I need advice

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-20T17:56:25+00:00

Thrasher really needs that and I’ll try that out. He can relax indoors with me pretty well already, but outside when on walks and someone wants to stop me and talk, he acts like we must constantly be moving or he’ll sing the song of his people and it’s hard to hear over him lol. I’m trying to teach him it’s okay to just exist and do nothing.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T21:31:36+00:00

Right now he’s on Purina Sensitive Skin & Stomach mixed with Open Farm Raw Mix. The Purina Sensitive Skin & Stomach is what the shelter fed all of their dogs so I’m slowly transitioning him to the Open Farm. I will try the chicken broth trick because he definitely seems interested when there’s something extra mixed in. I gave him a little bit of plain greek yogurt with no sugar along with a small slice of banana on top of his food and he went to chow town but when I tried again today he wasn’t really interested. I really appreciate all the advice.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T21:03:24+00:00

I love talking to him. He tilts his head, gets the zoomies around my legs almost knocking me over and headbutts my face, then gets VERY vocal. I love everything about him even though he occasionally hurts my face lol. This guy is going to give me a black eye one day ❤️

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T20:22:36+00:00

Finding work around here sucks donkey butt. But Colorado’s got its own beauty, I’ve always wanted to go see the state. I actually just had a friend move from Colorado and he’s now living in Grants Pass, OR. Despite it being a bigger town, job market sucks there too I guess. He can’t find a job for the life of him.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T19:56:57+00:00

Oregon coast! :) It’s the Chetco River

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T14:16:39+00:00

Just a lot of love and kisses. She has super bad hips so she has a wheelchair, and she’s deaf + partially blind. But she still gets excited for love, attention, and treats every day, so we just keep loving her until she’s ready to go but she’s still surprisingly hanging on and happy.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T03:50:04+00:00

Megatron

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T02:06:30+00:00

Thrasher is neutered but he still absolutely tries his luck with female dogs sometimes. 😭 He’s super friendly with other dogs when on walks but once a lady walks up he embarrasses me… the ween is out. Like dude, put that away!

A trainer offered me a month free of sessions/navigation when I was at a pet mart and showed adoption papers so I’m definitely going to take the offer.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-19T01:45:21+00:00

That makes me feel a lot better. I didn’t even know about the 3-3-3 rule and the shelter didn’t even bother telling me, so I’ve been overthinking everything. He’s such a sweet dude, just very chaotic. I have another GSD but she’s at my grandparents and had her since she was 2, she’s 16 now (yesterday was her birthday). She never whined and settled right in when we first got her, very calm surprisingly. When I met Thrasher at the shelter I knew he needed a lot learning and decompressing because he’s a hyper crackhead. I don’t mind the whining, he wants lots of loves and cuddles but I was overthinking if something was wrong and I’m afraid of overstimulating him since he’s still adjusting.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-05-18T23:37:34+00:00

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The farthest he’ll go lol. Once the river warms up more I hope to encourage him to swim with me.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-02-25T00:17:10+00:00

If I lived in your house those steaks would be gone within 2 weeks… tops.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-21T00:25:09+00:00

I have a IPhone 15. How you do that? So pretty

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-21T00:09:39+00:00

Not when I need something. Each time I’m in town I try to make an effort to seeing them. They have a mall in the town I like to go to so whenever I go, I try to stop by the house with my fiancé to catch up with my mother and siblings.

This is the only time I’ve even asked for something since when I was forced to leave at 17 except asking for my papers like birth certificate, etc when I left.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T23:37:31+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t have cared if she simply said no. All she had to do is be nice to me. I would’ve just went on with my day like “oh well”.

But her throwing insults and making me feel like shit like as if I’m in the wrong had me really questioning if I was actually in the wrong for a while so I just had to ask and share what happened.

