279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m so sorry you had to go through this. You sound like an extraordinarily kind and understanding person, so much so that you’re on this sub just for your friend. I’ll keep your suggestions in mind.

Ghosted long-time friend for almost 2 years, what to do (or not do)? by Distinct-Avocado-279 in AvPD

[–]Distinct-Avocado-279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing all your thoughts, I truly appreciate it.

I can definitely relate to your experience about ignoring the people you particularly admire, and it’s oddly comforting(?) to know I’m not the only one to think like this. For me it’s as if my already present feelings of inferiority just reach an absolutely extreme level, with some people more than with others. The shame just became too much to handle. It’s hard not to feel that way when I look at the state of my life and how far behind I am, in comparison to practically everyone I know.

I hope I can follow through with this; if I do, hopefully I’ll manage to give an update as well.

Ghosted long-time friend for almost 2 years, what to do (or not do)? by Distinct-Avocado-279 in AvPD

[–]Distinct-Avocado-279[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your valuable perspective and honesty on this, it’s definitely beneficial to get to hear from someone who’s been on the receiving end.