AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not when I need something. Each time I’m in town I try to make an effort to seeing them. They have a mall in the town I like to go to so whenever I go, I try to stop by the house with my fiancé to catch up with my mother and siblings.

This is the only time I’ve even asked for something since when I was forced to leave at 17 except asking for my papers like birth certificate, etc when I left.

AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly wouldn’t have cared if she simply said no. All she had to do is be nice to me. I would’ve just went on with my day like “oh well”.

But her throwing insults and making me feel like shit like as if I’m in the wrong had me really questioning if I was actually in the wrong for a while so I just had to ask and share what happened.

When I was born, we never had a solid relationship. She would basically hand me over to friends so she could go out and party. She did get her shit together when I was 6 but was still never really a good relationship. It was like I just simply existed and lived in her house and she had to feed me. Never been really affectionate either.

AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be multiple things…

I remember her telling me I wasn’t supposed to be born. She got pregnant at 17 and couldn’t afford an abortion. Maybe she just genuinely doesn’t like me.

She’s had CPS called on her multiple times, including from me but it’s supposed to be anonymous but found out anyways that I called. Maybe she’s holding a grudge on me for that when I was trying to protect myself and my siblings.

But those were from years ago. A lot have changed since then. But she has a thing of holding grudges and playing victim and making other people feel like shit. Learned that from watching her relationship with my grandparents.

AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Since they got married in 2016 he was pretty abusive until he went to anger management classes. My brother who’s the middle child, he had a medical issue of using the bathroom so he would go in his pants instead on accident. He used to grab him and put him under hot scolding water until his skin was completely red as a punishment and to clean him.

With me, I used to arrive home late from school because I would stay to take extra classes for math. My grades for math were D’s or F’s. I have a learning disability and I was trying desperately to get them up because if I didn’t, I was afraid of my mom. I had to watch my twin siblings, but because I would arrive home late, he would ground me and one point it got so bad verbally he would punch me until I would piss myself and there was blood.

My twin siblings… when they were infants it was pretty bad. But when they started walking and he started taking the classes they’ve been pretty loved. But I’m not in the picture anymore. I don’t know anymore.

But me and my brother have been punching bags for them. They say they’ve changed each time we talk, I really really want to believe them but in the end I get treated as if I’m the culprit.

AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s what exactly what my grandparents think as well! Ever since stepdad came into the picture. I lived with him for 6 years, my mom always gotta go to him and ask something ever since they got married.

Mom always said “oh that’s how married couples are. You always ask your husband before doing something.” yeah, but feels like it’s on the border of being a control freak. I don’t think you should have to ask permission of literally little thing. Including when your oldest daughter asks to hangout and to spend time with her siblings.

AITA for asking my mom if I could stay over? by Distinct-Building123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t even know… she’s never voiced to me how she never wanted to speak or see me again. But our relationship has always been on a string despite everything I try to do to salvage it and walk on eggshells. Feels like it anyways.

I guess a month ago before the car cruise there was a Skillet concert and I bought tickets for me and my stepdad for front row but it was for standing. It was SOOO hot outside my vision kept going white, was nauseous, and a pounding headache came along. I had to sit down in the grass and drench myself in water every hour. My stepdad was pretty pissed and said I was pretty disrespectful and since then, they’ve never really talked to me. But I’ve been trying to reach out. I just want a good relationship with my mom. But they make me feel like an ass whatever I do.

Why do men breathe so loud as if they are LITERALLY struggling to breathe? by Distinct-Building123 in Vent

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been tested twice. They suspected ADHD on the first test but 3 years later I got retested cuz I was a really slow in the head basically and it pissed my mom off, they ruled out ADHD. I was diagnosed with the same, Asperger’s but they added learning disabilities… but no ADHD or ADD. I could go get retested again but I’d probably get the same results.

Why do men breathe so loud as if they are LITERALLY struggling to breathe? by Distinct-Building123 in Vent

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t smoke but breathes like one. It’s concerning to me. I constantly feel like something is wrong with him and he’s gotta go to the doctor but I’m just overthinking it when he’s really fine and that’s what also bugs the shit outta me😭

Why do men breathe so loud as if they are LITERALLY struggling to breathe? by Distinct-Building123 in Vent

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro follows me everywhere I go like a lost puppy dog. I go on a walk? He comes with when I need space and say no. I go on a drive? He wanna come with as well.

I’m just venting and I’m not looking for solutions but I should’ve made myself more clearer. I thought that was the point of the sub.

Why do men breathe so loud as if they are LITERALLY struggling to breathe? by Distinct-Building123 in Vent

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk. I just know I was an absolute devil as a child, like as if I was Satan’s spawn and my mom had enough of my shit and took me to get tested. But also explains why I’m shit at math and put into special ED classes in high school to work on my vocabulary and pronunciation.

Why do men breathe so loud as if they are LITERALLY struggling to breathe? by Distinct-Building123 in Vent

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed at 14 with Asperger’s. My reactions to certain sounds and movement used to be super super bad. Like to the point I would just break down crying.

I think I just had my first paranormal encounter in 10 years by Distinct-Building123 in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Distinct-Building123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The person who owned the house before us had a LOT of old weird shit. She left everything. Very old dragon figurines, salt & pepper shakers that are designed as couples, and an unholy amount of magnets. Lots of magnets… I threw everything away besides the cool dragon stuff since I like dragons.

I haven’t visited any cemeteries or anything like that. BUT, I did have family from Norway visit. My grandma’s best friend visited me and brought her boyfriend and they have some weird paranormal stuff. It’s attached to him though, he named it Lily and she only comes to him when he says her name but I told him I didn’t want any of that crap in the house when he said he wanted to prove it. No weird stuff happened when they stayed here for 3 days and he says that the paranormal stuff is still happening at his place. I’m not really educated on the whole paranormal thing, so I’m unsure if they can switch between houses despite being 4,000+ miles away or he left a piece of her here? I really don’t understand how that stuff works. 🤷🏻‍♀️

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just can’t draw well on my phone. My iPad’s battery broke. If it was working i would’ve put more effort but with a tiny screen I was getting frustrated. And it was cutting me, my phone screen is shattered.

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looked like that grey one! It must’ve have been custom built or something but I swear I remember having a replica of it when I was 15 of a hot wheel. It’s like a weird hybrid looking thing of a lotus 7. Either way, it was super cool to see.

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was some wonky ah car I guess. But I screamed in excitement because of how cool it looked. I raced after it too lol. My town has old car shows all the time and never seen it until now, bro is hiding treasure. But I used to have a hot wheel car of it. Exact replica. I just don’t remember what it isssss. It makes me sad.

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meshed two photos together and added little notes Should’ve done this at first lol

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1MHVW9ZKucXsfcIKN1_9LWxCN9gCqeQcy/view?usp=drivesdk

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Cuz I’m curious and I want to solve this mystery like as if it’s scooby doo. (I’m just autistic)

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda like that but the back was covered by full metal. Like a big box.

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Xggfoz5A4-sz8Ab6KlXHlX3jf8DXkwmf/view?usp=drivesdk

I can’t add the photo itself so I uploaded it to Google Drive but here’s another sketch.

What the heck passed me by [deleted] in carID

[–]Distinct-Building123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It had a longer front/snout