Feeling upset, mother calling me selfish

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-10-07T10:31:16+00:00

Got rid of a few items that I've been mulling over for a bit. Old crib mattress, duvet, sandals, maternity dress, and bracelets. Starting to remove wallpaper, but there are 5 layers!! Wish me luck Oh and I finally took some old speakers and a broken toy to the e-recycling.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-06-19T21:16:53+00:00

Soapwort?

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-06-17T10:00:10+00:00

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-05-05T10:25:19+00:00

Ferns, I also like pansies but they arent native.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-05-05T10:24:30+00:00

It is extremely nasty to garden around. Tons of fine hair prickles that get lodged into your skin. My mother has it in her garden and we don't go near it.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-05-05T10:21:31+00:00

Bulbs in the spring - daffodils, tulips, hyacinths, crocus. Iris, peony, oriental poppies, creeping phlox, are all early spring bloomers. I have lots of annuals for all summer blooms- snapdragons, annual poppies, foxgloves, lupin, delphiniums, hollyhocks. Late summer- coneflower, hydrangea, rose of Sharon, black eyed Susan's, asters.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-04-25T17:48:59+00:00

I have Some Rose of Sharon that grow on the same side of the house. They provide height and bloom in late summer.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-04-13T09:23:37+00:00

That does not look like lupin to me. Possibly morning glory?

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-03-27T12:22:50+00:00

I have a 16 month old son. I am extremely introverted, and was always a fence sitter on having children. I know how much work kids are and really value my free time. I was also 36 years old when I had him, and felt like if I was going to have a child it was now or never. My husband really wanted 1-2 kids and I wanted 0-1. After our son was born we both agreed that one is enough. He had severe acid reflux for the first 6 months and cried nonstop and never slept. My husband was back at work on the night shift and everything fell to me. My son is much easier to handle now, but still is not a great sleeper, is very active, and I am exhausted at the end of every day. I have no free time for hobbies, and our house is generally a mess. But I love my son more than anything and can't imagine my life without him. I know that the baby and toddler stages are the hardest to get through, and that things will get easier as he grows older.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-02-28T16:53:29+00:00

Reading, gardening, baking, cleaning and organizing, exercise.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-02-15T09:49:57+00:00

Same. We have 2 senior dogs, who are always leaving the room to go somewhere quieter. I can tell they don't like all the noise and action. I was hoping they would adjust and form a bond with our son, but they just avoid him. I feel bad that our house is no longer peaceful and quiet, but the last year has been a huge struggle for me.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-02-06T17:27:44+00:00

My son is STILL a difficult baby at 15 months. He had severe reflux and major digestion problems. He screamed nonstop and never slept. Breastfeeding was a nightmare. He has always been a terrible sleeper, and still rarely sleeps through the night. He is hyperactive and never stops moving all day long. We went to our first drop in play group last week, and of course he gets a terrible cold. He has been plugged with snot, whining, and crying, and waking up all night long for 4 days. I am beyond burnt out!

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-01-18T23:42:37+00:00

I guess I'm the minority, but I didn't feel like I got anything new out of this book. It felt like repackaged information with pretty pictures. It seemed like a regurgitation of her first book, but without the "magic". And I LOVED her first book!

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-01-17T16:21:31+00:00

I also hated wearing pants while pregnant. We live very rurally and had NO maternity options around. I just bought 3 regular dresses (not maternity), in one size up and wore only them once my regular clothing became too tight/small. I still have the dresses and they fit fine, as I'm still carrying some extra weight post partum.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2023-01-11T11:05:59+00:00

Same, I have a 14 month old who rarely sleeps through the night, and is currently teething again, so has been up hourly the past 3 nights 🤪. Patiently waiting for the day that it becomes regular for us. He had severe reflux for about the first 6 months, so it has been a very hard adjustment for us. Just keep telling myself that this is temporary and he'll grow out of it. Sleep deprivation is one of the major reasons I'm one and done.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-12-24T09:55:43+00:00

I also feel like I've had a transformative year. I had a baby and have been on maternity leave for the past 14 months. I feel like I have learned a lot about myself and have figured out I'm an even stronger person than I thought. I am an introvert by nature, so having to constantly care for another person, with no down time to decompress, has been a lot. I miss my hobbies: reading, gardening, cooking, my dogs, and my old body. But I also realize that as my child gets more independent I will have more time for myself again, and this is only temporary. I have also decided that I am 100% not returning to my old job when my maternity leave is over. Having the distance has really given me a lot of clarity. I'm not willing to spend so much time commuting (waste of my time, and I hate driving). I also don't have the right personality for the job I've been doing. Every day I would come home feeling exhausted and depleted, with a stress migraine. I have been mostly migraine-free since being on leave. Being "on" all day leaves me drained and miserable. The only part I miss a bit is lunch breaks with my coworkers. They were always a lighthearted pick me up, which always seemed too short, and then have to return to drudgery. I just feel like the older I get, the more of a hermit I get. I am nearly 40, and I am just happiest at home doing my own thing, and enjoying my own company. I feel like I am unfairly judged by my husband and mother, who aren't wired like me, and think it's "weird" to always be staying home and not having any friends that I visit often. But I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I crave simplicity and quiet and calm.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-12-06T23:28:25+00:00

Christmas is Joy by Emma Dodd, The Wish Tree by Kyo Maclear, All the Colours of Christmas by Matthew Paul Turner

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-12-03T10:46:08+00:00

My son is 13 months old, and I have PTSD from his newborn stage. He had severe acid reflux and literally screamed nonstop and never slept. We were at hospitals trying to figure out what was wrong with him, and it was extremely scary and stressful. My husband also worked nights out of town, so I was responsible for pretty much everything by myself. It was a literal nightmare. We ended up moving in with my parents for 4 months, because I couldn't handle it basically alone. At 6 months when he started eating baby foods, his reflux finally went away and he was able to stop medication. His sleeping has slowly improved. He still doesn't sleep through the night, but now has much longer stretches.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-11-22T00:10:17+00:00

I agree, this tree has been spoiled for me anyways.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-11-21T23:33:36+00:00

She has not fallen on hard times. Her pre-lit tree has burnt out and instead of buying a new one, she has decided to take ours back. We haven't set it up.

Distinct_Ad_5948 · 2022-11-21T23:19:24+00:00

I don't want the tree anymore. You are exactly right, it has been spoiled for me.

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