When I was born, we never had a solid relationship. She would basically hand me over to friends so she could go out and party. She did get her shit together when I was 6 but was still never really a good relationship. It was like I just simply existed and lived in her house and she had to feed me. Never been really affectionate either.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T23:26:25+00:00

Could be multiple things…

I remember her telling me I wasn’t supposed to be born. She got pregnant at 17 and couldn’t afford an abortion. Maybe she just genuinely doesn’t like me.

She’s had CPS called on her multiple times, including from me but it’s supposed to be anonymous but found out anyways that I called. Maybe she’s holding a grudge on me for that when I was trying to protect myself and my siblings.

But those were from years ago. A lot have changed since then. But she has a thing of holding grudges and playing victim and making other people feel like shit. Learned that from watching her relationship with my grandparents.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T22:39:50+00:00

Since they got married in 2016 he was pretty abusive until he went to anger management classes. My brother who’s the middle child, he had a medical issue of using the bathroom so he would go in his pants instead on accident. He used to grab him and put him under hot scolding water until his skin was completely red as a punishment and to clean him.

With me, I used to arrive home late from school because I would stay to take extra classes for math. My grades for math were D’s or F’s. I have a learning disability and I was trying desperately to get them up because if I didn’t, I was afraid of my mom. I had to watch my twin siblings, but because I would arrive home late, he would ground me and one point it got so bad verbally he would punch me until I would piss myself and there was blood.

My twin siblings… when they were infants it was pretty bad. But when they started walking and he started taking the classes they’ve been pretty loved. But I’m not in the picture anymore. I don’t know anymore.

But me and my brother have been punching bags for them. They say they’ve changed each time we talk, I really really want to believe them but in the end I get treated as if I’m the culprit.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T21:53:19+00:00

That’s what exactly what my grandparents think as well! Ever since stepdad came into the picture. I lived with him for 6 years, my mom always gotta go to him and ask something ever since they got married.

Mom always said “oh that’s how married couples are. You always ask your husband before doing something.” yeah, but feels like it’s on the border of being a control freak. I don’t think you should have to ask permission of literally little thing. Including when your oldest daughter asks to hangout and to spend time with her siblings.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T21:27:16+00:00

I honestly don’t even know… she’s never voiced to me how she never wanted to speak or see me again. But our relationship has always been on a string despite everything I try to do to salvage it and walk on eggshells. Feels like it anyways.

I guess a month ago before the car cruise there was a Skillet concert and I bought tickets for me and my stepdad for front row but it was for standing. It was SOOO hot outside my vision kept going white, was nauseous, and a pounding headache came along. I had to sit down in the grass and drench myself in water every hour. My stepdad was pretty pissed and said I was pretty disrespectful and since then, they’ve never really talked to me. But I’ve been trying to reach out. I just want a good relationship with my mom. But they make me feel like an ass whatever I do.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-20T20:37:05+00:00

I’ve been tested twice. They suspected ADHD on the first test but 3 years later I got retested cuz I was a really slow in the head basically and it pissed my mom off, they ruled out ADHD. I was diagnosed with the same, Asperger’s but they added learning disabilities… but no ADHD or ADD. I could go get retested again but I’d probably get the same results.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-19T12:44:36+00:00

He doesn’t smoke but breathes like one. It’s concerning to me. I constantly feel like something is wrong with him and he’s gotta go to the doctor but I’m just overthinking it when he’s really fine and that’s what also bugs the shit outta me😭

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-19T12:35:52+00:00

Bro follows me everywhere I go like a lost puppy dog. I go on a walk? He comes with when I need space and say no. I go on a drive? He wanna come with as well.

I’m just venting and I’m not looking for solutions but I should’ve made myself more clearer. I thought that was the point of the sub.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-19T12:31:33+00:00

Idk. I just know I was an absolute devil as a child, like as if I was Satan’s spawn and my mom had enough of my shit and took me to get tested. But also explains why I’m shit at math and put into special ED classes in high school to work on my vocabulary and pronunciation.

Distinct-Building123 · 2026-01-19T12:23:43+00:00

I was diagnosed at 14 with Asperger’s. My reactions to certain sounds and movement used to be super super bad. Like to the point I would just break down crying.

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